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14/f

Ok so I have this boyfriend and he is the same age as me, so he is definitely an immature guy. Most guys my age are. This is just a curious question. I don't know why but every guy I've liked were so immature but I liked it. Because they made me laugh. I know most guys are immature and will always be but some guys I know don't act like that. Its just weird because most girls complain and stuff like, "he is so immature" But I like it? I don't get whats up with that. Sorry for this stupid question but I was just curious. Thanks!

I know what you mean.
My ex was immature too, and we joked around quite a lot.
But the immaturity is fun to a certain extent.
If guys start laughing at words like ''boobs'' or won't take anything seriously, then it pisses girls off.
If he's too immature then you can't be serious with a guy. It's more like your younger brother. If you want to maintain a relationship with a guy, he has to have his serious side, and know that he shouldn't take things too far with childish jokes and pranks.
Like, a close guy friend of mine is very, very, very f*cking immature. In Biology classes he had a laughing breakdown when the teacher talked about intercourse, semen, testes or menstrual cycle. I mean come on, that's too far. And he's 16. He's had girlfriends in the past, but he acts like a child 75% of the time, so it is hard to be serious with him.

However, if you joke around with a guy, have laughs, love Spongebob or whatever, it's fine, as long as you know the limit and can take things seriously when needed ;)

Considering that you're 14, then yeah, guys are a lot more immature than they are at my age (16) but they'll grow out of it, and you may grow out of loving immaturity.

I hope this made sense... :P

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18/f

I've never been to a music festival or concert but there are a lot coming up that me and my friends want to go to during the hotter months. What sort of clothes should I wear?
Any examples or pictures would be greatt

Ah, since I go to concerts almost once a month, I might be able to help :)

I generally wear converse with jeans(preferably not skinny jeans since it get SOOO hot) and a band shirt or a tank top. Minimal accessories...no necklaces or bracelets since I've had a few pulled off in the past.
But then again I get into the crowd a lot, and do a lot of moshing (Metal concerts :D) so that's my experience.
Don't over do it, and make sure you feel good. Don't wear your best jeans because you never know what could happen.
Some asshole ruined my favorite AC/DC shirt by burning a huge hole in it with a cigarette.

I hope you have fun! :)

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I'm not asking anybody on here for them, but I am on the hunt for Bloc Party tickets at the 930 club.

I've checked eBay and Craiglist, do you know of any other sites I could check out to find tickets?

-Search Party

http://www.livenation.com/serp?refine=all&searchstring=Bloc+Party&x=0&y=0

This is all I found...
That's the places left for the tour, but I didn't see a 930 club in the list of venues.

I also came across this;
http://www.930.com/tickets/

Hope this helped a little?

EDIT!
http://www.930.com/concerts/

Scroll down to Bloc Party, it's sold out.

Sorry! In the future use LiveNation though.

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Can anyone give me the link to download that for FREE
NO TRAILS AT ALL I HATE THEM
Okay(:
& can anyone give me links to other reall good photoeditors LIKE photoshop?

I already have the one from google

AND. I got a new computer so my old editors are gone
There was this one called my PhotoFilter or something
The ICON for it on the DESKTOP was like a blue, yell and red sqaure I think?
Yea link for that please?

Sorry about the multiple questions

The only part I can answer is the last part.
It's called PhotoFiltre (www.photofiltre.com) they have a free version which is pretty good.

I'm not going to suggest places where you can get free Photoshop, as it is illegal and if you really want to use Photoshop, it's worth paying the price.
You can rate me low for that, but I have my opinions ;)

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Im moving out of my parents house on friday and moving into my own place. Im not going to have internet or t.v so im going to be very good.

what are some good songs I can listen to that will keep me entertaind. they dont have to be very popular just good songs i can jam too =D

any suggestions? i rate hiiigh....

or any suggestions of artists yu like

From my taste, I'd recommend AC/DC, Iron Maiden, Judas Priest, Iced Earth, Saxon, Marilyn Manson, Slayer, Deathstars, In Flames, Wednesday 13, Machine Head, Kiss,Alice Cooper and Children Of Bodom.

:D

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What is this song. Its sung by an Irish sounding girl. Here are some of the lyrics..."Intelligent input darling why dont you just have another beer than". If anyone knows the name of this song that would be great. Thanks!

