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nervous. any tips?
hi so im melinda and im 20 years old. i have a bf that is 22 and weve been dating for 2 years. my values were that i would wait until i got married, but i realized i should just wait till i find someone i love. i have never had sex and neither has he. are there any tips in avoiding pregnancy or any tips at all because im very nervous.
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You know, it says that you're 16 in the "About the questioner" thing?
Just saying.
So, tips in being safe.
First off, birth control. You can get a prescription from your gyno if you have one, or you can look up your local planned parenthood and talk to them. Hormonal birth control is a must. You need to take it for a week or two before you start having sex so that it has time to get into your system and start working.
My girlfriend uses and is happy with the generic brand of ortho tri cyclin. Remember the words "generic brand". There are a ton of named brands that are expensive, sometimes forty or fifty for a month's scrip. My girl pays 9 bucks for generic without insurance.
Second, Condoms and/or VCF. I always encourage people to get tested together before having sex, just for peace of mind reasons. If you truly are both virgins, then STDs are not possible. But people lie about it, and I have no idea. I'll leave that to you.
VCF is Vaginal Contraceptive Film. Its a little spermicidal film you put inside yourself and give 15 minutes to dissolve. Its supposed to be 80 something percent effective against pregnancy when its the only method of contraception. Using it with birth control is like insurance added on top of prevention. Using it with a condom is a similarly good idea.
Get some lube. The condom asile at any store will also have astroglide, or similar water based lubes. They're non toxic and helpful if you need a little moisture added, especially good for condom use, because the girl not being wet enough can lead to condom breakage. Its always a good idea to put a tiny bit of lube on the end of a condom (pea sized drop) to be sure.
Lastly, sex isn't a performance. Its not theater, its something two people do together. My girlfriend and I have both accidentally nailed each other in the head with arms and legs and such, awkwardness happens and bad sex happens too.
The point is to try to relax and just enjoy being with your parnter. Don't get caught up in doing things right or wrong. Sex is a skill, name me one other thing you've done that you started out an expert at.
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The only thing that can really help you to not get pregnant is obviously abstinence. Do not change your values for someone. Stick to them. You are strong. Just because you love him does not mean he will be the one you spend the rest of your life with. You may regret it.
If you do decide to have sex, try a birth control called the Essure procedure. It is like this "T" shaped thing that a doctor puts inside of your cervix and it prevents pregnancy. If you ever decide to have kids, they can remove it. Talk to your doctor.
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The best way to avoid an unwanted pregnancy is to use two methods of birth control.
You should see your doctor and talk to them about the various types of contraceptives to find out which one is best for you.
Personally, I have used Depo Provera (the injection) in combination with condoms to be doubly safe.
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The user below is incorrect, as long as you take birth control on the first day of your period for the first time, you are protected immediately. If you take it at any other time of the month then you need to wait two weeks for it to be effective.
As the Pill is the most effective form of contraception you can get, and providing you don't forget to take it, it's pretty safe to just use that. Make sure your partner doesn't have any STD's first though. If you want to be 100%, use a condom as well.
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The best way to prevent pregnancy is abstinence, but that's probably not what you wanted to hear.
Anyway, definitely use protection, which means a condom. Not only will that most likely prevent pregnancy [the effectiveness is not 100%], it will help protect you against STDs, whether you think you have them or not.
There's birth control, but you should probably be on it a few months so your body is used to it before you start having sex. Or, at least this is what I've gathered from 3 years on this site. XD.
--Jack
(17/m)
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Hey there yeah,I agree with the pervious answe make SURE you guys use a condom and maybe get birth control,as for tips honestly just relax and go with the flow try not to be nervous it will make you tense and make the expeirience a lot more uncomfortable for you your muscles will tighten and you dont wanna remember your first time as being awkward and uncomfortable.
make sure your both relaxed and in the mood beforehand maybe have a bath,then make sure to do foreplay before hand to ease on into if you get me?
good luck =]
hope i helped
<3
Jess
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One big thing, USE PROTECTION.
& then if it does break, there is always
the day after pill that you can rely on.
& I highly suggest not be nervous b/c it
will make it worse. I hope I helped. =]
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