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okay well a couple of years ago i heard a song by lonestar. it was redone and sort of a remix about September 11th and there were people saying i miss you to the ones they lost in 9-11 and stuff like that. so does anybody know what song this is? thnxx in advance =]

im already there

beautiful song!! :)
-hayley

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so, my sister is about to have a baby, and she cant think of ANYTHING to name the baby if its a girl! she already has two boy names picked out, Chandler Brady, and Noah Luke( so cute!:]). so, could anyone suggest any names that they like for a girl? anything will do. thanks so much!

It might be weird but i love when people take some boy names for girls--like my gym teacher named her daughter Tanner...and i like the name Spencer..

But as for names really for a girl i like:

Madisyn
Millie
Emma Grace

Oh and for a boys middle name, i always suggest this when people ask for names...i just love it that much lol...but i like the middle name Xavier (except the X is pronounced like Z) i just love that name. Soemthing to think about! :)
hope she has a safe delivery!
-hayley

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How high does the building have to be to guarantee death?

Are you having thoughts of suicide?? I believe that you are going through the most unbearable pain possible. Its not how bad the problem is its how bad its hurting you. And i dont know what is going on, but im telling you jumping off the building wont solve anything. Nothing is wrong with you, you are hurting and that isnt right. I know you still wanting to be alive. I know it, i can tell. There is a part of you saying i want to kill myself so i wont have to go through this pain any more, but you also want to stay alive because you dont want to die yet. I know you may think that getting help would cause more pain. People might ridicule you for being "crazy" or "weird". But if you go to somebody, like a consuler or a psychologist or a doctor. They cannot tell anybody. If they do they loose their license. They understand what you are going through.

212-673-3000
212-532-2400

call these numbers. These are people who can help. People who care. I care. You would be greatly missed my friend. Really. Please if you ARE thinking about doing it, dont. There are people who care. People who are willing to help. Please dont do it.
-hayley

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Hello.

14/M.

On the outside surface of my scrotum (NOT ON A TESTICLE)
I have a small, hard yellow bump that is not going away. Its about the size of an average pimple, except yellow. What should I do? What is it? Will it go away?

Advice is EXTROADINARILY appreciated.

Go to a doctor. It could be something serious or nothing at all. But we cant see what it looks like so we couldnt tell you. But go get a boy doctor and let him tell you whats up.
-hayley

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okay so heres the story (please be eager to listen :))

3 weeks ago i met 2 people theyre bestfriends lets call them apple and banana. apple likes me . and he thinks he has a chance with me because he kinda thinks i like him too (i kind of a tease but i try not to but i end up looking like one even if idont do it on purpose). but i like banana. his friend .

whenever i talk in person with apple .. banana interrupts and (pops up) in the conversation but he doesnt talk with me. HE TALKS WITH BANANA. he goes like:

"Hey banana! remember when.....?" Things like that

i dont know if he's trying to catch my attention or he dusnt wanna be ignored in front of me and apple or he just wanna "FIT IN".. or is he being rude or what?

the thing is I LIKE HIM. id really dont know if he knows that [cuz im a good actress wink wink]

i dont know what to do now ... i dont like apple i like banana.. what do i do in this situation.. theres more besides popping up in convos but its too long to write.

ASK HIM!! haha im telling you just like kind of imply it... like "banana, can i trust you??" then wait for him to reply and be like "apple thinks that i like him but i really dont. i mean i CAN be a tease but sometimes my feelings are real." then touch his leg and say "i dont know what to do i mean i like someone else and i am wondering if he likes me but i just wish he would let me know and kiss me or something."

haha just like imply it, and you could lay your head on his shoulder and touch his knee--works everytime.. or you could make the move and grab his hand while you talk to him--alone haha

-hayley

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ok so people told me that all 3 of the presidential candidates are Christian but (not trying to offend anyone here) how can you be a Democrat and a Christian?? Democrats are for stem cell research (using developing babies for science!! thus killing them, etc.) and they are for abortion (basically murdering a baby) and they are ok with gay unions and marriages and such. i mean those things definitely go against God!! its right there in the Bible!! im NOT trying to offend im just truly puzzled by how they can support this when it is so clearly not the wish of God. thank you :)

some people are weird like that. I mean just because you are Christian doesnt mean that you are immune to sin. The Devil tempts and when you think about it yes it is wrong for them to get stem cells from unborn babies but at the same time the cells save lives. So is it really wrong??

and i agree with the abortion thing. How anyone can go for abortion just makes me wonder. Actually it makes me want to inflict pain upon them. Its murder.

