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i'm going to get straight to the point, so my boyfriend and i had sex for the second time. and the thing is... i was kind of expecting the sex to be about 45 minutes. but the sex went on for about 2 hours, and he couldn't cum! i think it's kind of weird, if he doesn't know if he cummed or not.. because after he pulled it out, he was still hard. so we kept having sex until he did cum. he said he was satisfied... but he doesn't know why he can't cum. he pre-cums but he didn't really exactly go all the way. so he was hard throughout the whole time, and when we stopped... he said he think he did.. but why is he still hard? O_o help? (link)
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Is he on any medication? If he is that may be the problem. A lot of prescription medicine has sexual side-effects that effect erections, lubrication, wetness in females and ejaculation in males.
It could also be psychological. He may feel pressure that he's putting on himself to satisfy you etc. He may also be fearful of getting you pregnant, pain and or overwhelmed. Talk to him about medication and what's happening. He may need to see a doctor. I doubt it's a physical problem.
As far as ejaculating goes there's no mistaking when it has happened as he would surely feel that sensation as would his partner. Be patient with him though. 2 hours however is a bit much to endure.
Also, it's a myth that guys ejaculate every single time too. The problem is either in his head or medication most likely.
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i have had some problems with friends in school latley and i got my unch period changed so i wouldnt have to be with those girls any more. the counciler wants me to tell him their names so we can all have a talk but my mom already tried and nothing worked. we asked him not to but he says he really wants to. they'll just make fun of me for telling on them because thats the way they are. even so the counciler wants us to do this. space fem, what should i do? (link)
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Tell your counsellor that you appreciate them trying to help you but that your family has decided that such a talk would be detrimental to your health/well-being. Let them know you will not partake and will not be having any further sessions with them.
Guidance Counsellors are NOT psychologists nor psychiatrists and really have little in the way of training to offer anyone sage advice on what to do with bullying, their life, career etc or very bad situations.
If you want help with your social skills see a psychologist and learn how to work to the point where nobody can bother you. If it's a physical bullying issue see a psychiatrist, work through the damage they've done, social skills, self-esteem etc and empower yourself.
As for this counsellor have your parents tell them or tell your principal that they aren't respecting you or your wishes at all and that you'll no longer be having sessions or having tem act on your behalf.
You can and should refuse to name your tormenters and be forced to "talk it out" It NEVER achieves a thing except to make them want to go after you even harder.
Go about your business you don't have to do a thing any counsellor at school says if you don't feel it's right or safe to do so. They've over-stepped their boundary and I'm sure your parents will set them straight. Don't offer up the names or other info if you feel it will lead to further problems.
Good Counsellors actually LISTEN to the people they are trying to help and do not force their will on others if the student isn't comfortable. This is why they're a guidance counsellor with no formal training in a school dreaming of doing a shrink's job.
If they won't listen go to the medical professionals who actually have a degree and training to do what this person can't. If they are physically attacking you at school and the bullying is more than words document it and learn how to fend yourself. Dump one of them on their ass and they'll back off.
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I am a 13 year old girl.I like this guy who says he loves me but when I asked him out he said no. I asked why if he loved me so much and he said its because theres this other girl.
I love this boy and cant seem to get over him no matter how much he hurts me (emotionally.) I hate how all of my friends say to just get over him when its not that easy, i need help figuring out what to do!
-Morgan (link)
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He may be nice but he has no clue what he wants. He's bad news for you and also for the other girl he supposedly likes. It's almost certain both you and the other girl are going to get hurt by the games he is playing.
He's immature and at 12 or 13 has no idea what he wants and is looking to have his cake and ice cream here. You can't let him screw with you and your emotions. Tell him flat out to make up his mind on who he wants to date or leave you alone. Be firm!
If someone loves you and wants to be with you they don't tell you this and then say the same to some other girl or go after her. What he's doing isn't fair and you should confront him.
It's hard to get over someone you like especially when you wanted a relationship so bad. Nobody said it was easy to forget and move forward. You have to do it though because the situation isn't right and you don't want to get hurt. Confront him, be firm and then tell him to leave you alone. That's about your only option for dealing with him. Lean on your friends for support.
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where do u put your finger in the top hole or the bottom one like where exactally (link)
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This should help as it's a diagram of the female internal and external reproductive system. It will give you a firm grasp of where everything is located on your body.
