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okay. so for about 6 days i've had sharp
pains in my right side..well its like right below my tummy and inbetween my area.
my friends told me i probably need to go to the girl doctor, but i really feel weird people looking at my peepeehole!
im not sexualy active and my period isnt regular..soo idk.
if you have good advice that would be wonderful!

If you don't want to see a Gynecologist, it's worth a try telling your normal doctor first. He or she may be able to diagnose you, but if you are referred to a Gyn, it's nothing to worry about. It's what they're there for.
It doesn't matter if you're not sexually active.. all females should go at some point.
Don't worry about it. :)

How old should i be to have it

Waiting until you're the legal age would be a start..
There's NO set time to have sex. Do it when you're ready physically and mentally.

Why am i so horny and what do i do about it.

1. I'm guessing you're a teen. You can blame hormones for that. ;)
2. If you don't want to do anything about it (masturbate), find something to do which will distract you.. The list is endless. (Go out, read, listen to music, clean your room, phone someone, watch TV....)

So, i am considering geting my industrial bar piercing..I have regular cartiledge piercing and i was wondering if anyone has their industrial and how the pain is and how it compares with the regular cartiledge piercing

Here's some stories you may want to read:

http://www.bmezine.com/pierce/01-ear/A70912/earindxa.html

http://www.bmezine.com/pierce/01-ear/A70822/earmypai.html

http://www.bmezine.com/pierce/01-ear/A70912/earindus.html

http://www.bmezine.com/pierce/01-ear/A70822/earmyind.html

http://www.bmezine.com/pierce/01-ear/A70805/earindus.html

Everyone's pain tolerance is different. I know people with this piercing and some people have said it hurt alot more than your average cartilage piercing, whereas others said it was the same, but since you're getting 2 piercings at once, was rather intense.
I always say if you want something, don't let the pain put you off.

15/f

god i hate living. it's been this way since i was 13- i have living. I can't stand it. I'm sick of waking up in the morning with nothing to look foreward to. Crying and eating is all i'm good for. Nothing brings me joy- absolutely nothing. I've tried everything- therapy, counseling, cutting... EVERYTHING.

nothing helps me.

i want to die so badly just to escape this living hell that we call life- but the problem is i can't bring myself to ever do it because i'm afraid of the freaking pain.

i don't have any friends or a boyfriend. no one knows me, if they did- they'd hate me.

i have depression/anxiety problems, ADD intattentive type, a metabolic disorder, and a social phobia. No one in real life knows this exept my therapist.

what should i do. im crying even as i write this. it's just gone on for too long. 2 freaking years.

You probably think you're alone in this situation, but I can tell you, you aren't.
To be perfectly honest, I don't have anything to get up for in the mornings either, but I still do it. and so does everyone else. Since you're 15, I'm guessing you go to school. Keep focusing on your education and to get the best possible grades, because in a few years, you will need them if you want to go into further education and get a great job. Don't make the same mistake as me and lots of others and give up now. I am telling you, you will regret it big time.
Instead of dwelling on your problems, what you need to do is act upon them. Yes it's going to take work - ALOT of work infact, but I can tell from your question you are strong person.
Firstly, you can beat your social phobia. Do you realize how common it is?
I want you to read these links if you haven't already:
http://www.socialphobia.org/whatis.html

http://www.self-confidence.co.uk/shyness/tips.html

There are many more on Google with so many tips to help you and overcome it if you want to check:

I reckon once you push yourself to talk to people and overcome your social phobia little by little, your friend worries will disappear and your anxiety/depression will get alot better.

Being 15 is a hard age since you're mid teen and struggling with lifes issues, but as you get older, I'm pretty adamant you will learn to look at things from a different perspective.

It's good you have a therapist and you're taking the obvious steps to help yourself, but if you keep at it and don't give up, things will start looking up. It's going to take time, but look at each day as a new opportunity for things to get better.
You only get one life. and you should be able to enjoy it.
Don't give up. Things WILL turn out okay.

How can you tell if your girlfriend will become a whore and cheat in the future?!?!? What are some signs to lookout for now?!?!?