But like i said its just what some believe. The Bible also says you shouldnt get tattoos or have sex til marriage. People sin and we are not always safe from it. People make bad decisions.

-hayley

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Hey, I asked a question yesterday, and like, it was about if I had a u.t.i. but, now I'm not sure if that's what it is. On like, the opening [still the outside] of my vagina, one side is bigger than the other, and it really hurts, and it still hurts to pee. And I have small lump things randomly down there. Does anyone know what it could be? I had sex april 11, and he had a condom and stuff, but could that cause it? Please help. I'm really worried. I'm probably going to go to the doctors next week, but I'd like to know sooner what it could possibly be. I'm really scared.

that seriously sounds like an STD...

even if he wore a condom all it takes is some contact. Most dont have the common curtosy to tell someone if they have an std or sometimes the person themselves dont know about it.

just go to your doctor asap

-hayley

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Ok. I'm in my early 30's. I'm a single father. My mother is recently widowed. I own and operate a multi-location company. I also manage a handful of celebrity clients as well. So I guess you could say I have alot on my plate. Given I'm an earner alot of people outside of myself call on me for financial support. I'm in a different city everyweek and I spend my days working in my offices and my nights at the studio or scheduled functions with my clients. Recently the woman I love and wish to spend my life with came her for advice on our relationship and to my dismay perfect strangers who have met me have passed judgement on me. Allow me to explain. I met this woman about 4 years ago and at that time I was knee deep in work as usual and I was coming out of failing relationship but for some reason God decided to bring this woman my way. She's beautiful, sexy, smart, determined, loving, caring and did I mention beautiful? Nevertheless we met and instantly hit it off. I actually felt so comfortable with her that I took my daughter along with me on our first date. To me I had nothing to hide and I wanted her to know exactly who I am. My breakup drug on...like some relationships do and I found myself in the middle of a love triangle. On top of that I had infidelity issues. Yes I said it. I'm not here to lie to you. She also had her friends too. So the poor you is not what it seems. Most importantly the first love of her life seem to always be a compared me and I didnt seem to measure up to him. She loved to party. Party all the time til I had to ask her to slow down. On top of that she ran with a crew of serial seducing ladies who had relationships with some of my friends and clients. We had fun. Alot fun. So to me it was what it was. We loved hanging out but we never talked of the future. Anyways enough about that. The other relationship is finally over. It has been for awhile. I'm not saying it was right or wrong but I am being honest. My biggest problem is people tend to comment on the very same thing that they themselves have been through. Life's not a scripted journey. Every chapter is different. Moving on. Did I mention I run with entertainers and athletes? So that means woman are throwing themselves at you from every angle and because of this I find myself in some sticky situations to say the least. I've learned that I love her. That came to me like a dead weight dropped on my head. I love her deeply. The problem is she cant let go of the past and I cant change the past. If I could I would in a heartbeat because I'm ready to move on with my life. My mother and father were married 54 years when my father died so I tend to think that theyre relationship was a successful one. So thats who I look to for advice and what I found is that even my father had his ways. No ones perfect. But for everyone to say "Once a cheater always a cheater" is not fair. Love doesnt give you a heads up and most men dont get it til its too late. I've since then changed my ways. I stay out the club. I only go out with her. I keep the female traffic off my phone. Basically I'm at a place where I just want to be with her. However, since I'm really busy she takes that as cheating and I dont think thats fair. For example she may call me or text me and I'll respond clearly that I'm in a production meeting or with an attorney or maybe even in rehearsal for a show. Once I say that she begins to ask me a series of questions that I cant answer at the time since our atty is $425.00 an hour. But then she goes into a tantrum and turns me and evil towards me and I just dont think thats fair. I dont deal with any other women. She hasnt heard about me being around any women for quite some time now but she still wont let the past be the past and I love her. Deeply. We both discussed counseling but my issue was I felt that we should pay 50/50 so we both have vested interest in the sessions but that never happen. Normally when she tells her side and they get around to my side people come to a split decision for lack of better words. Now with the response from this site coupled with the past against my fight she's decided to leave me? Are you guys happy now? I mean you've never met me. Dont know my struggle. Most of you sound like you've had your own struggle with the opposite sex. What makes you an expert? I love her. Now she's gone away from me and I dont know what to do about it. I am not cheating on her. I asked her to take the next step and move in together and/or get married. I have no problem with committment to her. I admit. I was wrong in the beginning. But thats not where we are now. I've stepped up and changed my ways. I'm not the evil person she lead you out to believe. I want her back. I miss her. I need her to understand that I've grown. My life has changed. Yes people do make changes. They dont change completely but people make changes. Have you never made a mistake or had a regret on an something you did? I ask you. Is my relationship salvagable? Is their way for her to see that I'm here for her? I would never hurt her again. She mean to much to me. Can you help me? Thanks.

