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I'm 17 now but when I was in the 8th Grade (last year of Junior High) I was considered a "geek". I was bookworm. Overweight and quiet. There was this pretty popular boy in my class who used to make fun of me all the time. He really made my life hell. After about two months, he started acting different around me. Sometimes he'd be really mean and then sometimes he'd be super nice (like random acts of kindness) and the one day after school, him and his female friend were talking in an almost empty classroom while I was trying to finish up some math. She asked him a question with my name in it and my ears perked up and then she called me and she said "--- likes you" and I made a face at him because I thought he was an ass at the time. Anyway, I think I hurt him a bit. He told me he hated me a few weeks after that incident.
A few months passed and we entered high school and I started liking him (he was still pretty popular but I was still a geek) but I figured I only liked him because he used to like me and I thought I'd get over it.
That year he told my friend that I was a geek.
During high school I’ve grown to love him more. I'm not a geek and I've lost a lot of weight (although I'm still a few pounds up). People who used to know me consider me considerably ‘cooler’. I'm sort of what you would call semi-popular but I'm not sure if I still measure up.
I don't know if he likes me too. My friends aren’t sure either. They say that over the span of the past three years, he stares at me sometimes when I'm not looking and –I- catch him looking too (except I'm not sure if he was looking first or just kept looking at me because –I- look at him). He does stuff sometimes like get really fidgety if he's walking in front of me or put the volume up in his car if he's near me. Just basic stuff.
I'm wondering is there an indication that he likes me at all and this could work or is he still mad at me and just looks because he's trying to prove something to himself and/or me?
A lot of people pick on other people as a way of flirting with a crush, usually because they're too shy to flirt more obviously. I'll bet that's exactly what the guy you're talking about was doing in the beginning. When he started being nicer to you that probably meant that he was ready and had accepted that maybe he wanted to have a relationship with you. It seems to me that he has no idea that you like him at all. I don't think that you hurt him that much, he's just sad because he doesn't think that you'll give him a chance. My advice to you is to get him alone and talk to him about it for a few minutes. Be honest with him and tell him that you didn't used to like him because you thought that he was picking on you to be mean, not because he liked you. Since then, you've thought about it a lot and you think that you like him too. After you make that first move (which he's probably been waiting for!), it's up to him to make the next one. Give him time to think about it if he needs it, don't go overboard, but you should be really nice to him while you wait if he makes you at all! With the right words and a little luck, you could end up in a relationship with him. I hope everything works out for you!
I feel so alone right now. Right now, it's like everyone is against me. I feel like everyone hates me. My volleyball coaches took me out of the starting lineup and are acting angry. My parents are angry at me. I feel like they are all against me. Am I really that hard to get along with? I don't understand. I drank toilet bowl cleaner today because I felt so bad. It didn't really do anything except burn my throat really badly. No puking or anything though. I know I probably need help, but I don't know where to go. I want to talk to a professional so badly, but who can I ask for help? I don't have any money (I'm only 17 with no job), so I can't pay for one myself. My parents would just tell me to suck it up if I told them. They don't understand. What can I do?
Okay, I want you to know that not everyone hates you. Not at all. I've been through times in my life when I've felt similarly. People seem to show that they care only when they know that you need them to, which sucks, but that's just how most people operate. This doesn't mean that they don't care. They always do, a lot more than you may think. You are looking for professional help and that is amazing. A lot of people are afraid of anything like that or they think that it won't help them. There's probably a counselor at your school or you could even talk to the school nurse or a doctor. Hotlines are always a great idea too. You can get the numbers from your school, or even from the internet. I'm sure that you're an attractive person with a great personality as well as a great athlete and that you have a wonderful future ahead of you. Good luck and I hope that you start feeling better soon!
hey !
i have 2 screen names linked,
and i was wondering do you know how to have one screen name away, and the other not ?!
and if so, how would u even do that? lol
thanks so much if you can help
No, you can't. You can sign the screen names on on different computers, but I doubt that's anything you want to or are probably able to do. The only thing that you CAN do is send messages while you are away. I do it all the time. It allows me to talk to people I want to talk to without other people bothering or distracting me.
every now and then i take pills. not like bars or anything, nothing that i have to buy. just pills, like perscriptions in my dads bathroom cabinet and when im at a friends house sometimes when they arent around or when theyre sleeping i take pills from them. i dont really know why, mostly the pills just make me feel like i dont care and/or make me sleepy. i feel sometimes like id rather dream than be around people or in reality. everything is so frustrating. im not trying to overdose or anything like that, i just feel like i need to take pills so that im not so into reality. lately ive been feeling like this a lot, almost like i HAVE to have something. (not an addiction because i dont do it enough) whats wrong with me? how do i make myself happy like i used to be without withdrawing myself from reality?
