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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

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i realize you dont like love questions like these but i hope you can help. heres my problem. i basiclly like a really popular guy. hes friends with everyone all the cliques too. hes amazing. but i'm the type, well, that doesnt get noticed casue i'm not in any clique. i've talk to him online bout music but never in person except for maybe a thing like " can i borrow a pencil." i really want to get to know him but i dont want it to be obvious i like him though. so what should i do? thank you so much!

Just start making conversations go beyond borrowing pencils. Maybe talk about music like you do online. Maybe find random ways to "just happen" to bump into him at school.

Just start being like you would be to become friends with someone. Remember, you can't just jump into a best friendship until you've really been together a lot and really know the person.

--Jack
(16/m)

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What is the difference between orgasim and cumming

I'll use urbandictionary.com

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=orgasm

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=cumming


I'd rather not dirty my page with these words- but I think you'll get the point from the websites.

--Jack
(16/m)

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Well im 15[male] me and my girlfriend are really in love....
but the thing is im homeschooled and shes not....
and i was scared that if i went back to school-that things might change between us ...???we wouldnt be going to the same school...thats the thing....but we will be next yea.... but if you could help me out and just answer-

would anything change between us if i went back to school.....but if she really loves me,it wouldnt matter right?

Honestly, I don't see why that would even affect it. If you're already not going to school this year.. but you will be next year- then I don't see how that could cause her to not "love" you.

Please elaborate if I'm missing something =D

--Jack
(16/m)

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i have a huge crush on this guy but i denied it to everyone including him. Well Em, him and one of our friends were hanging and at the end of the night he was bringing me home and we had sex. Having sex with him just increased my feelings for him. I'm afraid to tell him that i want to be with him. I don't want him to think that i like him because of just the sex because thats not the situation at all. I liked him before we had sex, sex just made it stronger.

how do i tell him? should i tell him?

If you want to date him- tell him. Just be clear on the fact that you liked him before- you were just embarrassed to say it in front of everyone.


Does this help?
I can add more, if you wish- just say so in feedback =D

--Jack
(16/m)

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I kinda got my girlfriend pregnant. I told her i was wearing a condom but i wasnt. And now shes pregnant. WHat do i do?

Tell her that you lied to her.

And if you don't want to do that, well... actually.. that's your only option.


I really don't know what else to say..

--Jack
(16/m)

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Lately my school has been talking to us about abortion. They think it's wrong and I'm not sure about it. I'm NOT pregnant, but there are girls in my school who are and each of them has said they wish they would have had an abortion. I think it's wrong, but it could also be for the best if one was to have an abortion.

Please voice your opinions on abortion. I would love to hear everything you have to say about it.

I am absolutely, 100% against abortion. I think its wrong and I think that there are no excuses when it comes to getting it. I don't care if a girl is raped, has consensual sex, or whatever.

I think that if a girl is raped, well.. its certainly not their fault, and I'm not suggesting it is. But I think that they should still have the baby and just put it up for adoption.

If someone doesn't want the baby- I find it completely heartless to just say "Oh- I don't want it so I'll just abort it... whatever,"

PUT THE THING UP FOR ADOPTION AT THE VERY LEAST!


Sorry...

--Jack
(16/m)

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Can anyone tell me what exactly IS the birds and bees theory? i've always heard it for so long and noone knows what it means, even the teachers i just doens't know

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_birds_and_the_bees
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/features/birdsandbees_003842.htm

Those might help =D

--Jack
(16/m)

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what does 'BAMF' mean?


alot of people say it on MySpace, and i have no idea what it means?
thanks!

B- Bad
A- Ass
M- Mother
F- Fudger

=D

--Jack
(16/m)

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OKAY.. so heres the question:

how can you really tell if a guy likes you more than a friend?

im friends with this guy, and im starting to like him, how can i tell if he likes me too without actually asking him?

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=506340

From there:
I'm going to give you a list of what guys tend to do when they like girls:

1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.

2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.

3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...

4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.

5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".

6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.

If you like this guy- and he does all or most of those things- my best bet is that he does like you. That means one and only one thing: Ask him to make sure, and then try the relationship out. Who knows- it could be great!

--Jack
(16/m)

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Not to lable anyone but this dude i like has the qualities of an 'emo'. I called him an emo last time and everyone yelled at me. Any who, were going on this fieldtrip thing, and its the same day as our freshman dance. So, only me and him are going and i wont know what to say to him!
Any ideas??

Apologize perhaps.

