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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.
I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.
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i've been best friends with the same group of 5 girls since 2nd grade or so. weve always done everything together. my cousin thats in our grade used to be in the group but she really doesnt hang out with them anymore but i still do, a lot.. anyways, i'm older than all of these girls [my bday is in august & theirs are all around april-august of the next year] so basically i'm 8 months older than them, but we're all still in the same grade. none of them have ever really had a boyfriend that wasn't just like, 2 weeks then they're gone.. well my boyfriend & i have been together for like 3 months & i'm wanting to spend a lot of time with him. i dont wanna stop being friends with them but i think i'm beginning to break away, & my cousin & i are like best friends. i know no matter what happens we all deny it because we don't want it to change, since it's always been this way. it's not like i want to be "out of the group" because i don't, but i've found new friends too, that i hang out with a lot. i think i'm a lot more mature than they are, and it really bothers me, like we're in 9th grade, but they still act like they're in junior high sometimes, and it bothers me. i don't want to hurt thier feelings either! and theres one girl, especially, that's my best friend since second grade. i haven't hung out with her in so long! i dont know why, either. i haven't been to her house in so long, & she hasn't been to mine, because whenever i call her, she's busy or she ends up having to change her plans last minute. do you think i should break away from my best friend & consider my cousin [who i do a ton with] my best friend?? my current best friend & i hardly even talk on the phone anymore, or online because she's hardly on. do you think i should sort of break away from this group, my other cousin [shes a senior] said you wont think it will happen, but when you hit high school everything changes. well i dont want it to change, but maybe it is? i know boyfriends don't last forever, but maybe this one will, you never know.
I think that you're making this very hard on yourself even though it's really not. You are making it seem like you have to choose between groups and friends, and you don't. You can be friends with everyone and if people get mad over that then that's just their problem that they have to work on. You should talk to your best friend. Talk to her about how you never hang out and you really miss it and just make a plan where you two could hang out. If that doesn't work out, I don't know what to tell you but don't push her away from you because she can still be your friend even if you don't hang out and do things together. If you feel like you are breaking away from your friends, don't let it happen. You can change something before it happens and you should take control over that. Just because you have a boyfriend doesn't mean you should be choosing sides and when you are going to hang out with one and not the other. Make time for all of your friends. It may seem hard, but if you cared for all of them you would love each of them equaly. When people act silly sometimes and act like they are still in junior high, they might be just having fun or they just haven't grown up to their age. I know that when you start high school things change. You can't exactly have everything easy like it was. People change and people make new friends. You just have to learn to accept that fact. Just don't think about choosing sides and if something does change, accept that. If it's something you can fix and make it better then do it. You need your friends for everything.. trust me. Without friends, well it would just suck. Be a good friend to all of them and if you don't hang out doesn't mean you have to stop being friends and stop caring for each other.
i have a bf but im not sure how to trust him cus when ever im not with him idk how to trust him..so how do i do that
I would help you out on this but I have no background information. Why don't you trust him?? Did he ever do anything bad to you or what? You can't go anywhere in a relationship if you don't trust someone and if you can't trust him, you guys aren't going to last very long. You can't just say I don't trust someone if you don't even know why? If he is the player type then I understand that, but otherwise it doesn't make sence. If he flirts with other girls that doesn't make him a bad person because everyone flirts even if they don't seem to notice.
Every time after I eat I feel like I am going to puke, and I dont eat a lot but I start to feel really gross and sometimes almost want to make myself puke so i'll feel better, so is this normal? well thanks i'll rate 5's Happy New Year
Do you feel sick or guilty about eating it?? If it's just a sick feeling then it's probablly about the way you are eating but if you do it out of guilt then you need to see a doctor. Actually eather way, I suggest you see a doctor because it's not healthy and it's not normal. If you throw up after every meal there is a chance that you are bulimic. You need to get help because it's very bad for you & by throwing up for no reason can damage your throat, mouth & lungs.
The other day I fried my hair. I was in a hurry so while my hair was still slightly damp I straightened it. Now it feels like straw, its breaking off very easily, and I cannot style it. I've used several products and conditioned it several times but it will not go back to being soft and healthy. Is there anything I can do?
Yes. Get it cut. That's the only way that you can get rid of the damaged parts. After you get it cut, buy this spray called Ion and you spray it to protect your hair from heat.