thanks for inboxing!

Well...i think you should just give her time. She obviously doesnt want a relationship right now. Tell her what she needs to hear. It might be hard but you need to do it. If you really love her you could wait.
and yes we all have had regrets but life goes on. And your relationship is only salvagable if you want it to be and are willing to make it happen.
-Hayley

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i like this girl and i told her that i just want to be friends cuz she liked me and a guy who is her boy friend and now i want her back what do i do girls i need help i really like her

Tell her how you feel. Yes her feelings may have left the building but you need to try. Girls love it when guys get all soft hearted, yet strong. So just say whats on your mind in the sweetest way possible. She will listen. Just make sure you catch her by herself.
-hayley

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Lately this guy who had never talked to me before, started talking to me. I realized that his best girl friend, that he likes so much was in florida when he started talking to me, as soon as she got back, we stopped. Now we barely talk at all. How do i stop thinking about this or how do i get over him ? What should i do to stop thinking about it, because he calls me ocasionally when she doesnt pick up her phone. What should i do?

Well you need to get over this guy because he is basically using you as a backboard. I know it sucks. But just tell him like it is. Tell him that if he is only going to talk to you if she aint there then you dont want nothing to do with it because you dont roll like that. Most the time the feelings you are hurting by, is what would make you feel better if you just said aloud. So it maybe hard but tell him how you feel.
-hayley

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hey im 16 and pregnant
im 4 months along and
me and my boyfriend came up with some possible names with middles names.

Aidan Jole
Jole Aaron
Graydan Alan
Jayden Marcus
Brighten Mason
Brayden James

those were the top 6 boys names

Madison June
Mackenzie Lynn
Brianna May
Jamie Marie
Laura Jane
Madeline Jayme

and those are our top 6 girl names
we arnt sure if we are having a boy or girl
help us decided witch boy or girl names out of those do you all like?! or if you can come up with some other names please tell.



help us :)

on your list:
Graydan and Brighten

Madison (but i would spell it madisyn, cause its different.)

A name that i really like, well a middle name is xavier. I think it is unique and original! ;)

And for a girl i really like the name madisyn because it isnt used enough and it is pretty

-hayley

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Ok maybe it's just me but i always watch these movie with people and their first kisses and stuff like and it makes me want that even more i mean i'm 14 and never exactly had a real boyfriend and obviously havent had my first kiss yet but watching these movie always makes me want it even more it might sound crazy or stupid but i am definitely into the 'find your one true love' kind of thing and i know someday it will eventually happen but the wait is killing me and maybe that sounds stupid but it's just seeing these great relationships and how much in love people can be it really is a beautiful thing and maybe i'm just babbling and sounding crazy here but like i said i really want that you know that kind of relationship where of course you have your fights but in the end their always there for you where you can see how much they like you just by the way they look at you and stuff like that i want that and of course my first kiss but i want it with someone really special and it has to be that right moment and everything and the right person and the right place and i know it will happen someday and that the longer i wait the more special it will be when it does happen but i dont know i guess i just want opinions on this like have you felt this way before how was your first kiss what happened you know those kinds of things