If you feel bad about what you said- then that's really what you should do first. You shouldn't judge someone before you really even know them. I'm sure you already know this, so I'm not going to go on and on about it. All I'm going to say is that the next step would be to just apologize to him and maybe just start some small talk about favorite music, etc. if you care to get to know him.

Good luck

--Jack
(16/m)

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Hi I had unprotected sex with by boyfriend, but he didnt not cum in me! i dont think that he pre-ejaculate in me either, is there any chance that i can get pregnant?

If you started your period- you're not pregnant.


Be careful next time.

--Jack
(16/m)

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Is depression or more specifically bipolar disorder genetic? Could it possibly be passed from a parent to the child?

http://www.healthline.com/adamcontent/bipolar-disorder?utm_medium=ask&utm_source=smart&utm_campaign=article_toc&utm_term=Bipolar+disorder+risk+factor&ask_return=Bipolar+disorder#causesincidenceandriskfactors

http://www.healthcentral.com/bipolar/behc/?ap=800



I'm actually going to assume that you searched this on google- because I did- and it didn't give a straight answer.

Try those articles.. they might give an answer.

If not- tell me.. and I'll be generous and find out for you..

--Jack
(16/m)

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I hate to be one of those people who ask you questions like these, but I'm sure you understand that if hear someone say something, you tend to get over-sensitive about things sometimes. This is one of those cases. My best guy friend (who has a girlfriend) and I are extremely close, always talking and being around each other. It's not considered cheating if I just lay my head on his shoulder, is it? Someone said that to me, and I got overly-sensitive about the matter and am now, worrying about it. Sorry for the lousy question, but I'd feel so much better if you gave me a cut-to-the-chase answer. =)

Confusing question, kind of..

But that isn't cheating.


That's just about as "to-the-chase" as I can get.

=D

--Jack
(16/m)

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ok well I really like these 2 guys


the 1st one isz L he's really funny and outspoken and I can tell he likes me too cusz he flirts with me alot and says how cute i am and if i miss school how much he missed me and he is just super sweet. but in front of his friends he's really quite. the thing isz one of hisz close friends dose not think i'm cute enough or good enough for any of his friends. Also thre'sz disz other girl that likes him and she's really cute and he seems kinda interested plus his friend aproves of her.


The second guy Letsz call him "p" is really quite. He barely talks. And when he dose he has disz really cute baby voice. His smile it just makes me melt and isz da nicest guy i have ever met. He goes out of his way to help me but we just never talk for some reason..i get really shy how do i start a conversation???how can i tell if he likes me or is he just being nice? oh and he has da same friend that dose not aprove!!!! I think the friend dat dose not aprove he suspects i like him and keeps getting in the way.


who should i go for?and how do i solve the problems between the guy i should choose and me?

My few words of wisdom:

Follow your heart. Don't let me tell you who to pick. Its not my choice, is it ;]?

I think if your heart tells you to go after the first guy, well then do it. If you heart tells you not to, well then go after the 2nd guy.

They both seem about the same- and no one on here knows anything more about them then what you have just told us.

Thanks for asking to my inbox =D.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I have been in a relationship for two years next week and I haven't told him I love him yet. I'm just not sure if I love him and if I'm not sure I'm not going to tell him that I do. He told me he loved me six months ago and I believe that he really does. I'm okay with him saying I love you, but should I love him by now? I mean we have known each other for five years and dating for two. I would think I would be able to say those three words to him. If I'm not in love with him should I break it off before he gets too attached to me? I care for him a lot, but I don't want to hurt him any more than I possibly could. Please help.

If you don't feel like you're ready to say those three words- well then don't. That doesn't mean you hate him- because if you did- you obviously wouldn't have stuck with the relationship as long as you have.

I must add- I FREAKING ADMIRE YOU! You are like the one person who understands how I feel about saying those 3 words when you don't actually mean it yet.

Kudos to you!

--Jack
(16/m)

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15/f

I've told a bunch of my friends about this one guy that I really really like. All of them agree that we would be a great couple. He's in 1 of my classes, and next to one of my other classes. Here are some things i've heard

1. In the class that we are both in together- we had a test on thursday, and when I went to go up to the front of the classroom to turn it in, one of my friends said that he was staring at me.

2. Another one of my friends overheard him talking to his best friend. He was telling his best friend that he likes someone in his best friends class (which is my class)

Does this mean anything? does he like me?

ps- if it helps, my best friend has been all like "(my name) and (his name) sitting in a tree... k.i.s.s.i.n.g" and like writing "(my name) heart's (his name). And like if he stood up to sharpen his pencil or something, she would poke me in the back and point to him. Then I would blush, and she would go "ohh.. you're blushing!"
but she wouldn't say it extremely loud. Just sorta like a whisper but a little louder.

thanks very much

Hmmm... maybe...