I have no idea what to do! i like my boyfriend a lot!And I like this other guy a little but too.Well i see this other guy in the summer and i talk to him online, but i see my boyfriend in the school year........What should i do?!
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I really don't know what to tell you because I can't help you choose. If you like your boyfriend more then stay with him. If you're willing to risk your relationship with him for that other guy then it's fine but make sure you know what you're doing.
i was wondering if you could give me your aim so i could talk to you on there. i need help with 2 different situations please!
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me and my boyfirend have been goin out for three months today he got me a ring for christmas do u think that is to early to be gettin somethin like that?
No.. well if he cares about you that much to get you something expensive like a ring isn't too early. I hope the best for you guys!
help me out please alright i want to ask this girl and so im goin to ask her out in person because online or on the phone is dumb so im goin to do it in person so im goin to be like i have something to ask you and be like i really like you and you are beautiful or something and so will you go out with me and if she says yea then what should i say after that lol awquared moment so what should i do after that!!
dan
If she says yes, flash her a cute smile & giver her a hug! Then just talk & make sure that you're still flirty with her & pay lots of attention to her. ♥
i like this guy and i wanted to know if we were dating can we still flirt
Of course!! You don't only flirt to get with someone, you flirt when you're with someone. It makes your relationship better and shows that you're still into each other.
Hey Guys, My mom is cracking up. I swear she is. Yesterday she was wanting to call someone that she hadn't talked to in a while and I was like "Mom don't call. It will just end up like it did before." and she seemed ok and I never said it mean or anything. So I came and got on the internet after cleaning my room. And I herd her slamming stuff. So I went into the living room and she came toward me with my jeans and threw them at me and started cussing me out and how I was always mad at her and everything. Which that was probably the first time I was. So she said she wasn't washing any of my clothes and she hasn't said one word to me since 4:00 yesterday. I don't understand why she is so mad. So what can I do?
I don't think any of us can tell you why she is mad because we didn't see it happen and we don't live with you. She could of been drunk?? I don't know.. but that's just how some parents act when they have too much alchocol. Maybe when she talked to that person on the phone they said something really bad and she got angry at that. No one knows why. She will have to talk to you eventually. Just leave her alone until she calms down and when she talks to you first she will probablly apologize. If not, say sorry to her for whatever you did. If she still doesn't want to wash any of your clothes, do it yourself. It's really not hard at all.
do you listen/like alkaline trio, the matches, or brand new?
Not really, I heard a couple of songs and they aren't bad.
ive been happily married with my husband for a little over a year now but ive always wanted to cheat on him but not with another guy another girl im 21 years old im very curious never went all the way before should i tell him or just do it behind his back p.s i dont want to share
If you do it behind his back and he finds out about it then that could start arguments. If you loved him like you say you do, you wouldn't cheat on him.. even with a girl. If I were you I would tell him. He might accept it, he might not.
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what are some ways to FORGET a guy? i love him so much but i need to get over him! its so hard cuz he likes my friend and she likes him back and they're rubbing it in my face. how can i forget him?
The harder you try to forget about a guy, the more he will be on your mind. Getting over a guy is hard, no doubt about that. If you keep thinking about forgeting him you just won't. You need to meet new guys & just be flirty with guys. Go out with your friends, keep yourself busy and that will take your mind off him. If you just can't get over him, that's fine. Don't force yourself because that's not good & you shouldn't be in any hurry. I know that he likes your friend and that it might hurt you, but just be happy for them. I don't think that they are trying to rub it in your face on purpose, but you'll be fine. Take as much time as you need.
hey ok well here's the deal...my mom will let me go out with friends no problem. but whenever i m going w/ just a guy FRIEND she like makes sure a million times we are JUST FRIENDS. and we are. so no problem right?? but heres the Problem; she'll let me have boyfriends but she won't let me go out anywhere with them! whats the point of having a b/f if i can't go anywhere with them? how can i get her to lighten up and let me go out with a guy who is a little more than a friend????????? HELP!!! -and please dont say sneak around her i'd feel really guilty!-
It's very understandable why she won't let you just hang out with guys all alone. All parents worry about that so you're not the only one that has to put up with it. You have to show your mom that she could trust you. If she knew you she should know that you wouldn't do anything stupid with a guy and that you know your limits. If she says no still then alright, but as you grow more and more she will learn to give you some space and she will trust you more when it comes to situations with guys. Show maturity and responsibility. I think it would help if your mom actaully got to meet those guys and see how they are. I know you might go nuts over it but when you invite a guy friend over let your mom talk to him for a minuite or so. I don't think it's you that she doesn't trust, but it's the guys because you know how guys are and their hormones.