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/body/anatomy_pink_parts_female_sexual_anatomy
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I just need someone else I guess to help me plan ahead on what I can do to help my family. I'll try to summarize as best as possible.
- My father lost a trial and is now serving 5 years.
- My mother has been sick since I was 9 with various things (pancreatic cancer, plus more.)
- I have five other brothers and sisters, two younger sisters still living at home and one younger brother is as well.
I came home after I heard my father was going into jail to help out, however, I wasn't given power over accounts or to pay bills or anything. My mother wanted to do it.
My father left a generous sum of money for my family to live off of, and then there was additional money in another account he wanted to roll over after his birthday so the taxes wouldn't be too heavy and use that to help support the big house my mother and my siblings are living in.
While I have been working and trying to just help clean up the house, my sisters stole my mother's debit card and has used it to buy $400 cell phones, a trip to Florida one weekend, fixing a friend's car, etc. They spent nearly $20,000 in about two months. (Again, my mother is sick and doesn't keep up with financial statements too well.)
When I found out, I and another sibling put a stop to it but all we could do is get the card canceled. (I couldn't get a hold of my mom at that second and we wanted to stop it before they spent any more.) Nothing they bought is really returnable. They broke the cell phone, and other things were from places where things it couldn't be returned, or like hotel room stays, etc.
My parents were told, but little was done. My sisters were told to get jobs and they would pay back the money, but it has been a month since then. My sisters are hanging out with friends and not working. I even offered to help them get jobs, and it's like pulling teeth.
My brother living here is working hard and paying for things with his own money to help support the house, as I am. If my father ends up staying for the full five years, I don't think even with us both working full time and the money pulled from my dad's savings that we could afford to keep the house running on our own for the next five years.
My questions are:
- What could I do to help maybe lower house payments or raise more money to help out?
- What can I do about my sisters that spent the money? My mom won't kick them out of the house or do much more than yell at them.
- How does parole work and what is the likelihood of it happening? (I live in Louisiana if that's needed.)
- My mother thinks she can get on disability, and it would help if she could, but I was wondering with so much money in her account from the stock, would the government say she has too much to take in disability?
We can't sell the house, not in the current condition and with no one buying, we'd be paying mortgage and rent if we were to move someplace smaller.
Anyone have some ideas? I really appreciate any thoughts. (link)
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Consult a lawyer about your mother's name and credit being ruined from children who stole her card. There's something that can be done. In the meantime, have them charged with theft by the police. Kick them out yourself and get a restraining or trespass order.
Have a lawyer figure out how to give you control or power of attorney over your mother's interests and control of the house. Your sister's need a hard dose of reality or they'll forever walk all over you and your mother until she's in the grave.
Convince your mother to sell the house or if you get control of it do it yourself. Use the money to pay off her $20,000 debts or if they're too high in your opinion consider getting her to file bankruptcy. She won't be able to use a credit card for seven years but she'll be free of everything they racked up.
You mentioned that the condition of the house isn't great but there must be a way to sell it in current condition. When it comes to disability checks have a doctor help there with advocating, signing off or a lawyer who can fight for it. Thats one thing she should get no problem.
Nothing good will happen until your siblings who think they can get away with anything and have a free ride are forced out. Your mother can't handle them but you can and legally too. What they did was theft and if you file a police report, charges and get an order to keep them from the house things will change fast.
It's best to ask your own father about parole and the charges he was convicted of. He will know as would his lawyer if you contacted them about that and options. It varies on the case.
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I think my mom is cheating on my dad
I recently went down stairs to put my friends bathing suit outside
My mom was on the phone, talking quitely, giggling
I went downstairs again cause I saw my Dad come home with food (doritos, soup, ect)
So I'm wondering whats going on, so I test my mom
As I pass her, I say 'Dads home' in a nonemotional, dull voice
The moment I said so, she says to the phone "Oh. I gotta go. Kay -giggle- bye"
She hangs up and goes to lay on the couch, pretending nothing happened
My dad walks in, shes dull and slightly bitching towards him
Somethings going on. I noticed yesterday
How can I ask my mom if she's cheating on my dad?
This was long; oh well. (link)
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I think you may be jumping to conclusions here. First of all, you never said who she was talking with. This leads me to think that you aren't for certain. Your mom might have been talking to just about anyone and laughing.