But what he's doing just sounds like flirting. Then again.. usually when I do stuff like this- it means I like the girl..


This might help:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=506340

From there:
'm going to give you a list of what guys tend to do when they like girls:

1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.

2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.

3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...

4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.

5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".

6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.

If you like this guy- and he does all or most of those things- my best bet is that he does like you. That means one and only one thing: Ask him to make sure, and then try the relationship out. Who knows- it could be great!

--Jack
(16/m)

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Alright well....

I have a boyfriend, whom i love and he (says) he loves me back [some background info: this is the third time we're back together and he says he'll change for me this time]. well, when we're together we have fun but only if it's just me and him. when we're at school and around his or my friends, he acts different. he talks to alot of girls and says they're nothing to him but i know and he knows they all like him and want to be with him. i get crazy jealous and i have a reason, but when a guy comments me and says i'm a good friend he flips out. he tells me to be who i am and not worry about what people think [more bkgrnd: he's a punk, the type that smokes drinks but he stopped for me... and i'm kind of a good girl] but when i act like myself he makes fun of me and when i talk to guys who are only friends he gets really mad. i told him i'd NEVER cheat on him and i really mean it, but the thing is..he cheated on me twice and i forgave him because everybody makes mistakes, but he ended up feeling like shit (which is good for my part). i really do love him and don't want to break up with him because i don't want to see him end up like a lot of people i know, but it drives me CRAZY how he says one thing and does another and then acts like it's all my fault. all i want to do is keep him from screwing up his life, but at the same time i'm never the same when i'm around him vs. when i'm with MY friends. i want to concentrate on mine and just have fun, but i can't get my mind straight when i keep going back to my feelings.

the question is...should i break up with him?

All of this information given makes me think that you sound like you want to break up with him. If you ever have doubts with a relationship- its never good to continue with it. Meaning that you should probably just end it.

I could go into more detail.. but I'm kind of tired =D.

--Jack
(16/m)

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Well I just started in an education program and I will be with the exact same group of students for the next year and a half. One of the girls has invited me to her wedding social. This is a dance where they have a silent auction, food, family, and it is prior to the wedding by a few months. It is on a Saturday night. A lot of people in my class (a class of about 35) are going. I already bought two tickets to show my support. Well my parents are having a dinner on sunday afternoon, and they really want me to come out for the weekend. I have not been home since the end of august. I didnt go home for thanksgiving either because my boyfriend and I went to his parents' for thanksgiving. I also have 4 younger sisters who will be there, 3 of which I rarely see. My older sister and her 3 month old baby might also be there. I'm not sure why they decided to have a dinner (a big turkey thankgsgiving stlye dinner) but they are. when I told my mom about the social-she asked how well I knew the girl. Well, I dont know her as well as another girl in the class knows her. What should I do? Is it social suicide to not go to the social or am I overanalyzing things?

Think about your priorities. Do you care more about spending time with your family [who it appears that you never see] or hanging with people you don't know as well.

I personally would chose to go home and see my family. I think that your family should be your priority. How would you feel if your family suddenly died in a house fire or something and you never had a chance to say final goodbyes? You probably wouldn't feel very good.

Friends are friends. They might be considered family- but you have no blood relation to them like your family.

Do what you want- but that's just my opinion.

--Jack
(16/m)

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What are some different ways to eat white rice? I've tried it with vinegar, but I'm wondering other ways. I eat it often but I get tired of eating it by itself or with soy sauce. I'm just curious as to how I can spice it up and make it more flavorful.

Add Chinese chicken [General Tso at Sam's Club or Costco] and steamed vegetables along with the sauce that comes with the chicken box.


Seriously- its pretty good- and I despise Chinese food =D.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I was wondering if there's anyone else who hates sports. I feel like I'm the only one. I haaaate going to any sports events but all of my friends love it. Gah! I mean I know it's to socialize, but I can do that elsewhere..

Well anyway, if you hate sports too, why? :)

I DISLIKE sports for a slightly different reason. I personally am not good at sports, therefore I don't enjoy playing them.. but watching them is slightly different. Sure- they can get boring- but sometimes its nice to just sit back and watch other people do the work.. haha.

I love socializing at sports games.. like for my high school =D.

--Jack
(16/m)

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