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I have been in a relationship for two years next week and I haven't told him I love him yet. I'm just not sure if I love him and if I'm not sure I'm not going to tell him that I do. He told me he loved me six months ago and I believe that he really does. I'm okay with him saying I love you, but should I love him by now? I mean we have known each other for five years and dating for two. I would think I would be able to say those three words to him. If I'm not in love with him should I break it off before he gets too attached to me? I care for him a lot, but I don't want to hurt him any more than I possibly could. Please help.
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First off, I have to commend you here. I mean, these days, not many girls or guys think the way you do. Most of them just say "I love you," back, even if they don't really mean it. So I definitely don't believe you should say it back to him, just to make him happy because ultimately, it will only end up hurting him.
I don't think there's a time limit on falling in love with someone, just because he's in love with you, does not mean you should be in love with him also. I went through something similar with my ex-boyfriend, he said I love you for a VERY long time before I said it back, and was really in love with him. So I do believe you could fall in love with him later on, however, if you're having second thoughts about your relationship - that may be a sign to break things off.
I can't really say if it is or isn't, but it definitely could be a good sign of breaking up with him. If you do feel it's best to break up with him, be sure to let him know how much you do care for him, it's just something that couldn't be worked out as a relationship.
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umm..im not sayin you have to fall in love fast but after two years there should be aliitle bit of love somewhere..but i think you should break it off before it get deeper.. than he might get his feelings hurt and i know you dont want that
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My off the cuff response is to tell you that you should end it. He is in love with you. When he says "I love you" its not just an expression of how he feels. Its a call for you to answer.
I had a girlfriend a while back whom I fell in love with. She loved me back, but she couldnt say it to me. We ended because I could not be with someone whom I loved so dearly who couldnt express the same to me.
If you truly are not in love with him after two years, end it. Its more than likely not going to change. Because hes going to be hurt eventually, and the sooner he begins to move on the better for him.
And if you do break it off, make it permanent. Do not take him back.
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If you don't feel like you're ready to say those three words- well then don't. That doesn't mean you hate him- because if you did- you obviously wouldn't have stuck with the relationship as long as you have.
I must add- I FREAKING ADMIRE YOU! You are like the one person who understands how I feel about saying those 3 words when you don't actually mean it yet.
Kudos to you!
--Jack
(16/m)
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