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why does he want more?
me and my boyfriend have had sex a handful of times and the thing is welll ... u see i lost it to him not too long so sex is still hurting for me but he's experienced and when he has sex with me he never comes does that mean he's not getting pleasure? does he have to come to get pleasure because we could do it for a full hour different positions and stuff but hes never come before so does that mean hes not getting pleasure. thats what i thought and if he isnt why does he always wanna do it with me if he gets nothing out of it. he knows i dont get anything it hurts for me.. :S CONFUSEEDD!
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He doesn't have to ejaculate or "come". That just means that he reached the climax(highest point) of sexual pleasure. An erection would only exist had he been gaining at least some pleasure.
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Sex isn't my strongest subject but whatever. Well sex doesn't always have to be solely about physical pleasure. Maybe distract yourself with other kinky motions. The way he holds you or the body heat between you two. And not all guys will come so easy. My friend would have the same difficulty with her boyfriend; he would never come. But he mentioned masturbating earlier. Ask him. And with your pain; you might want to look further into that. It might be a medical condition or just uncomfortable postioning. And obviously, he has feelings even if he didn't get anything out of the sex. He still wants to 'pleasure' you. That's so sincere. Talk to him about it. And ask a doctor or other experienced friends abotu your vaginal pains. Good luck !
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if he knows it hurts you, why does he still do it? you need to explain to him that apparently neither of you are getting anything out of it, so you just need to lay off of it for a while. also, just because he doesnt cum doesnt mean its not pleasureable. maybe he has other stuff on his mind. like i said, just talk to him. you'll be surprised how much can be accomplished just through communication.
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Well firstly I'm concerned about you. Mainly because firstly painful sex can be a medical issue, Especially if its happening frequently. Now my second concern is that overall you're not enjoying your sexual experience which is definately no good. The reason I mention those things first is because men have an even better"time" when they know they are pleasing you. So first thing find out if you're really ready to have sex, u don't sound 2 comfortable with him. Then you have to ask him why he doesn't come when he's with you. And if he says I'm afraid of hurting you, tell him how he can help you relax. Or it could be he's afraid of pregnancy. Men have sexual anxiety as much as women do ya know! Hope that helped! Much Love!
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