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friends still?
i've been best friends with the same group of 5 girls since 2nd grade or so. weve always done everything together. my cousin thats in our grade used to be in the group but she really doesnt hang out with them anymore but i still do, a lot.. anyways, i'm older than all of these girls [my bday is in august & theirs are all around april-august of the next year] so basically i'm 8 months older than them, but we're all still in the same grade. none of them have ever really had a boyfriend that wasn't just like, 2 weeks then they're gone.. well my boyfriend & i have been together for like 3 months & i'm wanting to spend a lot of time with him. i dont wanna stop being friends with them but i think i'm beginning to break away, & my cousin & i are like best friends. i know no matter what happens we all deny it because we don't want it to change, since it's always been this way. it's not like i want to be "out of the group" because i don't, but i've found new friends too, that i hang out with a lot. i think i'm a lot more mature than they are, and it really bothers me, like we're in 9th grade, but they still act like they're in junior high sometimes, and it bothers me. i don't want to hurt thier feelings either! and theres one girl, especially, that's my best friend since second grade. i haven't hung out with her in so long! i dont know why, either. i haven't been to her house in so long, & she hasn't been to mine, because whenever i call her, she's busy or she ends up having to change her plans last minute. do you think i should break away from my best friend & consider my cousin [who i do a ton with] my best friend?? my current best friend & i hardly even talk on the phone anymore, or online because she's hardly on. do you think i should sort of break away from this group, my other cousin [shes a senior] said you wont think it will happen, but when you hit high school everything changes. well i dont want it to change, but maybe it is? i know boyfriends don't last forever, but maybe this one will, you never know.
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I think that you're making this very hard on yourself even though it's really not. You are making it seem like you have to choose between groups and friends, and you don't. You can be friends with everyone and if people get mad over that then that's just their problem that they have to work on. You should talk to your best friend. Talk to her about how you never hang out and you really miss it and just make a plan where you two could hang out. If that doesn't work out, I don't know what to tell you but don't push her away from you because she can still be your friend even if you don't hang out and do things together. If you feel like you are breaking away from your friends, don't let it happen. You can change something before it happens and you should take control over that. Just because you have a boyfriend doesn't mean you should be choosing sides and when you are going to hang out with one and not the other. Make time for all of your friends. It may seem hard, but if you cared for all of them you would love each of them equaly. When people act silly sometimes and act like they are still in junior high, they might be just having fun or they just haven't grown up to their age. I know that when you start high school things change. You can't exactly have everything easy like it was. People change and people make new friends. You just have to learn to accept that fact. Just don't think about choosing sides and if something does change, accept that. If it's something you can fix and make it better then do it. You need your friends for everything.. trust me. Without friends, well it would just suck. Be a good friend to all of them and if you don't hang out doesn't mean you have to stop being friends and stop caring for each other.
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