well my first kiss, hmm...let me just say when you get it, you will remember it forever... But anyways family friends were on a road trip from indiana and they needed a place to stay so i stayed up and waited for them to get there. They got there about eleven at night. And the parents went into my room to sleep and then the son stayed out in the living room to sleep on the couch. (thats where i was sleeping) and i was laying down trying to sleep and i felt someone against me. (he had move to my couch ha ha). And we just stayed up all night talking, getting to know each other better. And he layed his head in my lap and then he sat up and began playing with my hair. And then the next thing i know morning came and before anyone got up, he just said "would you be offended?" and i said "offended by what?" and then he kissed me. But later he left for indiana and i decided i didnt really want that.

But yes i have felt that way before. I still do. I think that every girl does. Some guys too! It just gives me hope that there truly is a true love out there somewhere just for me. But you got to get through a lot of rain to see the rainbow. Just give it time. I never thought i was gonna have my first kiss, but i did, and it was great and special. Yours will be too! promise! ;]
-hayley

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What should i do if i responded to the 419 Scam email with an existing and real information? i did it before i knew what it was, because it simply said about winning money from pepsi.uk and then i found out it's Nigerian frauds. I have heard that many people lost their money and some got even killed. What should i do now? I'm very scared now.

It is very true that people have been killed, and kidnapped. I suggest you report this to the cops and explain to them what happened. Here is a website i found about it.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Advance_fee_fraud#Kidnapping

-hayley

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ok so i think i'm gonna have my first kiss this week and i am soooooo scared so PLEASE help me. seriously PLEASE. i like him alot and i really don't want to mess anything up!!! PLEASE!!!! i just need some good tips so i can relax a little bit. thanks, please help me.

Well im glad that you have insight on this, because my first kiss was totally unexpected, and we went into full makeout session. Just know that the person is probably just as scared as you are. And that its just a first kiss and they are always akward. Its just science. Haha. Just make sure you dont miss his mouth, you can close your eyes, but make sure that its like a .5 milisecond away from his lips before you do. Or you could leave them open, though some find that weird.

All you really have to know, is that its your first time and you dont know what you are doing, but there will be other times. Some people practice kissing by kissing their hands. You could try that.

-hayley

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okay this is long and whatever but i'm completely freaking out right now.. here's the story :

okay i take Yaz birth control pretty reguarly around the same time every day i havent missed a pill in like 2 months. but 3 weeks ago me & my boyfriend had sex, he used a condom and we use the pull out method just so we don't risk anything, you know? so as we were finishing as he was pulling out i heard the condom pop. He didn't cum until he was completely outside of me. I know because we talked about & he knew for a fact he didnt and becuase the cum splashed all over my inner thighs, butt, that genreal area. Now as soon as that happened of course i freaked out like okayy. it's not IN me but it's close enough and what if i couple of drops landed right on the opening?! so i peed asap and washed everything off down there.. that was 3 weeks ago though and i stopped worrying about until this past wensday when i started getting the brown discharge and the week progressed it got heavier and heavier to the point where on saturday it was almost like a light period. When this first happened i freaked out that i was having implation bleeding, but i remember that the month before i skipped my non-hormal pills ( the white "sugar pills") becuase it was spring break and i didn't want to get my period. but i still never skipped a pill, i just started a new pack of pills the day my white ones started. soo, now im like oh okay this is just break through bleeding from my last period. I'm due for my period tuesday and i'm absolutly freaking out. How big of a chance do you think there is that i'm pregnant?

There really isnt any telling. The discharge could just be discharge. But condoms and birth control still have some open space for being able to get pregnant. If you do have worries about being pregnant take a pregnancy test.
-hayley

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well, i have never made out before. but i dont really understand how to do it. like my friend said open your mouth and stick your tounge in. but i dont think thats really helpful. so please explain it to me. :\

its not difficult at all. Its really fun actually ha ha! but really it just comes with the moment. Like you kinda tilt your head and touch the persons face your touching or the back of their neck like your kind of bringing them towards you. And usually someone takes the lead. Usually the guy will take the lead, well the guys that i have made out with did. But just explore the other persons mouth with your tounge. I personally dont like french kissing, i think it feels weird. Its just what you and your partner like.
-hayley

