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Underage Sex
Im 14
When I Was 11 my Boyfriend and I broke up. He Wanted to have sex but I Said No So He Ripped my pannies and shoved his "dick" in. When he did that he took my virginty. I Called It Rape.Ever Since then I Have Been Having Sex. I Want To Tell My Mom But I Am Scared.Everytime I Have Sex,Afterwards I always feel like im going to get caught. The boy I am having sex with right now I Like Him But he just wants to be "sex buddys".I Just Found out one of my childhood friends has been liking or loving and talking to him for 2 years. She`s coming to fight me friday or saturday. My sister told me thar should stop talkin to him but I realy like him and I think i might be pregnant by him.
What should I do?
and how can i tell if im pregnant or not without having a pregnacy test or waiting for my period to come?
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EDIT: Just incase you may read back over this, I do understand that you're scared and I'm sorry if I was a little harsh on you. But you need to here the truth and I only want the best for the people I give advice to, I really do care, and if I didn't feel what I've told you is the best for you, I wouldn't have told you it in the first place. I wish you nothing but the best of luck.
First off, I'm assuming that you didn't tell anyone that you were raped. There isn't much you can do now, but you really should have told someone. This guy, I mean, if he raped you, he'll rape another girl. I'm very concerned about that.
Second, I don't recommend being "sex buddies" with any guy, but that's my personal beliefs and because of your age. I don't want you to be used only for sex, and that's unfortunately, what's happening here. I would't suggest participating in a fight either, I'm not for that. No guy is worth literally fighting over, I don't care who he is. I would leave this guy alone, especially, if he only wants to sleep with you.
Third and most importantly, if you think you're pregnant -- I suggest finding out soon. Getting pregant and having a baby is no joke, it's a very difficult thing to go through and it takes a lot of responsiblility, etc. There isn't any other way to know if you're pregnant, other than getting a pregnancy test. I think it would best, even though it will be hard, to tell your mother about everything and go get a pregnancy test.
Or if you don't want to do that, find another trusted adult and have them take you to get a pregnancy test. Then, I would still suggest telling your mother.
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First off did you ever tell anyone that you were raped? If not you should, even if its just as much as telling a friend to get it off your chest. You should consider telling a parent or counselor if you haven't already though. It sounds to me like sex is something you do because you want to feel liked. It doesn't have to be that way though, your fourteen years old! You have so much time for all this, enjoy your childhood a little more while you still have it. Trust me!! Its ok to be single, it gives you time to be independent and find yourself. Like the phrase, "you must love yourself in order to truly love another" you have to be happy with yourself or you won't find real happiness with anyone. This guy that just wants to have sex, he isn't worth it. About the person coming to fight you well I say ignore it. Violence never solves anything it only stirs up the problem even more. Be the bigger person, you won't regret it.
As far as pregnancy the only smart thing to do would be to purchase a test from a local drug store or visit a doctor asap if you're really serious about this!
Hope I helped. Good luck hun.:]
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