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hey, i'm not a very nice person if i get pissed off, but i've gone through a lot in my life so i think that i can give good advice on a lot of things. if anyone isn't sure that they can talk to someone because they don't understand then feel free to IM me on my AIM and i can talk to you, and i don't mind letting you guys know about my past.
*~*shan*~*


ps
(this is my favorite quote) "as long as you've got one person in the world, you've already betten the odds"



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I havent worn makeup much but now that i am getting older i try to wear it. my everytime i wear some, someone says "your wearing makeup!!" and they sound so shocked, it makes me embaraced so i was wondering if i should just start this summer and when i get back to school it will be different.

try to wear a little less, if people can see it then that means you've got too much on
*~*shan*~*

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im a really shy person, any advice on how to get out there a little more?

open up to people

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I went to the movies with a guy I like last night and we had a really great time. I gave him a handjob and he fingered me. He wanted me to do more and he was asking me for head and I got upset and asked him if that's the only reason he came and he seemed really upset and kept telling me he would never do that to me and he felt bad that I would think that of him. While we were there though, he would put his arm around me and hold my hand and he'd open EVERY door and he was a complete gentlemen. Also, later on he appologized for acting stupid and for asking me to do more. Then he asked me to go out next weekend. The other think is, before yesterday, he didn't even try to keep in touch with me for about a month (we go to different schools) so I had to start talking to him again.(he also appologized for that too) I don't want to be used and I don't want to be hurt again. I want a real relationship. Do you guys think that he's using me and leading me on or should I continue seeing him until I know for what he wants from me?

go for someone that you don't do things with on the first date, even if it's just a handjob, he prolly thinks you're easy
*~*shan*~*

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Well i have always been using pads, but i want to use tampons for a change. Can you keep a tampon in the whole school day without changing it, and then change it when you get home? My school day is : 6:45-2:45. Can you leave in a tampon that long? Oh and its ganna prolly be heavy. thanks

well first off if you've never had sex, chances are that until you're used to having one in, it's going to hurt, and second you're only supposed to leave a tampon in 8 hours or else you run the risk of getting TSS (toxic shock syndrome), so you shouldn't sleep with one in
*~*shan*~*

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do you believe in soul mates?

hell yes i do! if i didn't then i wouldn't be with my boyfriend now
*~*shan*~*

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i asked my friend if he was goin to the school dance and he he said because he had no one to go with i really like him should i ask him to go with me ? or maybe wait to see if he asks me to the dance ? and what should i wear ?

you ask him, and wear whatever you want
*~*shan*~*

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Is the only way a girl can masterbate is by fingering herself or using a vibrator?

i doubt it, but they are the most common, try looking it up online that way if you're not comfortable talking to someone about it. you won't be embarrassed
*~*shan*~*

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Ever since I was 13 years old, my cousin has been going out with this girl who has always been the same age as me. Also ever since I've never ever liked her that much. I know my cousin loves this girl and all but I dunno what to do about how I feel about her. Most other family members I have know I don't like her but then I dunno what to do anyway. Any suggestions? I'd like to have more prospectives with this situation.
signed,
Lost

talk to your cousin and tell him that you're not comfortable, just remember that in the end it's his decision not yours
*~*shan*~*

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Okie my name is Samantha and I am 16 years old. This coming up summer my best friend and I are going to California to see my ex boyfriend and she said that if we go that she doesnt know if she will come back and then I said if she dont then I wont. There is more to the story but I will just give to the jist of it. My ex bf moved away almost a year ago and we dated, but broke up last october because of the distance but we are much in love with eachother. And his mother always said that if I ever needed somewhere to stay, then I could live with them. What I am saying is it would be much to hard to leave my ex bc we would have everything that we both would want because otherwise we have to wait a few years to be together. If I can I am going to stay in cali and not come back to wisconsin. I told my mom about it and she really didnt say much. Should I change my whole life for someone im in love with and who is in love with me. We both will do anything for eachother, so moving and living there wouldnt be that hard for me because my life here is a wreck and I want to move to cali and find myself. I may be only 16 but I need to find out what I want to do with my life. What should I do. Stay in cali or come back once I go?

have you ever concidered that if you are both so much in love with each other, why he can't come where you are? why do you have to travel half way accross the US to see someone that you don't even know if it'll work out in the end??
*~*shan*~*



don't ask a question that you don't want an honest answer to, if his father beat him then he needs to be in jail why isn't he? i guess he must not be to hurt by the fact that he was abused then is he?? think about it then next time you bitch at someone for telling you honestly what you should do, and here's a thought you uptight pathetic excuse of a GIRL you can't move out of your house until you're 18 without your parents concent and if your mother has any brains at all in her head, which i'm thinking she doesn't since look how you turned out, then she won't let you leave since you obviously aren't ready

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my friend knows i like him and i gave him my number today cause my friend gave him the wrong number. and i gave him ahug and he gave me one back. he seems to be protecting me by standing up for me when people make fun of me or when people are stocking me like this one boy who likes me but i don't ike him. does this mean anything that he is standing up for me?! could it be a sign of love?! what should i do to thank him?

well i doubt it's love, but it could be a sign of infatuation, there is a difference, it could mean that he does like you though, if he's willing to stand up for you and protect you, but you've also got to concider the flip side, it could just be him protecting you like he would a sister
*~*shan*~*

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what do you have to do to become an experienced advicenator?

