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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.

I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.

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do u think a guy with a 3 in dick could get a hot girlfriend

With a shallow personality, no.

I took the morning after pill or emergency pill or whatever you call it like two weeks ago after my boyfriend had sex with me and we didn't use a condom. I think I took it like twice before that time though but it's been weeks ago so I don't remember. We had sex again last night and didn't use a condom and I want to take the morning after pill again. I was talking to my best friend on the phone and she said she heard taking it too much can be harmful or whatever. We got in this BIG argument and I kept telling her that if it was dangerous or whatever then they wouldn't sell it to me because they would get sued or whatever.

Anyways, I just want to know how many times they will sell it to you? I don't want to go and get embarrassed if they say NO or something stupid. I mean, I don't want to get pregnant so I'm being responsible here by buying it so I don't know why they might deny me it but I just want to make sure.

Thanks.

They will sell it to you as many times as you ask for it. It's not embarassing for them because that's how they make money.

The more times you take it, the LESS affective the pill is. You took it way too many times, and it's only been a few weeks apart.

You're not being responsible by taking the pill every time you have sex. You're actually increasing your risk of getting pregnant because your body will be immune to the pill, and simply won't work anymore.

Condoms are much cheaper than paying $40 dollars for one pill.

But like I said, the more you take the pill, the less affective it is. You're friend is right and you shouldn't of yelled at her.

Good luck!

my bf touches bites on and kisses my ears..and i reallllllly like it. normal or weird? anyone else have like it too?

It's not weird lol. Completely normal and it's one of those spots women love to be kissed on, the ear.. neck. Most people are like that :)

i want to no if i should get a job at the age of 14?? because im tierd of being broke and all my freinds have money and like i never do.....

Most places don't hire anyone under the age of 16, and usually people can get a job at the age of 15 with a workers permit which you can usually get from your high school.

I think you're too young to have a job, it's not easy and it's tough, but possible, to balance school and a job.

I'm sure your friends have many because of allowance or from their parents. Talk to your parents or guardian about having an allowance, or getting paid for doing chores around the house. At 14, you don't need a lot of spending money, so you can even start saving.

Also, you can find a job by walking neighbors dogs, car washes, babysitting, etc. Things that you can manage for now. You'll have PLENTY of time for a job.

I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long!

I can't tell you if you should or shouldn't stay with your boyfriend. I don't know anything about your relationship. How old are you guys, and how long have you been together?

Anyways, anyone that makes a "secret" page and writes personal things is just being rude.. Honestly, if my boyfriend did that to me, I would not put up with it.

What kind of things is he writing? If you feel hurt and betrayed by this, let him know about it. If you know the truth, why do you continue to put up with him and allow him to lie to your face?

Of course he won't come clean about it and he will keep denying it. Talk with him in person and explain to him how it makes you feel. Ask him what his reasons are for writing those things. My guess is, he wants to seem "cool" or show off to people.

If he continues to deny about it and lie to you, it's up to you on what you decide. Do you want to be with a person like that?

look im 17/ f and i deffinitly think im an alcoholic. everytime i drink i get wasted, and i cant stop drinking.. like i just cant. what the hell do i do now not to forget all my embarrasing things i do drunk..

You're probably not an alcoholic, you just can't control your alcohol. Do you usually drink when you're with friends and at parties?

If you think you might have a problem and don't know how to deal with it, talk to someone. It might be difficult and embarrassing, but you need to get help.

If you can't talk to your parents, turn to an adult. Friends can offer support, but sometimes they might not know how to help you personally.

What do you say when the guy you like
asks you who you like but don't want to sound corny?

If you don't want to sound "corny" then don't play games with the guy and just give him an honest answers. It's very childish. If he asks who you like, tell him. If you don't tell him and he's interested in you, he could move on to someone else.

Alright, so i was messing around with an application on my i pod touch that allowed me to view websites through my computer. i had a porn website on my i pod, my parents walked to tell me goodnight in so i closed the app. Then because the app closed, the porn website popes up full screen on my computer. the whole time it was up my back was to the monitor and i told my parents goodnight. now i feel sick and i just want to die.

Ok... so did your parent's see it or what? Don't be ashamed of watching porn. I don't know if you're a girl or guy, or how how you are.. but if you're over 16 then it's completely normal for people to watch it.

i read on the back on the aloe vera bottle that it moisturizes your skin. if i put it on my face, would it make me break out?

Aloe Vera does moisturize skin, but because it's made from a natural plant, you won't break out unless you're allergic to it. If you can use it on the rest of the body, then you can also use it on your face. The skin on your face is a lot more sensitive, so don't use a lot and you can use it if you're sunburn as well.

What's the average cost of a CHI flat iron from a salon?

The average cost of a CHI iron is about $100-150, but some places can sell them for about $90 or so. Mine was $150 and it's definitely worth every penny. I've had it for three years and it still works just as great and you can even curl your hair so easily with it.

Hi,
i need help really bad. Im shot a phobia so bad, but i have to get an MRI with contrast which means they stick n iv tube into you and that makes dye go into you. I don't want this at all, im terifed. while getting a regular shot i start crying and like having a panic attack. i need help i don't no what to do!
signed, EXTREAMELY WORRIED!!!!!!

