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Coming out of my shell
Hey! well, heres the thing. im a really shy quiet person. especially around guys i like and people who arent close to me. I hate being this way! What do you think i can do to be more outgoing?
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you should make plans on weekends with your friends, go out more often and make some new friends just by starting up random conversations with people you dont know already :]
theres also another way, i know it sounds pretty stupid, but if you dont have a myspace, you should get one, you can talk to people who goes to your school and your friends and it'll help you open up easier and give you more confidence. hang out around people who are more confident that'll help you too, but always be yourself or people won't like you. hope i helped! :]
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* Practice becoming fascinated by other people. Ask them about themselves, and concentrate when they answer you. Remember what they tell you about themselves so you can talk about it later, or on another occasion.
* Great socialisers make other people feel comfortable and interesting. How do they do that? By being really, genuinely interested in other people. If you are talking to someone and you feel boring or inferior, ask why that is. Is it really all your fault?
* Practice using fewer 'personal pronouns' when you talk about things. Sentences beginning with 'I' are not only a turn-off for the listener, they also keep the focus of attention on you, which increases shyness. (Note: Of course, part of friendship is giving away things about yourself, but only when you feel it is appropriate to do so.)
* Remember that the way to overcome shyness is to focus elsewhere. Like on imagining what it will be like to really enjoy the social event, on how it will feel to be full of energy, or to be having a great conversation with someone.
There are tonnes more here
You'll get better eventually with practice. I was so shy when I was younger.
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