Thanx!!!

It's possible to know if your girlfriend is cheating at the current time.. but if she's going to cheat in the future is impossible to tell.
Instead of focusing on your girlfriend cheating, why don't you learn to trust her?

Hey,
In our drama class, me and this guy have to "create" a picture of our first slow dance. Bascially, my arms will be around his neck, and his arms will be around my waist and my head on his shoulder. That is an average slow dance though, i want to make it more "intimite". What can i do to change it up a bit so it looks more sexy BUT apporiaprite for our presentation. ANY suggestions are appreciaed! Thanks

How about gazing into his eyes instead of resting your head on his shoulder.
Have you Googled slow dance? I just did and some good ones came up. Perhaps they need to be toned down/changed a little though..
Like with this one:
http://img.scoop.co.nz/stories/images/0605/a232e7307b4afc19fc01.jpeg
He could wrap his arms around your waist and you hold his arms and rest your head on his shoulder facing his face.

Hey! well, heres the thing. im a really shy quiet person. especially around guys i like and people who arent close to me. I hate being this way! What do you think i can do to be more outgoing?

* Practice becoming fascinated by other people. Ask them about themselves, and concentrate when they answer you. Remember what they tell you about themselves so you can talk about it later, or on another occasion.

* Great socialisers make other people feel comfortable and interesting. How do they do that? By being really, genuinely interested in other people. If you are talking to someone and you feel boring or inferior, ask why that is. Is it really all your fault?

* Practice using fewer 'personal pronouns' when you talk about things. Sentences beginning with 'I' are not only a turn-off for the listener, they also keep the focus of attention on you, which increases shyness. (Note: Of course, part of friendship is giving away things about yourself, but only when you feel it is appropriate to do so.)

* Remember that the way to overcome shyness is to focus elsewhere. Like on imagining what it will be like to really enjoy the social event, on how it will feel to be full of energy, or to be having a great conversation with someone.

There are tonnes more here

You'll get better eventually with practice. I was so shy when I was younger.

There's this guy and he's my friend but I don't know if we're really that close because we just met like a week ago from shcool.

He's kinda weird and today he randomly went up to me and hugged me and we said like two things to each other while he was with me and my friends.

Then we hugged and he said that he's gonna go now because I smell.

Um..do i really smell or is he just being like joking around?

I asked my friends if i smell and they said no...but even if i did they wouldn't lie right?

We can't smell you! ;)
I guarantee it was his attempt at being funny. Lots of people say weird things like that.
and no, you shouldn't expect your friends to lie.
Quit worrying!

i want to do something really artistic for a picture of myself for myspace. one of my friends took a peice of paper and wrong INSPI(RED) in red against a red wall, and then another one of my friends took a piece of paper and drew a smile on it and held it in front of her lips, and they both looked really artistic. i want to do something thats going to make people go WOWWWW. what are song cool ideas that i could do?

For part of my art in school, I took a picture of someone holding a picture. and in that picture they were holding was the same picture I took. and it carried on and on.
Does that make sense?
A picture of a picture of a picture etc...

how do i get on myspace from school? it's blocked and everything but i want to get on from the library. xD please help.

Try a proxy such as;
http://www.hidemyass.com/
If you can't find one that works, I doubt you'll be able to get on MySpace. Same thing happened at my school, too!

ok so there is this guy that im kinda like well call him bob. i kissed him once made out a couple of times he says he likes me and i said he liked him but hes so confusing hell hang out with me then another girl then make out with me then monday hell have a damn girlfriend so im wondering why is he doing this and should i talk to him about it?! or forget this and be firends but if he kisses me again im gonna need to know whats going on!

I'll keep this basic:
How can he possibly like you if he goes ahead and gets a girlfriend a few days later? Unless he's going the absolute wrong way about things and trying to make you jealous.. but surely that would make you NOT like him.
Seems to me he's using you.
If I were in your position, I'd definitely talk to him about it. and WOULDN'T kiss him again.