As for the fight married couples do that often. Her being snarly with him may have nothing to do with who was on the opposite end of that phone. She could have laughed because that person said something funny.
I don't see evidence from that of cheating unless you've left out a lot of other details. Maybe she wasn't pretending nothing happened--maybe its because it didn't. Something may be going on regarding fighting but I can't see how you can ask her about cheating just based on this. If there's a pattern in her behavior than you could.
If you approached her with this expect her to be defensive if something's wrong. I'm sure she'll put your mind at ease. There's no nice way of asking but don't go in accusatory or hostile as it will get you into trouble whether it's your business or not.
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what can I do to lose weight and how many calories do I need to eat a day? (link)
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That all depends on your height. That's how your target weight is set. You can then calculate your BMI (Body Mass Index) using a chart to see if you are overweight, underweight or in the right range. It's the same thing when figuring out calories.
I can help you further if you hit my INBOX and give me your height and weight. Asa far as a diet plan goes leave that one up to your doctor. They can refer you to a nutritionist nad write something up very easily.
When it comes to exercise walking, running, swimming or any team sports will help. Self-defense classes definitely will get you in shape too. If you eat right and exercise and cut out junk food, fried foods etc. you'll notice a fast difference. I've dropped over 50 pounds in 7 months.
I need to know your height because you may not need to diet at all but think that you do over something related to self-image. Definitely edit your question and fill in some of those gaps and you'll get a lot better advice from us/me.
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here the deal..
me and my boyfriend have had sex about 4-5 times i think and i lost it to him like a month back i feel nothing .. IS THAT NORMAL?? when are you suppost to feel pleasure? how many times do i have to have sex with him to finally feel something? and well i dont think he feels anything either because he never comes (he didnt loose his virginity to me he's experience). whats wrong with me i cant satisfy him and i feel nothing as well ! during sex does he HAVE TO COME to show that he felt pleasure? because he has never ever come and we had it 4-5 times now .. and i want to satisfy him i really do but me not feeling anything doesnt really motivate me to do much during sex. i try and attempt but i dont know it feels awkward .. i really want to pleasure him.. i neeed help !! >. (link)
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If he's never complained and believe me he would by now than he's satisfied. He doesn't need to ejaculate to be and not all males do every time out.
In fact if you're a new partner he might be feeling pressure to perform or fear. If he's worked up over getting you pregnant or something else that is psychological it will affect ejaculation and what he's getting out of it.
The same goes double with you as you're putting too much pressure on yourself that you can't enjoy it. Are you also fearful of pain and tensing up yourself? That can be the source of not finding pleasure.
You should also know that most women do not orgasm from just penetration. The top two thirds of the vagina contain ZERO nerve endings. That's why most women prefer clitoral and other stimulation at the same time as intercourse.
You should get a book on human sexuality and read it together that contains info on different positions. What you may need to do is find one that has deeper thrusting and hits different spots. One of the more pleasurable and comfortable for women is the doggy position.
Aside from that don't worry about this as tensing up all the time can lead to vaginismus which is
painful contraction of the vagina in response to physical contact (penetration) or pressure (esp. in sexual intercourse).
Drop all this concern about him being satisfied and try to enjoy the moment. If he wasn't enjoying himself you have heard a lot about it from him by now. Like I said maybe the problem on his end is an irrational fear, not satisfying you, fear of hurting you etc etc. or just not used to a new partner. Relax and both of you will be okay in the long run.
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One of my bosses at work keeps giving me mixed signals. First, he stares at me A LOT. I have a friend who works with me who says he checks me out a lot, sometimes when Im not paying attention. 2. He always talks to me or finds a reason to come around my area. Sometimes it feels like he follows me. Like today I was waiting at work for someone and he was quite a few feet away but all he did was stare and then when me and my friend go to leave the building he is right behind us and so close behind me that his feet accidentally kick mine. Then he asks me what I bought and stuff like that. The same thing happened yesterday also! One thing I should mention is that he is married! And him and his wife just adopted a baby! PlUS I have a bf who actually works with me and these 2 guys know each other! My boss is around his early-middle 30s and I just turned 21. He also mentioned to my boyfriend that he was upset that me and my bf werent having a baby right now cuz he wanted to adopt it. No idea what that means. Should also mention that my boss is known as the Jerk at work, so it is quite odd he is so nice to me. He jokes around with me a lot too, always making small talk. I dont know he just always seems to be the same place I am, always making small talk, staring, etc....what is his deal??? (link)
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He's sick. It sounds like he has a real problem here mentally. A normal person would know that they can't comment on your relationships or make weird comments, follow you around and have an obsession that's borderline sexual with you.