Kate Nash - Foundations

Next time just Google the lyrics you know, you'll get the answer ;)

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http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=34815c2&s=5

To me it looks like an HP.
Not sure which model though.
Sorry.
Maybe if you go to a store, keep your eyes open, look for the keyboard layout + positioning of the touch pad. Also the light gray colour and shiny black case ;)

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Me and my boyfriend are going to buy a puppy, on saturday (it's now wednesday), we are going to someones house to look at their 4 week old labrador puppies to see if we want one.

Now this is very exciting and it's something i desperately want, there's a problem though...

I suffer terribly with my health and panic attacks, i have panic attacks because i have extremely terrible social phobia, my mum came to my house yesterday and i was nearly sik with nerves, thats how bad i am.

I'll be ok with a puppy, we'll be able to take care of it, get it to the vets, plenty of walk ect, but the htought of going to someones house is making me sik and have panick attacks.

Would it be rude to ring the lady before hand and explain a little about my social phobia, not go into details, just tell her how i have panic attacks in new situations and ask if we could be shown the puppys with just one person in the room rather than her family?

Ideally i'd want her to say she would bring us a puppy to have a look at but they are a 25 minute drive away and i've never spoken to the lady so i don;t know if she's nice or understanding, and i know how rude and arogant people can be when it comes to mental health.

What do you think? and how do you think you/your parents would react if they had the same phonecall?

Thank you xxx

I think calling her and explaining her your condition is the best thing to do.
Just ask if it could be you, your boyfriend and her in the room.
I'm sure that she will be very understanding, after all, you can't help it.
My brother has a slight problem with being in a room by himself with people he doesn't know, so when he changed dentists, he called in advance and asked if his checkup could be done without the assistant, and the dentist was fine with this.
I'm sure that she's a lovely person, and she will not have a problem with this.
:)

Good luck!

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i like a guy how do i know if he likes me to

One of the hardest questions one can be asked :P Alrighty, here I go.

If a guy makes a lot of eye-contact or physical contact with you(not rape :P) as in puts his hand on yours or around you or just likes hugging you, these are signs that he's interested.
Does he talk to you a lot? Is he a little shy around you? Does he remember things you tell him? Like I told a guy I liked about my favorite band, and then three months later he told me that the band was doing a show in our town. Things like that?
Do you catch him looking at you sometimes? Does he flirt with you or have you heard from others that he's said something about you?

If you could give me more information about this guy, for instance if you have classes together, etc then I could help you better.
Because I have no information, it's almost impossible to answer this...

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Hey there guys =]
When I was in middle school, I decided to post my poetry on the website poetry.com, little did I know it was just a scam. There is NO way to delete my poetry. I supposedly have to call them. I recently stumbled upon the site because I remembered I posted there, to be precise, 10 poems. -_- It's unfair... But, can someone be kind enough to tell me some good poetry sights where my stuff can't just be copied and pasted, and where I have the right to delete and suspend my account or whatnot? I know GS poetry is a great site, but im looking for others =/

Flirty

Well, a few of my friends use www.deviantart.com for their poetry. Although it is more for images an such, a lot of people use it for posting other types of art.
Maybe you'll like it? :)

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I'm looking to get a piercing in my left ear, as I've gotten bored of the traditional one lobe piercing :P .

However, I'm not really sure WHICH piercing to get, and I don't know which one would suit my ear the best... I had my eye on the rook, and I still do, but I want to ask other people's opinions as to what they think, you might be able to reveal another piercing to me that would look a lot better :) .

Here's a photo of my left ear...
http://socialvampyres.deviantart.com/art/your-opinion-109985792

So.... which piercing would you recommend?

Please let me know what you think, I'm going to get it done next month and want to know, as I can't really be completely subjective about my own ear... :P

Thank you so much in advance!
:)

I think either the;

anti-tragus:
http://www.bmezine.com/pierce/01-ear/A80811/high/ntic-anti-tragus.jpg

snug:
http://www.bmezine.com/pierce/01-ear/A90107/high/nty0-left-ear.jpg

rook:
http://www.bmezine.com/pierce/01-ear/A90115/high/nxv2-fresh-rook-piercing.jpg

or as said before, Industrial.