I agree. You definitely need to talk to a doctor, counselor, or hotline about what you're doing. They will know how to help you. It's really dangerous for your health especially since the feeling that you "HAVE to have something" can very very easily lead to the physical addiction that you are talking about. There is also such a thing as emotional addiction, which you do have. Your body doesn't need it...yet...but your mind definitely seems to. There are tons of ways for you to be happy and taking pills is not one of them. Taking pills is probably actually preventing you from being happy because you believe that it's the only thing that can make you happy. Stop right away if you are able to and talk to someone about it right away. I hope that everything turns out alright and that you find the real happiness that you're looking for. Good luck!
yesterday there was a trojan going around through aim that if you got it it would send it to everyone on your buddy list with the im saying 'how do i look' with a link and i clicked the link and now i have the trojan. i then ran a spy sweeper sweep and it found traces that it removed but the trojan is still there, i can see it on windows task mangager. i also know what the file is and where it is so i deleted the floder but it keeps reappearing and i even searched the folder with spy sweeper and it came up empty but i kno thats it because spy sweeper keeps saything theres two new threats and when i click details i get the location but it wont go away. i also cleaned out my internet files but nothing is helping so will someone please tell me what to do?? please dont say call a person.
I've had those before. All I had to do was cancel the processes on the task manager, but sometimes that doesn't always work. The more recent ones were picked up immediately by my antivirus software (AVG) which is free off of the internet. If not picked up right away, all you do is reinstall AIM.
ok it seems like my mom favors my brother way more than me. So one day I stayed home from school because I was sick. Then my mom told me since I stayed home, I was grounded for the weekend. But then today, my little brother was supposedly throwing up this morning and didnt go to his soccer parade and games but about an hour later he was outside running around and on his dirtbike and playing basketball and everything. Then he got to have his friend sleep over. Am I over reacting or am I right about her possibly favoring him more?
I have a younger sister and when we were growing up, and even still now, she seems to have so many more privileges than I did. The one that made me really boil over was when my parents let her get her ears pierced when she was 9 and they made a very strict rule for me (and her) that we couldn't get our ears pierced until we were 10. She gets away with so much and has a lot of friends that got to stay over to the house all the time. I didn't have that many friends because my parents didn't approve of them. They wanted their oldest daughter's life to be perfect. They had so many expectations for me. It's not that they favor your little brother more or love him more or anything, but you two are different people and you have a different relationship with them than your brother does. There's nothing you can do about it, you were born into the role of oldest child. Your parents show that they care about you in a different way than they do with your brother. He's the baby of the family, they show they care by giving him things and letting him have priviledges. They show they care for you by setting standards that they want you to meet. They believe these standards will help you become a good person and live a successful life. They want you to be happy in the future. I think this is very common in families, but usually siblings blame it on each other instead of on their parents. It's really nobody's fault it's just the way it is. It can get out of control, like it did with my parents recently, but you probably don't have to worry about that for a long time and it's very unlikely that that will happen.
i'm 13 years old and i'm only 4'11. i only have like 2 years left to grow (yes i've had my period already) and i really want to be at least 5'1 or something. if i have to spend the rest of my life being under 5 feet, i'll hate it a lot. i know to some people it may not seem like such a big deal but it kind of is to me. my parents are normal height so i don't know whats wrong?? so how can i get taller? like what should i eat? vitamins? thanks
You could easliy grow up to two inches more. I did! I was really happy about it too at the time. Now though, height doesn't really seem to matter that much. Once you've been the same height for awhile you get used to it and it doesn't really bother you anymore. I'm actually kind of mad that I grew two inches more now, because my boyfriend is only about two inches taller than me...I can't wear all my heels anymore! I don't think there's much you can do about it and if there is it's probably not going to be effective at all. My best advice for you is to wish to be taller if you want, but not to worry so much about it and to be happy with who you are. I know a lot of shorter girls that are really pretty and really happy with themselves. Feel better, you're not alone!
so me and this guy hooked up like a week ago but then he went and asked someone out but i dont think they are going to last how do i get him back now that way when they break up he likes me again?!?i will rate
You should give up on him completely. Don't give him another chance, he had his chance and he blew it. If he thinks he can find someone out there that's better than you let him look. He's probably going to have a pretty hard time. Don't ever put up with guys that aren't loyal. If he wasn't committed to you then, he most likely won't ever be. I'm sure you can find someone else out there that cares about you more than he does who won't ever cheat on you in any way. Good luck with whatever you decide!
okayy. i NEED IDEAS FOR A HOLLOWEEN PARTY! were having a HUGE one here and we need some ideas on games we can play. something fun. like example you know on mtv they have those things for spring break? and its on tv. The whip cream. guessing games? etc. ANYTHING like that we can relate to holloween would be GREAT.
a FIVE for anyone who can help me out. THANKS
if you dont have anything a site to help me with games might help to. ill give a 4 for websites! thank you!!