It's very creepy and who knows what it could escalate into. He's more than a jerk and obviously of great concern to others who don't know what to do about him. I would go to human resources or those higher than him and let them know you feel uncomfortable, harassed etc. and what he says and does that is creepy or outlandish.
Document it all and file a complaint with them or have him charged with harassment (sexual, non-sexual). There must be tons of co-workers who will back you up. If you feel your concerns are being ignored it would make sense to get out of that environment all together so that you are secure. This guy has head problems and sounds like a ticking time bomb that they've mistakenly tolerated or ignored.
If I was the focus of this guy's constant obsession I would document what he says/does, never be alone with him, have others take you to your car and just get out of there. You can't scold these types or tell them that it's inappropriate as that just fuels what they are doing.
Try complaining to human resources or the people he takes orders from and if they do nothing move on and find a secure place to work. Make sure your co-workers, friends etc. know what this guy is doing so they can ensure he never bothers you outside of work either.
At one moment these individuals can be nice, joking around etc. and then at another exactly what you describe. If he scares you enough to write me than you need to make some noise about this and get another job elsewhere. It's a security issue not a money one. And you know it.
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okay , well me and my boyfriend just got into this whole sex thing. well he's experienced for i am not. i lost my virginity to him like 3 weeks back but we had sex 2 more times and it feels like nothing to me no pain no pleasure.. is that weird? and because i dont feel anything i dont do much either which he doesnt like hes always on top doing the work and we kind of loose the moment because i dont feel anything.. and im such a rookie at it i tried being on top i have no clue what to do he laughs at me >.< and when he's on top i dont think he's enjoying since im not really into it myself. and how do you know if your tight or loose? and we've TRIED to have sex 3 times and i just lay there he does the work but it seems hes not satisfied he;s not getting any pleasure out of it? how can i make him feel pleasure? make him feel good? when we have sex its not a good moment when we get into it you know yeah but since i feel nothing and i think he doesnt either it kinda sucks i wanna pleasure him i just dont know how i suck at sex BLAHH!. (link)
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This guy really sounds inconsiderate, immature and non-supportive. You may not like me saying that but if you really think about it that's the truth. Maybe you should re-evaluate being with him let alone having sex with him.
Would a caring partner laugh at your attempts? It's HIS fault not yours that he's unsatisfied. I mean what is he expecting here? You haven't done this before and the KEY THING: He hasn't told you or shown you what he enjoys.
How are you to know? He also hasn't done anything to make you feel comfortable either. Trust me, you don't suck at this. You just haven't any experience and will gain it through learning and trial and error.
You both need to learn how to communicate about sex with each other, boundaries and what you do or don't like. Hold off on having it until then. In the meantime get educated on birth control and start reading books about sexuality to become more aware.
Try different positions as that can affect pleasure and comfort greatly. Also the top part of the vagina has NO nerve endings. Most women don't feel much pleasure from just penetration and often need clitoral or other stimulation at the same time. Hang in there as eventually you'll figure out what works.
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Hey there i was wondering can a man be circumsized at any age? also does being circumsized inhance sex and make it last longer or is that all mind over matter... Sorry if this makes no sense lol
Thank you for listening (link)
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Urologists are reluctant to circumcise adult males because of the pain involved. They usually only do so if the person's foreskin is cracked, has tears and cannot be pulled back to expose the glans.
The glans (head of penis) are exposed when one is circumcised and rub against clothing, underwear etc. making them rough. This decreases sensitivity whereas a non-circumcised male has skin protecting the glans.
It's believed that they receive slightly more pleasure as a result of it not being permanently exposed. The glans are protected and more sensitive with moisture as well.
These days a lot of parents aren't circumcising infants. There's nothing in the way of benefits when it comes to decreased risk of rare penile cancer, STDS etc. Mainly it's being done for religious reasons and or cosmetic so the kid will look like his father, everyone else in the locker room etc.