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How do you know if your bgf (best guy friend) likes you as a crush?

say i had a weird dream last night..and he would be like yeah or really what about....and you tell him like you had a dream you all was getting married and say when you woke up you began to think about you guys ever being a you. And say "have you ever thought about what if we were more than just friends?"

or make yourself cry or act real sad and sit next to him then lay your head on his lap and see how he reacts. Does he stroke your hair? your cheek?? Kiss you on the forehead? how does he treat you?? if no one is around it could spark a kiss??
-hayley

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[im a girl]
is it normal to cum fairly easily/quickly?

yes yes yes yes yes and yes! ha ha all girls are different in that area. Some are quicker than others while some slack persay. It just depends is all. :D
-hayley

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okay well he said he doesn't want to tell me because he likes having something about our vacation still left to talk about....once that's gone, since we never see each other, all we can talk about is what we did over the weekends. and we honestly both just really like talking about what we had together.
i'm thinking that if it was a "fling" there would really be no reason that he is still talking to me, you know?
are there any other things that you can think of to talk about? like i want to talk about us in jamaica again....but i don't know how to bring it up really. thanks so much!

well, you are absolutely right. I completely over looked that ha ha. If it was a "fling" what would he want with you now?? But he IS saving that last bit of conversation, and he DID ask for your screen name...I just got an idea...bear with me on this kay?? haha...maybe he is was feeling like you understand him and he really likes you and it coud be the real deal with you, BUT once he got back to his home he began to talk with you and feel those same feelings, but then once the conversation fizzled, so did everything else. So therefore he is saving that last bit of information so he can always save it because he dont want to let you go....nice huh?? no but really if you want to bring it up just like tell him you had a dream about you guys at jamaica again....and you was doing the same things but it was a DIFFERENT time. and go into detail about it and it could spark up a conversation and get the flirtatious juices going you know what i mean?? ha ha even if it is a little white lie, what he dont know what hurt him and i know that sounds wrong, but they lie too ha ha.
-hayley


No no no you didnt bore me honey!! i think its cute!! ha ha

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Where do i start?

Just bear with me... please
Hmm; ohkay.

so this is obviously about a boy.
not just any boy; a boy that i have been liking ever since the beginning of the school year.

He knows i like him, hes always knew that.

Eventualyy, i started hearing that he likes me too.
from there my friends and his friends planned things so we could hang out.

but before i go any farther; our relationship is whats so confusing.

Its weird' like;; In school, we say 5 words tops to eachother.

But out of school we talk on the phone and such what and hang out occasionally.

i know hes shy, im shy too, but not as neeeaarrlyy as shy as him.

We never talk in school.

its so bad that when people hear that we like eachother. they are so shocked because they NEVER see us talk.

And hey.. i try. its him that doesnt.
I feel like im the only one trying.
IIII say HI in the morning.
IIII try to spark a conversation in the 6 classes we have together.

And he just replies with 5 words and thats it.

now. i think im just slowly giving up.

In the beginning of the year, i would think that his ONE word that he said to me would satisfy me.

NO. NOT ANYMORE.
im getting annoyed.
his silence and shyness is bugging me.
i know he still likes me, because his friends still come up to me saying he will eventually ask me out and such what blah blahh..

but, if he cant even say anything to me now, how are we going to work if we do go out?

he doesnt even call me now..
i meen. ughhh. now that he got a cell-phone he thinks that a TEXT would pass me by..

no... i dont want a stupd text.

and yeah; maybe im over-thinking this; but

this is someone who i CANT stop liking.
i just caaannntt. i dont knw why. i tried but;
hes so..irrisitable.. even how corny that sounds..

its just.
i dont know what to do?
Im beginning to like other people

NOT as NEARLY as much.
but there ARE people who i can point out and get butterflies; people who actually talk to me.. and i can be myself with..

im just so confused with my emotions and feelings;

any help?

Awh! honey i feel you! just ask him why he dont talk to you when he is talking to you...wow never had to say that before. Tell him whats going on with you. everything you just told us tell him. he could surprise you!
-hayley

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