Well here it goes:
I really like this guy we'll call Jason. I told my friend and she claims she likes him too. She keeps telling me she dsen't like him but i fooled ehr on this crush calculator thing and her 1st one was Jason!
Well my friend is in 7th grade and I'm in 8th and the guy is in 7th.
Is he too young for me anyways?
I think he might have a little crush on me though and i want to confront my friend, but i don't know what to say.
Please don't say try to talk to her, i need some other options.
Thanks in advance!
I rate high for help.
I don't think he is too young for you but that's not what matters. Friends should never argue about guys so I hope you don't go into that. It's really not worth it. Don't tell her that he likes you until you know for sure. Talk to him a lot. Flirt with him. There isn't anything wrong with flirting even if a friend likes them. It just comes natrually. If he flirts back with you & gives you some signs that he likes you then you comfort her and tell her. She might be upset but if she is mad at you then she isn't being a very good friend. If eather one of you goes out with him you both should accept that fact and shouldn't do anything stupid about it.
ok. i was going out w/ this guy for about 2 months. we realy liked each other, and everything, but then i realized that i still liked this other guy, and id nevr gotten over. so i dumped him, cuz i thought it wouldnt b fair to go out w/ him wen i liked another guy. well, i immediately regretted it, and i still like him, but he wont talk to me and he says he really hates me. i apologized a million times and tried to talk him into going back out w/ me. he said he still liked me, but he cant trust me, bcuz i dumped him for another guy, and he doesn't want his heart broken again. so wat should i do? i rly rly like him, and i wanna go back out w/ him, but he just dosnt trust me.
I understand that he's mad, but I don't understand why he can't trust you. I don't think you broke up with him for that other guy, but I think you broke up with him because it was unfair. He got this whole thing misunderstood. You need to talk to him once again and just tell him everyting. Tell him you broke up with him because you were confused and you didn't want to hurt him if he found out. You shouldn't beg him to go back out with you because he's eather getting annoyed & just doesn't want to. It makes you seem desprate which I don't think you really are. Give him some time. He will forgive you & it won't just happen over night or the next day. Just make sure he knows that you still care for him and that you will always be there for him even if you're not together.
ok.....i have curly/wavy hair...but i spend 30 mins. everyday straiting it and i'm afraid im straiting it and its frying my hair!! i like it straitened...but its dull and boring...i wish i could wear it curly...but its just frizzy and i try everythign to make it not frizzy...but i cant really find anything...any ideas?
Your hair is frizzy because it's probablly damaged. You should get it trimmed at least so the split ends are gone & so it's healthy. I use this spray called Ion and I spray it in my hair before I use any hot curling iron. If you want to do your hair curly, I wouldn't do it with a curling iron. It never stays no matter how much hair spray or gel you use. You should try those over night curlers.. the ones you sleep it. You can get them anywhere & they aren't expensive. Try using V05 products or Garnier. Just keep your hair healthy and you will be able to do more with it.
I think that you are remarkably intelligent and clear-headed for a 14-year-old. Thank goodness that someone around here under 15 has a brain!
Thanks so much. :DD You made my day. ♥
where is a store that has cute clothes and don't cost that much...i rate high
Weathervane, Weat Seal, Charlotte Rousee, Forever 21, Aeropostale, JC Penny, Dillards, American Eagle.
ok i have been sexualy harrasded when i was in 2nd grade by a 14 yr old and when i was in 5th grade i like to watch movies about girls beign raped and sexualy harrasded im not a lesbion i like to read books about it too i know i am not weird i htink i liek this stuff becasue what happend to me when i was younger it was very hard to deal with and it took along time to be comfortabel even seeign his face i woud run away and cry in my room but now i just give him a nasty look but i have nit seen the kid who harrasded me when i was in secound grade we had a restreaning order against him i just need back up do you think that is y i watch these movies and read these books hope you can help
It could be because of what happened to you, but I also love reading things like that. Nothing like that has happened to me, it's just I like reading things that could & has happened to regular people. Everyone has different tastes in books & if you like to read them that's fine. I also find it interesting and if anything like that happenes again tell someone. You should of when you were younger because he is such a jerk and you didn't need to put up with him for that long.