That said it can be done at any age but urologists prefer their to be a real reason such as cracking, pain when you try to retract foreskin or inability to do so above cosmetic reasons.
Another reason to get it done is cleanliness. It's believed that it's easier for children not to have to be taught how to retract the foreskin to clean the glans. Also smegma which is a hard, yellow discharge dries on the glans in intact males.
I'm letting you know all of this in addition to what you asked incase you wanted to be circumcised as an adult male.
Not that it matters but I recommend circumcision for the reasons above as it's very hard to fix an adult foreskin that is cracked or won't retract. Others may differ but I think it's right.
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can u masterbait while your on your period? as in "fingering" (link)
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If you're comfortable with it than there's nothing wrong. Nothing bad or that will hurt you will occur from it. I'm not female but I imagine it would be messier that's about it.
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I really really like this guy and ive never liked someone as much as i like him. Hes really sweet to me but much more experienced. He tells me all the time thats its cool that im a virgin that i should keep it and that hes not going to try to have sex with me. When we are kissing and he thinks it might go to far he just stops for awhile to cool off. He even checks to make sure im ok when doing just the little things. But im very confused one of my best guy friends hates him and tells me all the time that hes just going to use me for sex and then leave. The other night i was talking to one of my friends and one of his best friends and then he tells me that he thinks hes going to use me for sex because hes been having sex with girls and then just moving on. I asked him if he said anything if he had flat out said he was going to use me for sex but his friend said he has said nothing at all. So what do i do? is he using me for sex? I really really like him and i really trust him but its very hard when people are constantly telling me bad things about him. When we are together hes so sweet and honest he never pressures so how do i believe these awful things people are saying? do i talk to him? if so what should i say? (link)
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If he was going to use you and knew you weren't ready for sex than he would have left you long ago. It sounds like you've got a really wonderful guy here. Don't let go of him.
As for your friend she either likes him and wants you out of the picture or has some problem of her own with him. Tell her you're getting pissed off with her constant slamming of him. Tell her to put a sock in it already. She's stepped over a boundary here.
As far as other girls go they may be jealous or he may have burned them in the past. Even if that's so it looks like he learned and grew up. If he wasn't willing to wait for you he'd have left and found someone else willing to have sex.
Unless he's given you a reason to distrust him than you have no problem except for one with your friend who can't stop voicing her opinion of your relationship to you. As much as you may like her she needs to be scolded here. It's not her place to say stuff unless she knows 100% something's wrong. And, she doesn't.
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So recently i decided that i wanted to try weed. DONT TELL ME ITS BAD. i dont care. i'm going to try it. but anyways, what should i expect? im going to be with this guy that i like. i like him a lot. will i try to do what i wanted to do to him sober? (have sex)...we're going to do it in the woods. he said i have nothing to worry about. just trying to make sure, any input appreciated.
thanks,
gina! (16 f) (link)
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Sex, alcohol and marijuana are a bad combination. You'll wind up doing something you'll deeply regret and or not remember later. You could wind up pregnant, taken advantage of etc. etc. You have to make sure he's not just after sex either. Be sure he's the right guy first.
Also being alone in the woods means you're stuck out there with him especially if something goes wrong or he tries something you don't want to happen. I would take it he's not that kind of person but I wouldn't do it especially if you're wasted.
If you're going to have sex anyways why not wait until you have condoms, birth control and have planned what's going to happen and have your wits about you and are sober. You cant make good decisions or remain in control of yourself let alone him if your head isn't clear. Wait, plan and then decide if you are going to.
A lot of girls who found themselves in the situation you describe while on drugs, booze etc and alone in the woods with someone inadvertently set themselves up to be sexually assaulted. You have to think about that kind of thing no matter who you think the other person is.
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I'm in college and this summer is the first time I have a job where I am making enough money to really start saving for the future. I have a regular checking account, but is there another place I can put my money where it can grow and earn interest faster? Any advice? (link)
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Go to your branch where you signed up for the chequing account. Tell them what you would like to do with your savings and ask about options to make it grow quicker. They'll have a host of them to choose from. Each bank is different. The banker will sit down with you and map out what they think you should do.
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18/Female/United States
When I was in middle and high school, I didn't get the best jumping off point to start college and a good career. I tried really hard towards the end of high school, but I only ended up what a cumulative GPA of 2.76
I have taken 3 college credit courses already, and received an A in all three classes. I took English 111, English 112, and Basic Computing Skills. I am very proud of my 4.0 GPA, and I would love to keep up the good work in college. I think it's better to try later than never.
