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boyfriend & partying.
okay so i got this boyfriend (he's a sophmore and im a freshman) and we've been dating for about 4 months. i really think i love him and i mean he says he loves me too but we've been fighting a lot lately. mainly because every weekend while im doing something with my church or babysiting or hanging with the girls watching movies or shopping, he is out partying with his boys. like drinking a lot. and dont get me wrong he is a great guy and can usally always make me smile but i hate this fighting and he blames it all on me. like i asked him if he goes partying to not tell me about the drinking and stuff because i really didnt wanna know about it. and hes like "whatever you are really being an immature dickhead, grow up this is high school babe." and idk what to do. he wont compromise its his way or the highway and i was like "what do you wanna do to fix this? and do you still wanna date me?" and hes like "right now i dont know, if you are going to be immature then idk anymore" and i dont think im being immature or unreasonable for gettin upset over this? beacuase ive watched my guy friends over and over screw up with the girl they love by getting drunk and cheating on them with a girl they barely know. what should i do? am i being unreasonable??
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Hey dear :) First off, always remember all fights are not always bad. Some can acuttaly be good. So a fight here & there doesn't mean your relationship is going to end, because about 95% of the time, when you make it threw a fight, your relationship is stronger. Fighting shows someone cares. Hard to think, but it's true.
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As far as how your boyfriends acting, I'm sorry, but it is recidulious. There is no reason for him to be calling you "immature" & a "dickhead". He is acting like a dumb guy. If he loves you, like I think you love him. You shouldn't have to pick his way or the highway. You should have a say in this. It is your relationship also, He is trying to take control & put this all on you. He's doing this for a reason. He knows going out drinkig all the time is hurting you, and by hurting you its making him feel bad, & to feel better about himself, and not feel guilty he puts it all on you. To make you feel like the bad person and to make you seem wrong. YOu arn't wrong. You just dont want to hear about it. You never told him he couldnt drink with is friends anymore. You just told him you'd like it if he didnt share it with you. Understandable, when my boyfriend hangs out with his friends.. I don't care to know what they did. Its their thing. You are not out of place. You are not acting immature or unresonable.. he is, and he shouldn't. Guys have no right to make girls feel bad about themselves.
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If you feel as though he might cheat on you. Tell him, don't hid it from him. Just tell him that you feel that he might cheat on you. That you don't want to lose him over this. You dont like the fighting. You get scared when he goes drinking because you are scared he might do something he shouldnt. You love him to much for him to do that to much for yo to lose him. Yeah, it will be hard to explain that to him, but he needs to understand completely how you feel, before he goes off and calls you names and makes you feel like the bad person.
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Just talk to him, and if all else fails.. ending the relationship might be for the better. Maybe he'l see what he is missing all because he was immature & wouldn't work it out with you. Try to talk to him though, & just be honest.. even if it does mean telling him he's immature ;)
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Hope this helped you some.
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