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Just explain to him you're not ready. That he doesn't have anything to do with how you feel about it. It's yourself. You are just not ready. He shouldn't be hurt, he should respect your choice.

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why is my penis so huge =]

Because a huge donkey came & played cards with an elf. & the donkey won, so therefore you penis is huge :)

Hope that helped.

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i died my hair to day and my best friend thinks i look kinda of ugly what should i do??????
helppp

It's your hair not your best friends. Do you like you hair ? If you do, thats all that should matter.

She shouldn't care what your hair looks like, and she shouldn't hate you for it. Don't worry, she's not being a very good friend. It's not her hair to judge, its yours. If you like it, thats all that matter :)

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I was just wondering, how do you make those hearts that people keep putting after their names?
thx in advance!!~

& hearts ;

Removes the spaces and you're good to go.

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ok well somebody tagged me in a picture on facebook and now it shows up under my tagged pictures. i look hideous and i was wondering if there was any way to to remove it off of mine?

Yes, go to that picture that you dont like & under the picture there should be names of all the people that are tagged. You should see your name the words [remove tag] click the remove tag and TADA, all done :)

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how can I get smooth lips and get rid of the lines?chapstick does not work.

Carmex and/or vasiline [spelling?] You could always try medicated chapstick vs. the non-medicated chapstick.

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okay so i got this boyfriend (he's a sophmore and im a freshman) and we've been dating for about 4 months. i really think i love him and i mean he says he loves me too but we've been fighting a lot lately. mainly because every weekend while im doing something with my church or babysiting or hanging with the girls watching movies or shopping, he is out partying with his boys. like drinking a lot. and dont get me wrong he is a great guy and can usally always make me smile but i hate this fighting and he blames it all on me. like i asked him if he goes partying to not tell me about the drinking and stuff because i really didnt wanna know about it. and hes like "whatever you are really being an immature dickhead, grow up this is high school babe." and idk what to do. he wont compromise its his way or the highway and i was like "what do you wanna do to fix this? and do you still wanna date me?" and hes like "right now i dont know, if you are going to be immature then idk anymore" and i dont think im being immature or unreasonable for gettin upset over this? beacuase ive watched my guy friends over and over screw up with the girl they love by getting drunk and cheating on them with a girl they barely know. what should i do? am i being unreasonable??

Hey dear :) First off, always remember all fights are not always bad. Some can acuttaly be good. So a fight here & there doesn't mean your relationship is going to end, because about 95% of the time, when you make it threw a fight, your relationship is stronger. Fighting shows someone cares. Hard to think, but it's true.

As far as how your boyfriends acting, I'm sorry, but it is recidulious. There is no reason for him to be calling you "immature" & a "dickhead". He is acting like a dumb guy. If he loves you, like I think you love him. You shouldn't have to pick his way or the highway. You should have a say in this. It is your relationship also, He is trying to take control & put this all on you. He's doing this for a reason. He knows going out drinkig all the time is hurting you, and by hurting you its making him feel bad, & to feel better about himself, and not feel guilty he puts it all on you. To make you feel like the bad person and to make you seem wrong. YOu arn't wrong. You just dont want to hear about it. You never told him he couldnt drink with is friends anymore. You just told him you'd like it if he didnt share it with you. Understandable, when my boyfriend hangs out with his friends.. I don't care to know what they did. Its their thing. You are not out of place. You are not acting immature or unresonable.. he is, and he shouldn't. Guys have no right to make girls feel bad about themselves.

If you feel as though he might cheat on you. Tell him, don't hid it from him. Just tell him that you feel that he might cheat on you. That you don't want to lose him over this. You dont like the fighting. You get scared when he goes drinking because you are scared he might do something he shouldnt. You love him to much for him to do that to much for yo to lose him. Yeah, it will be hard to explain that to him, but he needs to understand completely how you feel, before he goes off and calls you names and makes you feel like the bad person.

Just talk to him, and if all else fails.. ending the relationship might be for the better. Maybe he'l see what he is missing all because he was immature & wouldn't work it out with you. Try to talk to him though, & just be honest.. even if it does mean telling him he's immature ;)

Hope this helped you some.