~Alyssa

answer a lot of questions

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what does IM mean??? i've been told to IM someone... i'm confused!!! lol. is it some american thingy??? coz i'm australian.

IM=instant message and yes you can get AOL instant messenger, just go to www.aim.com and it's easy from there
*~*shan*~*

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i'm 13,female, my boyfriend is 15 and I don't know what to get him for valentines day and he says it's up to me on were we go that day. I want to no on what i could get him and were do you think would be the best places/place to go.

well i don't know if this will help but here's what i'm doing for my boyfriend, one of my best friends and i are double dating that night, we are making our boyfriends a nice romantic candle-lit dinner plus dessert. and my boyfriend likes to wear rings so i'm getting him a new one plus some of his favorite colonge, hope that helps
*~*shan*~*

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Ok. There is this boy that i liked for over a year. i met him when i moved here from flordia. And we became friends right away! and we were kindof going out or whatever. We were getting really close untill i had to move again and we talk on the phone everynight and talk about how much we miss eachother. and he tells me all the time that i will make a perfect wife. Ok know here is where the bad news comes from Im moving back to florida and he is really upset he thinks that i will find someone hotter than him and never come back to see him and just forget about him or something. Ok my question is do you think that we will still talk and maybe work out a relationship together??? Or will we slowly fade away from each other??? ~~~~~~I RATE HIGH~~~~~~~~

i hate to tell you this and you prolly don't want to hear it but, long distance relationships almost never work out, there are some rare times when it does but the people involved would have to be very deeply in love. there might be no chance for a relationship but the two of you can always remain friends
*~*shan*~*

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theres this girl i really like but she barely knows i exist. she knows i like her because her friend(who is my friend to) knew all the time. im really desperate on advice on how to get her attention p.s im only in 7th grade so dont be so technical

here's a thought hun, talk to her, if she already knows that you like her then what's the problem? i think that it's just because of your age and what grade you're in, trust me when you get older you'll be talking to girls left and right
*~*shan*~*

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sorry this is long.
okay. this girl, tegan, lives with my family. she's only been here 3 weeks and she's already like a sister to me. problem: she likes my boyfriend josh. she is always saying how awesome he is and how he is realy good looking and stuff. and today she was going on about how jealous she is. she keeps saying she wants a guy just like josh! i really really like him. i am not giving him up! i tried setting her up with another guy and for 3 days she was all 'dan this, dan that' and saying how much she likes him. but then she dumped him and is going on about josh again. i tried talking to her but she is all like 'i'm just mucking around' but i can tell she isn't.

HELP!

then you had better watch your back, make sure that she's not just being nice to you for your boyfriend, don't let your gaurd down and keep being freindly to her, tell josh that she might be trying to take him away and to promise you that he doesn't like her nor is he intersted in her
*~*shan*~*

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Okay well the other day I was really pissed off and I sort of took it out on my best friend, b/c I felt bad b/c she was sort of ditching me for this girl (who really hates me, so we can't all 3 be friends).. and now she's mad at me and won't talk to me and I've apologized like 50 times but she still won't talk to me.. And shes the only person I can go to with my problems and stuff, so I really need to talk to her.. Is there any other way to make her forgive me?

if you said that you were sorry then there's really nothing that you can do other than wait for her to cool down and when she does, then you can talk to her about what's been bothering you
*~*shan*~*

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ok it all started one saturday when my moms friend neede a babysitter! I am grounded and i am not allowed to leave the house. But i really neede the money. MY lil sister got offered to babysit the next Saturday. She is only 10 and i am 15. I was soooo mad at her 4 doin that to me. She made a face at me like she was proud that i didn't get to babysit. Should i hate her and ignore her? I needed the money to raise for a car. I have always wanted a car. should i try and be as rude as possible or just get over it. Since my sister gets $50.00 for 5 hours! Please help me!

you're just going to have to get over it, it's not your sister's fault that you got grounded, it's yours there will be other jobs that your sister can't have, why not try looking for one of those?

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I liked my friend's brother, we'll call her Sally, and him Fred. Well..Sally didn't like it too much. But Fred introduced me to his cousin, we'll call him Kevin. And now me and Kevin date, and Sally is mad at me..What the heck?!?! What do I do???

-Incapable of Pleasing people.

tell her to deal with it, she won't like it but if she can't understand how you feel and be happy for you then she must not be that good of a friend at all

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Im 16 and i have a very small penis its just 3.5 inches long when erect and my girlfriend thinks im too small its embarrassing what i can do
will it get bigger?

well hunny you're only 16 so there's a chance that it'll get bigger, but if it doesn't then remember this, it's not the size that counts, it's how well you use it, my boyfriends not the biggest guy in the world but he can still work it pretty well, and if she makes you feel uncomfortable about it then she must not care too much for you
*~*shan*~*

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