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ignoring
How come guys go through spells where they wont talk to you for a week or 2 but then when they do they are like I am tired or just busy? Do they like you or are they trying to ignore you?
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Read this. I found it on a website a few months back, but it explains why guys do that. You'll understand a little better. :)
"Like a rubber band, some men can pull away periodically to remain close to their partners. Most men go through a cycle of getting close, pulling away, and getting close again. This is like a very hungry person eating a large meal and feeling very satisfied and then not focusing on food for a while until they are hungry again. Once a man satisfies his need for closeness, he turns his attention to work or other interests until he feels the need to reconnect. Like a stretched rubber band, he will automatically spring back after he has taken the time to pull away.
This switching between needing intimacy and independence is instinctual for some men and it can be confusing and painful to a woman. It’s important to learn if it’s a reflection of how the man feels about the relationship or his partner, or has he simply had his fill and is instinctively reaching out to satisfy other goals/ needs in his life.
Typically, once a man has fully experienced feeling independent from his partner, he will instantly become aware of his need for love and intimacy and automatically spring back to the relationship. If he is reacting to this natural process he will pick up the relationship at whatever level of intimacy he left it when he stretched away. It is important to determine if this behavior is normal or is he pulling away for other reasons.
This common and normal behavioral pattern can cause enormous difficulties in a relationship, especially if the woman does not understand why her partner is pulling away. Typically it can cause a woman to worry about the security of her relationship and it can cause men to wonder why she doubts their relationship. All around, if the rubber band theory is not clearly understood, and if a woman does not have helpful secondary support in her life, this issue can cause countless hours of unnecessary worry and turmoil. "
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Ask them.
Maybe they *are* really busy, or just aren't interested.
I doubt if they liked you, they wouldn't ignore you. Surely they'd want to talk!
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