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i suck at it..
okay , well me and my boyfriend just got into this whole sex thing. well he's experienced for i am not. i lost my virginity to him like 3 weeks back but we had sex 2 more times and it feels like nothing to me no pain no pleasure.. is that weird? and because i dont feel anything i dont do much either which he doesnt like hes always on top doing the work and we kind of loose the moment because i dont feel anything.. and im such a rookie at it i tried being on top i have no clue what to do he laughs at me >.< and when he's on top i dont think he's enjoying since im not really into it myself. and how do you know if your tight or loose? and we've TRIED to have sex 3 times and i just lay there he does the work but it seems hes not satisfied he;s not getting any pleasure out of it? how can i make him feel pleasure? make him feel good? when we have sex its not a good moment when we get into it you know yeah but since i feel nothing and i think he doesnt either it kinda sucks i wanna pleasure him i just dont know how i suck at sex BLAHH!.
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I would slap that man across the face.
Laughing at you?
I would find a new man that doesn't disrespect you, and is willing to teach you how to be intimate without being rude or condesending.
What an oaf!
Tell him that he isn't doing his job in the bedroom if you aren't horny and being pleasured.
When you're with a man, and he cares about you, he doesn't laugh at you when you are trying to be open with him. And when you are with a man who cares about you, your pleasure is as important as his.
I wouldn't be having sex with this guy if he was the last man on earth.
Find someone who cares about your needs.
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Sounds like he's bad in bed, and is causing you to feel insecure.
You needn't worry about whether you're pleasing him. He's not even pleasing you! Hell no! There is not reason on earth you need to be having sex with someone who can't even give you pleasure. That's a MAJOR component to having sex in the first place.
And for all his "experience", he hasn't learned a thing about making his girlfriend feel sexy, feel loved, feel confident, feel AROUSED even.
Here's what I suggest: Get a vibrator. Teach yourself how to orgasm on your own. That should teach you there's nothing at all wrong with you. You have it in you to enjoy your body.
And from there, you can decide if this sexual partner is for you. He should be appreciative of you. He should be trying to learn what turns you on, exploring your body. Is he giving you any foreplay? Does he give oral?
Seriously, man, you don't suck in bed. Men who suck in bed have themselves to thank when their girlfriends aren't enjoying themselves.
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This guy really sounds inconsiderate, immature and non-supportive. You may not like me saying that but if you really think about it that's the truth. Maybe you should re-evaluate being with him let alone having sex with him.
Would a caring partner laugh at your attempts? It's HIS fault not yours that he's unsatisfied. I mean what is he expecting here? You haven't done this before and the KEY THING: He hasn't told you or shown you what he enjoys.
How are you to know? He also hasn't done anything to make you feel comfortable either. Trust me, you don't suck at this. You just haven't any experience and will gain it through learning and trial and error.
You both need to learn how to communicate about sex with each other, boundaries and what you do or don't like. Hold off on having it until then. In the meantime get educated on birth control and start reading books about sexuality to become more aware.
Try different positions as that can affect pleasure and comfort greatly. Also the top part of the vagina has NO nerve endings. Most women don't feel much pleasure from just penetration and often need clitoral or other stimulation at the same time. Hang in there as eventually you'll figure out what works.
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At least act like you're interested. Moan or something. Touch his body. Don't just lay there like you're dead, and definitely don't act like you don't care. How would you feel if he just stopped wanting to have sex with you? I think you're taking this for granted.
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