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ok i need to no how to convince the love of my life that i love her mom than she loves me

dr. hannah can u help ? =)

I think you ment [more], but hey we all make mistakes :)

To convince the love of your life you love her more [which im not sure you do]. The best thing to do is show her. Show her how much you care and how much you love her, by meaning nice to her & talking to her as if shes your world. Don't hide your feelings from her :) Just be yourself around her, show her your comfortable with her and that you can trust her with your secrets.

Hope this helped :) & I think I know who this is ;)

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okay i am short like 4'11 or 5 foot .
i`m kind on the heavy side. i want to bee skinny by the time of summer do you have any advice for loosing weight or anything

if you dont its okay

The best to things to do to try & lose weight are : eating right and exercising.

How to plan those, im not to sure, im sorry : im bad with weight questions you can try [www.am-i-fat.com] or ask some of the other amazing columnists

Sorry I couldn't help much.

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my parents were married in late may and my sister was born in mid december. my sister was born right on time. did my parents have sex before they were married?

Yup. It takes 9 months for a baby to develope. For her to have been concived after the wedding she would have been born in January. To have been born in mid December, she would have been concived in late february, early March.

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ok so sometimes when i get my period it's brown-ish colored with a few drops of red every couple days then the next period is all red & healthy looking but then in between periods milky-white slippery stuff comes out...which means i'm healthy
is this healthy???
i'm confused....
13/f

Don't sweat. You're perfectly normal :) Nothing wrong at all. Peroids different from time to time, and the milky-white stuff is discharge. Which is also healthy. You healthy , so don't worry :)

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ok me and my boyfriend "did it" and i told my friend that i trust most. and i knew she wouldent tell and of course she didnt. but now my boyfriend told his 2 friends and one of them told one of my other close friends.witch i wish my bf told insted of him. but i dont know what to do. i dont want anyone to know or it to get out. and i dont know how many other people he told. and im really scared. i guess you could say im suisidal but im not really so much anymore cuz my bf helped me. but idk. im just scared that ill loose all my friends because they wouldent want me to "do it". but yeah, im scared. help me?

To be honest, if you didnt want people to know, you shouldnt have done 'it', but you did and you cant take it back.. soo..

You shouldnt be suicidel beacuse if it for any reason at all. If you lose friends over this then they werent your friends to start with. If you love your boyfriend and your comfoftable with your actions then forget about your friends. This is going to be a moment when you relize who your true friends are and who arn't. Don't be scared and all worried, people will talk about it for a little while yeah but you love your boyfriend [other wise I don't think you would have had sex with him] but after awhile people will get over it, its your life and your choices.

Don't be scared :) This could turn out to be good, youll find out who your real friends are :)

Hope this helped some.

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can you use tongue barbells as cartilage earrings?

Im sure if its the same gauge you should be fine, but like the columnist said before me, wouldnt that look sort-of weird ?

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I have been friends with this guy since Sophmore year in High School, I'm now a freshman in College (19 years old), we are going to the same college. Anyways with all the stress of college none of us have time for a boy friend or girl friend but we both do enjoy sex, yes, I will put it that bluntly. We both started this friends with benefits relationship with no strings and no questions asked and this started in the beginning of the school year. I recently met this guy who I have feelings for, actual relationship feelings for and really want to give it a shot. He has admitted his feelings to me on occasions before and we are now going out. The guy I had the friends with benefits relationship I tried to end it off with but he got mad and psycho! He started yelling at me and calling me a slut and all these names. I think he had actual feelings for me! The other day we met up because I had to tell him that there is no future for us and I don't need a friend with benefit anymore and he got even more mad, and I have never seen him like this before. I reported him to the police because I was terrified. He is now in the hospital and got 'evaluated' and he has bi-polar disorder and is taking pills. I feel guilty, should I? Isn't this my fault, if we never started this maybe this wouldn't have happened? Should I talk to him about the situation now that he is on meds or should I never see him again? He is still my friend and I don't want to back down on him... what should I do??

You shouldn't feel guilty. In a way reporting him got him help he needed. Bi-polar can become dangrous. Don't feel upset with yourself, you did nothing wrong. You can try and still be friends with him, I don't see why not. If he continues to call you name & things in that matter I would end the friendship. You don't need friends like that.

Everything will be okay :) & good luck with the new guy.

