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i want to satisfy him..
here the deal..
me and my boyfriend have had sex about 4-5 times i think and i lost it to him like a month back i feel nothing .. IS THAT NORMAL?? when are you suppost to feel pleasure? how many times do i have to have sex with him to finally feel something? and well i dont think he feels anything either because he never comes (he didnt loose his virginity to me he's experience). whats wrong with me i cant satisfy him and i feel nothing as well ! during sex does he HAVE TO COME to show that he felt pleasure? because he has never ever come and we had it 4-5 times now .. and i want to satisfy him i really do but me not feeling anything doesnt really motivate me to do much during sex. i try and attempt but i dont know it feels awkward .. i really want to pleasure him.. i neeed help !! >.<
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If he's never complained and believe me he would by now than he's satisfied. He doesn't need to ejaculate to be and not all males do every time out.
In fact if you're a new partner he might be feeling pressure to perform or fear. If he's worked up over getting you pregnant or something else that is psychological it will affect ejaculation and what he's getting out of it.
The same goes double with you as you're putting too much pressure on yourself that you can't enjoy it. Are you also fearful of pain and tensing up yourself? That can be the source of not finding pleasure.
You should also know that most women do not orgasm from just penetration. The top two thirds of the vagina contain ZERO nerve endings. That's why most women prefer clitoral and other stimulation at the same time as intercourse.
You should get a book on human sexuality and read it together that contains info on different positions. What you may need to do is find one that has deeper thrusting and hits different spots. One of the more pleasurable and comfortable for women is the doggy position.
Aside from that don't worry about this as tensing up all the time can lead to vaginismus which is
painful contraction of the vagina in response to physical contact (penetration) or pressure (esp. in sexual intercourse).
Drop all this concern about him being satisfied and try to enjoy the moment. If he wasn't enjoying himself you have heard a lot about it from him by now. Like I said maybe the problem on his end is an irrational fear, not satisfying you, fear of hurting you etc etc. or just not used to a new partner. Relax and both of you will be okay in the long run.
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I find that I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you have received and may continue to receive from others.
First; Lovemaking is a wonderful thing. To be fully enjoyed you must be relaxed, secure in your surroundings and most of all comfortable. Any fears associated with your lovemaking will make it harder for you to achieve ultimate enjoyment.
Second is the bodies’ physical make up itself. Foreplay is a big part of lovemaking. Some women and yes, some men need more foreplay than others in order to achieve climax. Women are stimulated both vaginally and clitorally. Breast and nipple stimulation can also enhance the pleasure for both partners during lovemaking.
You can find out what your body best needs in the privacy of your own bedroom through masturbation. I know we have all taught and been taught this is wrong. Everything I have read in the subject including church teachings has no objections to masturbation and finds it as a good safe release for sexual tension. Masturbation is also a way for you to find out what you, as a young lady, need in order to achieve orgasm during lovemaking.
There are a couple of websites I would like you to visit to learn more. The first is part of the WebMD site,
www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/guide/health-sex-just-the-facts.
I like this site as the information is straight forward and written by professionals. The link I’ve provided is just one page, you’ll see other pages there you may want to look at as well.
The second web site are actually two sites another one form WebMD and one from Brown University. Both sites deal with safe sex practices, which I hope you and your boyfriend are using:
www.webmd.com/sex/birth-control/tc/safe-sex-topic-overview:
This next site deals with the female condom which is something I think you should know about. www.brown.edu/Student_Services/Health_Services/Health_Education/sexual_health/ssc/femalecondoms.htm.
Last but not least you should consider talking with your parents, ay the very least your mother, and letting them know you are sexually active. Why? It is always better to be up front about this then try to hide it from then. This way your mother can help you get proper birth control protection and see that your reproductive health is taken care of. Also your mother is possibly the best person to go to with your original question for help.
Best regards
Adviserman49
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Well, as a guy, I can tell you that a guy doesn't have to come if he feels pleasure. That just means he has reached a climax - highest point - of pleasure. If "it" is up, he's feeling pleasure. Without being rude - may I suggest to just keep trying different positions?
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