Anyways, these classes weren't that challenging to me, because computer classes are easy and Enlgish is my strong point. Plus the teacher was easy, it was an online course.
What I am trying to say is that I am nervous about college because I don't want to lose my good acadamic there. My classes will be more challenging. I am taking biology, history, psychology, a college success class, and literature. I've heard that the biology professor is very challenging, and it's hard to pass is class. I have friends that have failed his class 2-3 times before passing, and I don't know anyone who has taken psychology, so I don't know what to expect. So what I am asking for is advice on getting a good jumping off start before classes begin. Study tips, how to talk to professors, how to prepare for tests, any websites that I can look at now to help prepare me a little, just anything.
Also, I am really nervous about getting lost when I get up there. Any tips on that?
Thanks. (link)
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Have you ever been tested for a learning problem? There's a chance you may have one especially if you are smart and understand things but perform badly academically.
I would get tested prior to starting college. I would then visit the school and talk to the people who run the program for learning disabled and physically disabled students.
They could help set up a tutor, someone to take notes for you and get permission to have your lectures taped or get the instructors to provide notes if you ask. They can also help you study and show you how to take better notes. They can also provide a lap top so you can type notes up while a prof. speaks.
As long as you take good notes, hand in your work on time and ask for help you should be able to pass all your courses and do well despite who the prof.is.
You understand the subjects you are taking anyways. You got the 2.76 before because the subjects weren't what you were used to or you took poor notes, didn't seek help or something along those lines. Visit the college with your concerns and the head of the department about what you can do to ensure your success. Also get tested for a learning problem as it entitles you to a wider range of help.
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alright. i think that i was sexually abused by my dad. ive heard that when youre younger you can block out bad memories without knowin that you did.
i remember certain things, like him stickin his tongue in my mouth when i kissed him. and i didnt think it was bad so when i kissed my mom i did that and she was like 'dont ever do that!'
and he told my mom 'wow her boobs are gettin big!'
and he'd also come in to the bathroom while i was takin a bath until i was 8 or 9
ever since i was maybe 4 or 5 my vagina lips have been pretty stretched out, and i have no idea why.
so my parents got divorced for their own reasons, and i was always scared to be with older men even with friends (like my youth group leaders from church or other friends dads) and i could never find a reason why.
plus, when i saw my dad for the first time in a year recently he was like 'wow youre hot, but im just an old man to you.'
i finally got in touch with my half sister from his side that i havent talked to in years. and i asked her what he was like with her, and since her mom and my dad got divorced she doesnt remember livin with him but she said, 'i visited him sometimes, but i think that that story should be left between him and i...'
and she hasnt messaged me back yet. and now shes a lesbian.
does it sound like i was sexually abused as a child? because for some reason i really feel like i have been (link)
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If you can remember this with such vivid detail than there really is no question what you believe occurred had. This is also bolstered by the fact that your half-sister has a similar story she's not telling and now ducks you. There has to be something wrong mentally with anyone who refers to his daughter as "hot" or sickening "wow her boobs are getting big."
He's got a serious problem and is dangerous to any young female he comes in contact with. Obviously he's done it to other kids and your half-sister probably was one of them.
What to do next? Tell your mother and other family members what you know to be true. If anything people will start watching him and not let their kids alone with him. I don't know what the law stipulates about limitations but you should see about charges--i know I would.
I think the best thing to do is get professional counseling from a psychologist and not one of these flaky therapists who are often sicker than their clients and work through what happened and learn to cope and move on.
I would definitely confront this sick S.O.B. (father or not he is) with a few others present at the time. You might be amazed at how many victims come forward in your family. He's done this to others and may still be doing it to someone. Make a racket.
Definitely get counseling, lean on friends and the support of your mother and others. I have a feeling she may know things about all of this or suspected it. Find out why she left this creep.
You can't keep any of this inside you as a secret etc. as it will eat away at you and cause you harm physically and mentally to do so. Tell your teachers, guidance counselors etc. if turning to others is difficult.