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well i have this friend, her name is kaitlyn. and shes been goin out with this kid for about 3 months now. hes pretty cool. me and him are friends but he always is so controlling over kaitlyn. me and her are best friends and we have this really good friend ray that we have been friends with wayy longer then when her and her bf have known each other. she used to have a little crush on ray but she got over it fast cause they were just friends.and it was seriously nothing cause ray never knew and he didnt think of her like that. well her bf gets really mad when he calls her or she calls him. he wont talk to her and he always makes bad comments towards ray. and i think its really stupid cause were all really good friends. he wont go anywhere ray is. and its not just ray.. its EVERY guy that kaitlyn hangs out with. and thats most of our friends. just friends. if me and her go somewhere and are hangin out with one of them then he gets mad and thinks shes cheating on him or something and he keeps hanging up on her which causes her to keep calling him and apoligizing (even though she didnt do anything wrong) and she stays on the phone all night and ignores all of us. and he always seems to throw this one ex up in her face saying that hes goin to hang out with her if kaitlyn is hangin out with guys.

kaitlyn says she loves him and he loves her i guess but i think its stupid how he does that.

what do you think?

She might love him thats true, but for him to love her ; thats the question.

Love is about trust, and kaitlyns bf isnt very trusting. I'm sure she has tired to explain that Ray is just a friend and nothing more. The best thing you can do is sit kaitlyn down and explain to her how this all looks to you. Her view on this is totally different from yours. You don't have to be mean just tell her your worried that she isnt being treated right. She might get upset & take offense to it, but shes your best friend, and in a way shes being hurt. There is no reason why she shouldnt be able to hang out with guy friends including Ray, and there is no reason she should have to say sorry when there is nothing to say it about.

Her boyfriend is wrong on so many levels. Guys like that need to be smacked. [dont do it figure of speach :)] but he shouldnt treat her like that. He shouldnt shove ex`s in her face and make her feel bad.

Just talk to your friend, be nice and understanding, she may really like this guy alot & she may possibly love him. Just help her see how hes treating her, he might be able to change.

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i was just wondering. what is dry sex. if anyone could tell me that would be great

It`s as simple as this : sex with your colthes on :)

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a butt? i mean i dont have a HUGE a*s but i do have one. I get complimented on it all the times from guys, but i was wondering if guys do like butts?

My guy friends & I have alot of them are butt guys. They always seem to talk about how they like girls with big butts. So to answer your question, yes guys do like butts.

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okay so i hang out with a lot of guys. but i cant really help it. i just get along better with guys. girls start too much drama and i hate drama. so some girls at my school think im a whore and are startin rumors that im doin stuff with all the guys i hang out with and that im cheatin on my boyfriend. but thats so not true. these guys are like my brothers. i wouldn't do anything with them. and i would never cheat on my boyfriend! he means the world to me. and he understands that i have a lot of guy friends and he's okay with it. he knows i wouldn't do anything with any of them. but i dont want that kind of rumor about me to spread. i mean. everyone at school knows im not like that. and my boyfriend and all my friends were like dont worry about it, they are just jealous that all the guys talk to you and not them. but idk. what do you think?

I have the same problem. Girls start way to much drama & guys just .. dont. I totally see where your comming from

Your friends are right. Probally the people starting the rumors are girls [guys dont usually start rumors] & if they are starting them then they are jealous. You can hang out with guys and be comfortable, while they obviously cant. You know you're a good person and your boyfriend and friends trust you. If people are going to be low and make up stuff to make themselves feel better. Let them. You apperently have something they idolize, if they didnt they wouldnt care. They feel like they have to make stuff up to feel better about themsleves. You're a good person who just happens to have alot of guy friends, if people cant understand that, its their problem not yours.

You can try and find out who's starting the rumors [could take a little while] & tell them youd like it if they stopped, or you can just in a way deal. Yeah its hard to have people think stuff about you, but you know its not true, and your boyfriend knows its not true, thats all that should matter. They arent effecting your relationship & thats a good thing. You have to understand people are stupid and rude and just plain out mean, but its out of jealousy. I would in a way take it as a compliment. Don't let it erk you. Just live life and have fun, people say stuff about people all the time. Soon people will forget all about what the person's saying about you :)

Just have fun knowning you have something, other wants :)

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can you get aids from having sex on your period?

YES ; you can get AIDS anytime, weather your on your peroid or not.

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Are you supposed to put bronzer or your foundation on first?

foundation :)

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