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I need to know if I should go to a dance or go home to paren
Well I just started in an education program and I will be with the exact same group of students for the next year and a half. One of the girls has invited me to her wedding social. This is a dance where they have a silent auction, food, family, and it is prior to the wedding by a few months. It is on a Saturday night. A lot of people in my class (a class of about 35) are going. I already bought two tickets to show my support. Well my parents are having a dinner on sunday afternoon, and they really want me to come out for the weekend. I have not been home since the end of august. I didnt go home for thanksgiving either because my boyfriend and I went to his parents' for thanksgiving. I also have 4 younger sisters who will be there, 3 of which I rarely see. My older sister and her 3 month old baby might also be there. I'm not sure why they decided to have a dinner (a big turkey thankgsgiving stlye dinner) but they are. when I told my mom about the social-she asked how well I knew the girl. Well, I dont know her as well as another girl in the class knows her. What should I do? Is it social suicide to not go to the social or am I overanalyzing things?
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I do not believe that it is social suicide to not go to the social event. The reason why you would not be attending is a good reason, you are going home to see family. I say that family is always a good excuse to miss out on something. I would try not to worry about what others will think of you. From the sounds of it, you would really like to go home and see your family; so do it! If the people going to the social understand why you are not able to make it, then they would be good friends to have. If people do not understand then they do not sound like they would be good friends to have, family seems to be very important to you, so don't sacrafice family time for a social event. I hope I have been able to help! Good luck! :)
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I think I'd have to agree with what Jack said about family and such.
It seems you rarely get to see family especially with them all there at once so it may just be a nice idea to go and see them all and show that they are important to you.
At the end of the day it really is up to you on what you decide to do but I think just missing this one thing wouldn't be so bad. In effect, parties will come and go often enough where you'll ge tthe chance to meet everyone and mingle and such but who knows when you might get another chance to be with all your family at once, especially 3 of your sisters who you rarely see. Lots of food, time to catch up and drinks and such - it sounds like it'll be great. :D
As for the social, you;'ve nothing to hide. If anyone asks why you didn't go just say you wanted to be with family since you rarely get to see your sisters and this was your chance to see them as well as all your family all at the same time at a family get together. I'm sure they would understand. :) However, as I said, overall it's your decision to make. :)
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Think about your priorities. Do you care more about spending time with your family [who it appears that you never see] or hanging with people you don't know as well.
I personally would chose to go home and see my family. I think that your family should be your priority. How would you feel if your family suddenly died in a house fire or something and you never had a chance to say final goodbyes? You probably wouldn't feel very good.
Friends are friends. They might be considered family- but you have no blood relation to them like your family.
Do what you want- but that's just my opinion.
--Jack
(16/m)
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