I don't really know what you're asking me.. but it's normal to be nervous. I get scared before getting shots too, but I just kind of tell myself that in a few minutes it'll be over and even if it hurts, it won't hurt forever lol. It always helps me calm down.

I'm 14 and a guy and I've been really friends with a girl for 5 years or so. The things is I really like her and i feel it wont go anywhere unless she knows but i dont know how or if i should tell her. I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship but i think it'd be fun to go out with her. What should i do?

You never know what will happen unless you tell her. She might feel the same way! Hang out with her, and just tell her how you feel. If she doesn't seem to have feelings for you in that kind of way, don't be too hard on yourself. It won't ruin your friendship unless you both make it awkward.

Im 13 and a girl. A couple of months ago my friends asked this boy out for me. For about a month we avoided eaachother then we became friends. Now he will ocassionally bump into me. We sit next to eachother in one class and when im listing he pretends to scratch his head and looks at me, ALOT. he askes my friends if i still like him(they say yes).He flirts with some other girls at school(that are my friends) in front of me. Does he like me? What should i do(if he does) just to make sure?

To me, it seems like he does have a crush on you but neither one you want to admit it to each other. If he is constantly looking at you, then he might have a thing for you. The fact that he keeps asking your friends if you still like him sparked his interest. When he "flirts" with your friends, don't take it too seriously. He is probably doing that to make you jealous. If neither one of you want to talk to each other, you will get no where. In class, start a conversation with him and just talk to him. Flirt back with him so he knows that you still have a thing for him.

Good luck :)

My father's attitude towards me is very negative i
feel like whenever i talk to him he makes negative
comments about me almost as if i'm not good enough it doesn't make me feel very good is there anything
i can do to stop this from happening?

Thank you

Some parents don't know how to talk to their children and they don't even realize it. I doubt that he is trying to make you feel like that, but you should talk to him about it and let him know. He is your dad and he loves you no matter what, but just let him know how you are feelings. I went through the same thing. My dad didn't know how to communicate with me, but after I talked to him things got a lot better between us.

Good luck!

is sex fun?

Sex isn't FUN with just anyone. If you're in a relationship with someone that you love, it's more than fun & pleasurable. It actually means something.

Okay,

My boyfriend has been looking at p*rn a lot lately and it really bothers me. It bothers me because that is what he seems to prefer rather than us having sex together. He doesn't tell me he is looking at it, He hides it. Whenever I question or ask about it he lies...and it is really starting to tick me off.

The fact is, most guys watch porn. Even if a guy is perfectly happy in the relationship, and they have sex with their girlfriends. They love that, but you have to know that just because he watches porn that he's not interested in you or he doesn't enjoy it. Guys enjoy it, and they are more sexual than girls are. They watch it because it's entertaining to watch other people having sex, that's all. He's still attracted to you, but porn is porn. It can be his way of a fantasy. Most couples actually watch porn together and it can bond them in a way, try new positions, etc. If it bothers you that much, talk to him and tell him to explain to you why he watches it.. he'll probably give you the same answer. Entertainment. It's nothing that you are doing wrong, it's just something that guys enjoy watching.

do you think it's better to have long hair or short hair on graduation day?:)

please help me out.:)

xoxo

It depends on the style that you look best in. I have somewhat short hair, put I'm putting in extensions for graduation. Either way, it's cute if you style it right.

okay so i'm a 16 YO girl and i masturbate haha. i like doing it, it feels great and i orgasm every time i do but i feel like i'm the only girl that does it... i mean i always read that girls do it a lot to but i feel like if i told my friends they'd be totally grossed out.
so my question is, do guys know girls masturbate? like if i was with a guy and i told him i masturbate would he be grossed out or think i'm weird or desperate or something? anywayss let me know what you think. thanks!

Everyone has at one point masturbated. Don't feel like you are the only girl that does it, because you're NOT. Guys wouldn't be grossed out because they do it too, it's normal and there is nothing wrong with it. Most people are embarrassed to admit that they do and they think that others would be grossed out. To answer your question, yes guys know that girl's masturbate. Most guys won't be grossed out, it actually turns them on and they won't think you're weird or desperate. It's normal and you're not the only one that does it :)

how can i give my hair more volume on the top? i don't like those poof things i just want the top to have volume. any shampoos or something? thanks

I have really flat hair also, and I use Tresemme volume shampoo & conditioner but I'm not sure if it really works. You can try teasing your hair, but it will still look natural if you do it good. After you straighten your hair or do whatever to it, take the top of you hair, and split it in sections. Spray hair spray and use a comb to tease it. Brush it down afterwards and you will have volume. Throughout the day you can always tease it more, but I do it every day and it's the simplest way to get volume.

I use the bump-its sometimes too, they work lol :)

I know this is probably going to be to vague for some people but for those people who are COOL and know what cool looks like, can you help me by giving me tips on making pictures cool? Poses and stuff to do with like a photo editor and stuff? All my friend's myspace pix look the same same poses same places and I want my photos on facebook and myspace to look really cool!

When you feel confident, your pictures will turn out beautiful. When you're getting ready to go out and your make up and hair is done, just take pictures of yourself. Do different facial expressions, and whatever makes you feel pretty. You can wear different things, do your hair differently and you will have a variety of pictures.

If you want to edit your pictures, but not look "fake" just to go picnik.com ; it's free and you can play around with the different things, or you can add text to it, make it black and white and they will look good :)

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