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I am a 52-year-old woman married to a 54-year-old man. Last year we "semi-retired" from well-paying corporate jobs to become long-haul truck drivers. The intent was to see the country, spend time together, and sock a lot of $$ into our retirement fund. Over the course of the past year my husband has stopped bathing, dental care, etc. He is attractive, witty and the love of my life, however, I am finding it revolting to be near him and he thinks it's my problem. Am I missing something here??? (link)
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It could be mental health related. Not taking care of one's appearance, teeth and bathing and giving up those things are signs he's not well. Insist he see a doctor even if you have to take him yourself as this isn't normal behavior.
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http://store.apple.com/us/browse/home/shop_mac/family/macbook?mco=MTIyMTM
i wanna get this macbook, but while looking through that page of, what i guess you can call "extras", i wasnt clear if the laptop already came with microsoft word or if that was part of iWork?
also, if anybody has this macbook, can you tell me about it? do you like it? does it cause any problems? and if i already have a wireless internet thing i wont need to get one especially for the mac, right?
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You can buy Microsoft Office For Mac which has MSWORD in it. It's not cheap though. The machine won't come with it or any other word processing software for free (I base this on my own purchase.) I had to choose which to buy.
If you are looking to save money I would get the current version of IWORK. It has a program in it called PAGES. It allows you to create all the same documents as MSWORD.
When you are finished you click EXPORT and can then save them as MSWORD files as well as e-mail them in MSWORD file attachments. It converts it all. It's better than MSWORD in my opinion and far less expensive around $100.00
Are you near an Apple Store? check www.apple.com to see if you are. You should visit one and ask someone the difference between IWORK and MSWORD and weigh your options. They aren't on commission either. People at BEST BUY etc. etc. are often bloody clueless about Apple Mac Books or IMACs and will sell you anything for a commission. They often sell older and refurbished versions instead of what you get new at Apple stores or by buying at www.apple.com
You can't go wrong with a new Mac Book. Let me know when you get yours and if you need any help learning programs. Hit my inbox up. I hope this helps you.
If all you really want to do is create documents, write and do all your reports for classes IWORK is best. However, if you need Power Point and EXCEL you won't have that as part of IWORK unless their new version for 2009 has it.
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I might get a D on my report card for Religion. My mom is really strict about grades and she won't accept anything lower than a B in any subjects but Computers. I've gotten almost 100% on every test and quiz I've taken in that class, plus i got A's on two of my projects. I know one of the problems is that i forget do to the homework (and she assigns only three each marking period), and i accept that. But my teacher gave me a 0 on my third project that I handed in and she even saw it. what she did is that the other section of my class got to do their's a month later cuz she forgot to assign it to them. The thing is that i thought she said that if you were okay with your project grade keep it home, but she says she really said that if you're okay with your project grade, bring it back to her a second time. Please tell em how I can make my mom understand so she won't blow her stack?
Thanks so much
Bre (link)
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All you need to do is tell your mother what this teacher did that confused you about handing things in again or keeping them at home. It's not in the least bit fair that you got a D while your classmates got to hand their projects much later or resubmit for a better grade. That's BS and her fault.
You need to take it with your mother to the principal and have it resolved. If not satisfied approach a school trustee and the board about the D that you shouldn't have received. If mom blows her stack over this she's not seeing the real picture and what happened that you were wrong.
Religion is not a course to worry about when it comes to grades and academic standing and getting into post-secondary institutions. It's a belief system you are being taught and nobody can ask you about it or judge you on it. It's not anything applicable to college or university applications.
They simply won't care and cannot that you got a D in it. It's like a D in computers to college screeners unless it's a catholic institution. Screeners won't concern themselves with your standing in a religious course as that's not something they can even ask about.
Challenge the grade with your parents present and see what happens. If mom is unhappy over it let her get annoyed and she'll soon calm down. You know you did nothing wrong. It's about EFFORT not the grade here that counts. You did everything you were told but the teacher contradicted herself costing you what could have been a B or C. C-D is average. It's not like you failed.
In the future do your best and let the chips fall where they may with grades. If your parents get upset realize that you did all you could including asking for help. Don't let them make you a basketcase over this.
Just tell them what happened and how the teacher confused you and then let them handle it and if she yells don't argue and let it pass. That's how to handle it. Even if she punishes you accept it as you can't win arguing but do state your point about the teacher and ask her to help you get it solved as it was her in the wrong. And you can prove that by having other classmates back you up.
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