My friends and I used to have halloween parties and we used to play this amazing game. The person who was having the party would set up a murder scene in their basement or whereever they wanted. Within certain boundaries there would be three or so hidden clues about the murder. They were hidden really well. The best part was that the murderer and the accomplice were two people at the party and they didn't know about it. It was a lot like a real life Clue game. Another great thing about it was that you didn't have to just play the game. You could sit around and eat food, play other games, do whatever, the game was just a filler that set up a great atmostphere for a halloween party. Hope you have a great time with whatever you do!
OK there is this boy who rides my bus & we are always fighting & picking!! I have one class with him & during the class when i have like nothing to do i am always looking & him! I wanna keep telling myself i dont like him but does all of this mean that i do?
Yeah, you like him for sure...I used to do the exact same thing. It was my way of flirting. I used to be really really shy and I didn't want people that I liked to know that I liked them. I had to reach out to them in some way, so I did by picking on them like crazy. I literally threw rocks at the guy I'm with now, that was 6 years before we started dating though, so I really can't tell you what to do about it right now, it's your decision. Whatever you decide, good luck!
I am a 24 year old female. Please tell me how to choose between two 30-something year old men that are both in love with me. One I was engaged to but he had to be put in jail for domestic violence The other lives aproxamately 1,500 miles away. My fiance` and I are required to go to a councelor by the courts,but I am in love with both men at the same time too.( My fiance` was drunk at the time of the incident, he is really sweet when he is sober.) I don't know who to choose. Please send me some good advice on who to keep in my life!
I know I'm kind of young to be answering a question like this, but I believe that sometimes love and relationships can be a completely different thing. I know a guy that just ended a relationship with a girl that he had loved. She was nice, had a great personality, he liked her family, and they were really close. He realized that as great of friends they were that they just weren't compatible at all. He fall out of love with her and moved on with his life. I would strongly encourage you never to see the man that got put in jail for domestic violence again. He's dangerous, and as much as you may love him, alcohol is no excuse for domestic violence. I don't really know enough about the guy that lives so far away from you so I can't really say whether you should be in a relationship with him or not. If you do choose to be in one, long distance relationships are really hard...I know from experience. They can work out though in the end if you are really committed, I know that from experience too. Good luck with whatever you decide!
My Best Friend Likes Me... i dont know what to do i mean hes a cutie and i love his personality and everything i guess im just afrid to like him because hes like my best friend and i mean i guess we flirt like he will tickle me and carry my books some times. Im Just scared if i say no im afrid he will be upset and if i say yes and we break up our friendship will be ruined. Please Give Me Some Advice
My advice to you is to say no. I believe that you should always say no to see if the guy really cares about you. He might get sad for awhile, but it shouldn't affect your friendship. If he ends up asking you again or heavily implies it then it's probably not about peer pressure or anything like that for him, it's about you and how much he cares. Just like a lot of people I've been in this situation before...and I'm presently in a happy relationship with my best friend. A relationship with a best friend can work or not work just like any other relationship. Whatever you decide to do good luck!
I have this guy friend, Michael. I think I like him as more than a friend, but idk. I just got in a fight with him, nd said something i shoodnt have. He said hed never talk to me again. And trust me, he can hold a grudge. Ive seen him do it. I know there is no way he could ever like me back. Guys dont really like me ... i dont have many guy friends. He was like my only one, now i lost him.
Okay, my guess is that you're in high school. If Michael was friends with you he must have liked you, even if it wasn't in the way that you would have wanted him to. My advice to you is to try to talk to him. Apologize to him. Tell him that you just wanted to let him know that you didn't mean what you said, you still want to be friends with him, and that you value his friendship. After that it's his move. Be friendly to him, but give him time to realize how good of a friend you were...basically time to start missing you. He might not be willing to actually say something to you when that time comes, but if you know him well enough, you will know when he is ready to start being friends with you again. I used to think that guys didn't like me either, but I realized after awhile that they really did. Guys mature slower than girls, and a lot of them can be kind of shallow at younger ages. I'm sure that you're an attractive individual with a great personality and that you will find someone, if not Michael, that you can be in a happy relationship with one day. I had my first relationship when I was 18 and I am with a really great guy now, so don't worry! Your day will come...and good luck making amends with Michael!