But in the end it all comes down to what you like the most, and what you are comfortable with.
For instance, my friend had her industrial done, it suited her amazingly and she loved it, but because she DJs, the headphones just constantly irritated the piercing, and she had to remove it.
Think about this.

And I also recommend www.bmezine.com
When you've decided on a piercing, you can read about other people's experiences with the piercing :P

Good luck and happy piercing! :)

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Yesterday I tried using a new concealer called invisible concealer medium by covergirl. when i woke up this morning i had very small skin-colored yet notable bumps under my eyes, but no where else where i applied it. i did not remove it before i fell asleep. why would this happen and how can i prevent it from happening again? if i need to remove it, what is a good way to remove make-up?

You should always take off concealer before you go to sleep, so your face can breathe.
I suggest just washing with water, or using a simple make up remover. Just go to any drugstore and look for makeup removing wipes, that's what I use to remove concealer before I go to sleep.

:)

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http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=9188478

This game, does it mean that you can download the sims 2, the sims 2 nightlife expansion pack, and the Sims Celebration stuff ?

Yeah, all the games are included in that pack :)

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My friend is having an affair with a married man. I found out he is also having an affair with another woman at the same time. Should I tell my friend? She keeps suggesting this man loves her and will leave his wife for her; however, I know he is giving the other woman the same line. He bought my friend a clock radio for Christmas, he bought the other woman a brand new Mustang. What should I do???

Let your friend know the truth. This guy is an asshole, and he's just going to hurt your friend.
Tell her the truth, or let her find out for herself by going to him and saying ''I saw you with another woman'' or something similar.
If your friend finds out after being with him for a very long time, she's going to be emotionally hurt for a very long time, and she may be scared of relationships.

Good luck.

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I want a chia pet in the form of an elephant...Is it possible to grow it in a school locker?
haha, i want it at school...cuz i'm there most. :)

thanks!
:D

I don't think it'd work as there's no light..and not enough 'fresh' air.
Unless your locket is very lit up, it won't grow.

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A long time ago, when I was six, (Very long time!) I got hit in the mouth with a golf club, and I got 10 stitches, 5 on the outside, and 5 on the inside of my mouth. I lost TONS of blood. Ever since, I've been freaked out at the very mention of golf. Is this normal? And how do I get over this?

It's normal. When I was about 4 I fell down the stairs at my grandma's place, and hit my lip on a metal stair edge and I had to get a lot of stitches. So since then I'm always scared of going down stairs that have metal edges. Even though I don't remember the accident.
I think you should play some golf games on a PS3 or Xbox or whatever...even internet..then watch a bit of golf on tv..and then eventually go on a mini-golf course with a friend. Try to overcome this fear step by step. But don't force too much on yourself in one go.

Good luck! :)

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18/f

I'm currently planning out my second tattoo, and I think I have everything figured out about it. It's a quote by my hero: "You want some art? Come and get it." I know what kind of script I want it written in, and how big I want it. I'm very picky about the art that goes on my body.

My only problem is, I don't know where to get it done! My first tattoo is really big, and covers the area between my shoulder blades on my back. And I don't want a tramp stamp. I'm thinking about the words spiraling around my wrist, but I'm not sure.

Hiding it isn't an issue, since one day I plan to get an entire sleeve done. I just need some idea of good places to get a quote tattooed. Thanks!

The wrist sounds good, but what about it going down your side, or just on your hip?
My friend got quite a short quote on her side, going down and it looks good :)

And thank god you don't like tramp-stamps :P

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Hello, what are some weird stories that have to do with ghosts. Like, have you ever felt one around you? Anyones storeis would be cool?

It was a few months back. The floorboards in my room, right in front of my door creak. I was sleeping and then there was a creak like somebody had entered the room, and that kind of woke me up, but I thought I was dreaming and then it felt like someone had thrown something at me. Like I could feel the place on my shoulder. As if someone had thrown a paperback book at me or something. But I was home alone, and my door was close.
I was honestly scared shitless that night :P

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Is the a mobile version of Cyanide and Happiness (explosm.net?) Like lolcats, I got the mobile version of it, so all I have to do it press the next arrow on my phone. but for cyanide and happiness.. i have to go to the actual website and its hard. thanks...

Sadly no :(
I know how you feel. I'm obsessed and it's hard to use it on phones/PSPs.

Sorry!

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