I've been dating this guy for 6 months, and recently ive started to REALLY like this other guy. We have lunch together and he's always flirting with me. I dont know if he likes me or not because he is sorta a flirty person. but he also gave me his belt..

what do i do!? pursue it or not.

Don't pursue it if that means cheating on your boyfriend.
You can't ask if you should go ahead or not on an advice site to be honest. You need to think about the relationship you are currently in and if you are happy or not. Are things good between you and your boyfriend? If yes, fight the temptations.
If you aren't happy in your current relationship, end it before acting upon this other person.

Define cheating in a love relatinsip

My opinion:
Cheating would be willingly getting with someone else whilst you are in a committed relationship.
I define cheating as kissing and going further/getting intimate, whereas some people may think holding hands is cheating.

how can you get it? and what is it caused from? the person not being clean or something??

i know you can get it from sharing drinks but from if you get it from making out..does that mean that person doesn't brush his teeth or something??

THanks

"Mononucleosis is typically transmitted from asymptomatic individuals through blood or saliva (hence "the kissing disease"), or by sharing a drink, or sharing eating utensils. The disease is far less contagious than is commonly thought."

"Symptoms usually appear 1-2 months after infection, and may resemble strep throat, or other bacterial or viral respiratory infections. The typical symptoms and signs of mononucleosis are:

* Fever—this varies from mild to severe, but is seen in nearly all cases.
* Tender and enlarged/swollen lymph nodes—particularly the posterior cervical lymph nodes, on both sides of the neck.
* Sore throat—White patches on the tonsils and back of the throat are often seen
* Fatigue (sometimes extreme fatigue)

Some patients also display:

* Enlarged spleen (splenomegaly, which may lead to rupture) and/or liver (hepatomegaly)
* Petechial hemorrhage
* Abdominal pain
* Aching muscles
* Headache
* Loss of appetite
* Jaundice
* Depression
* Weakness
* Skin rash
* Dizziness or disorientation
* Uncontrolled shaking at times
* Dry cough
* Enlarged Prostate
* Supra-orbital oedema—the eyes become puffy and swollen—may occur in the early stages of infection"

Go here for more information including treatments etc:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Infectious_mononucleosis

i just got a new pair of pumas today and they are suede. wellll. i got something on them so i licked my finger to get it off and when i rubbed my shoe it only made it worse. like theres a big gray spot. how can i get this off without having to go to the store to buy anything? but if i absolutely have to go, what should i get?

http://www.ehow.com/how_3139_clean-suede.html

More can be found at

Next time you go out, look for suede protector spray. Works wonders.

I just read that sperm can live for 24 hours in water and it got me thinking.

Im in the swim team, and we practive twice a week in a regular sized pool. Theres a bunch of kids (including boys) and we all practive together.

I always wear a one-piece bathing suit

What are the odds that i could get pregnant from swimming? Am i at risk?

I mean im 13. I dont want a baby yet

It's a good thing you don't want a baby yet, because from swimming in a pool, you won't get one!
You're worrying over nothing. The sperm would be killed almost instantly by the chlorine. If females were at high risk of becoming pregnant by sharing pools with boys, something would have obviously been done.
Don't worry and enjoy your swimming. :)

How come guys go through spells where they wont talk to you for a week or 2 but then when they do they are like I am tired or just busy? Do they like you or are they trying to ignore you?

Ask them.
Maybe they *are* really busy, or just aren't interested.
I doubt if they liked you, they wouldn't ignore you. Surely they'd want to talk!

what are some things a man can do to a woman to turn her on, while making out. how do you cause a nipple stand, and is that good?

Google.

It will give better explanations anyway.
If you're worried about it being on your computer history, delete it. ;)

to use female condoms
and male condoms at the same time

beacuse i want to make sure i am safe
will that be okay using both

"Never use a male condom and female condom at the same time."

taken from http://womenshealth.about.com/cs/azhealthtopics/ht/How_Use_Female_.htm

It's like using 2 condoms at once - it actually makes MORE damage and increases pregnancy risk.
For now, one or the other used CORRECTLY will be all you need.
If you want to be doubly protected, I suggest another form of birth control (pill/injection etc).

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