disasterxwoah's advice column

Hi my name is Joyce i'm 14/f. There's this boy i like alot. I kind of got over him, but now i know he likes me i like him again. So I want to add him on my myspace, but i'm afraid he'll deny me (becuse he did about a year ago when i first requested him). So my question is should I take a chance and add him? Because I don't want him to think i'm desperate or anything. And since he's in all my classes that would be awkward, and I'm afraid i'll drive him away. But then again since he likes me now mabey he'll want to add me? I'm so confused please help!

I say add him :) It was a year ago he denyed you. People change in a year, I dont see why he would say no. He likes you, and as the other columnist has said, added someone on my myspace doesnt usually drive people away :) You arnt desperate, you were over him & you found new reasons to like him again. Totally not desperate. Have fun & good luck with him :)

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13/f
ok ive been going out with my boyfriend for about a month and i want to tell him i love him, but my best friend says i should wait longer or wait for him to say it first... is she right??

thanks

The best thing to do is wait until he says it first and if he doesnt, wait a little longer. You guys have been together for a month. That doesn't mean you don't love him, you really could, but it's just a little early in the relationship :) I would wait until he says it :)

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I find myself sitting at home waiting for my three friends to come over while everyone else is at the movies. No joke like EVERYONE is going to the movies tonight. I am the "leader" of the group and all I want to do is have fun. It's like my main goal in life is to have fun. I want to have a bunch of friends.. and more guy friends (I have some but just a few) How can I get more friends and not find myself sitting at home on friday nights?

Welcome to my world :)

Making new friends can be hard, but it can also be fun. Just talk to different people. Fine out what they like, and just talk to them. Be yourself, have fun. Making new friends doesnt happen in one day, but you can try each try to talk to someone new, find something out about someone. Find stuff you both have in common, and then go from there. Maybe you both enjoy soccer, you could star a converstation up like that, or if you both dislike soccer. Don't be all searious eather, it can make people nervous. Just be happy and have fun. You can find some pretty neat things out about people and make some really cool friends :)

Hope this helped some.

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15/f

Okay. This is going to sound very weird...but how on EARTH do girls in my school show off their cleavage so damn MUCH? I mean...it's like WHOAH CLEAVAGE MUCH!??!....is it the kind of shirts they wear? Or do they just push themselves up? O_O

The big secret, push ups & padded bras. Some girls though are just big breasted, and they just naturally have cleavage. I know what you mean though, girls at my school are the same way. It has to do with, if the shirt is tight, and sometimes if the bra is a little smaller too, it pushes everything together & give them more cleavage.

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I was wondering why do guys always like open thier legs really wide when they're singing as if they're trying to like do the splits?

It's as easy as this.

Guys have penis's. With legs open more room for penis, boxers, all that stuff. Its more comfortable for them,.

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When you went to High school, did you meet a lot of new friends? Or did you tend to stay around the same people you hung around with in middle school?

thanks =]

Honestly both :)

I have a ton of new friends, that I love hanging out with, and they are so much fun, and just different, but I still have my old friends from middle school that have been there for me through everything. In highschool you learn who your true friends are, which ones are close and which ones were just there for the ride. You make tons of friends, and you keep alot too.

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Why are guys turned on by not wearing underwear? I once told this guy I was, and he was like running out of breath ;]. haha but seriously, what's so great about not wearing underwear?

Basicly they think of it as [easy access]. Not all guys are turned on by it, most but not all :) They just like the idea of girls with out underpants on & how much easier it would be for them.

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i play this game with my boyfriend called the question game
where you can ask eachother any question possible.. we tend to ask sexual questions
i know pretty much like everything about him so ive like completely run out of questions
any ideas!?
just like fun stuff
xooxox thanks

I play the same game :)

Start asking him just baisc random things. Like : if you could go anywhere, where would you go and why? [all the questions dont have to be sexually related] you could ask him things like this or that, apples or oranges. What his biggest fantasy is. Would he ever make out in a mcdonalds playplace. Just silly things like that, or take his questions.. I'm sure he has had some different ones, and you could use them. Ask him, whats something that turns him on super fast, or whats something you do that he likes. Have fun with the questions, and sometimes the stupid little questions, get the funest answers :)

Hope this helped.

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whats a valedictorian and how/when do you become one?
thanks.

A valedictorian is a person who graduates first out of his/her graduating class. To become one, you have to have the highest grade point average [GPA] out of the whole student body.

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nana why do you alll ways wear sweatpants but never let me where them????

---God---

HAHA :)

Well, it's because I can't find bluejeans to fit my big o` butt :) & hmm, i`ll tade with you ;)

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I was told that guys don't like hairy vaginas. So what does that mean...when ever I'm going to a guys house and I know were going to do something make sure I wax it all off or whatever?

From what I have been told, most guys no dont like hair, but it's not their body. It's yours. If you feel as though you should remove the hair, go for it. Do it for yourself, not the guy, and also just shave it off if you choose to. Waxing is more painful and has to be done by a professional :)

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didnt know what category to put this in..
uhm what does nukka meann ??
i feel soso stupid!

Slang, friendly way to say "nigger"

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whats a person that overdoses called?

I dont think they have a certin name.

They overdosed. They od`ed, or they are an overdoser.

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i have been fingered 2 times and ate out 2 times im i still a virgin?

Yes. You are still a virgin, unless you have sexual intercourse.

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k so should i tell a girl ( who is goin out with my friend) that i like a girl she hates ) its not like shed care right ...
ps.u no me =]HAN JOB

I know who this is, fursure.

Okay, if this girl (whos going with your friend) is your friend. Tell her, she'd would prally like to know, and I don't think she would care, but im sure she would like to know :)

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how do i choose a girl ( without using the m&m or skittles game =]

I know who this is & I like my m&m & skittle game ;)

Well mister, If you want to pick the girl you have to figure out who has more things in common with you. Who you can have more fun with. Don't go by looks. It shouldn't matter which girl is prettier or what girl is hotter, or even what girl puts out more. You should pick a girl by who appeals to you more. Who holds better conversations & who understands you more. You wouldnt pick a girl that was shy all the time, and didnt want to hang out. You'd want a girl that talks just as much as you ;) & that you could hang out with and have fun with. No one can tell you who you should pick ; its your personal choice. Just talk to them and find out more about them, youll see whos more appealing and who doesn't have as much in common with you.

Hope that helped...

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ok what's the difference between being on your period and ovulating? because i heard that if people do it while they are "ovulating" then it will be more of a chance to get pregnant. but if it's the same as a period.. won't blood get everywhere? basically, what is ovulating?

I just learned this in science class.

There are 4 steps to a menstral cycle.
Folicle stage
ovulation
corpus luteum
& menstration.

Ovulation is where chemicals are released into your body and causes one egg to be released from the ovary and move threw the fallopian tube.

Menstration is where if the eg is not fertilized, the corpus leuteum breaks down, and the lining of the uterus breaks down and thus, your peroid.

I would say its easier to get pregnant during ovulation then menstration. menstartion accures because the egg is not fertlized, no pregnacy.

Hope that helped.

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why is my penis so huge =]

I already answered this.

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15/f

is it wierd that i like porn? like i know a lot of guys that look at porn, but watching other people turns me on. is that natural?

Yes its normal. You are 15. You have alot of chemicals in your body right now. So don't sweat, your normal & actutally its healthy.

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