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i think i might have breast cancer. there is a lump in my breast and i don't know how to tell my parents or my boyfriend. i dont want to go to the doctor until i am for sure that i might have it. I don't know what to do! please help me!!! (link)
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You can't be sure until you go to the doctor. Tell your parents first and go to the doctor to make sure nothing is wrong. It'd be a shame if you did have cancer and you died from it because you didn't get it checked out early enough. Tell your mom that you have a lump in your breast and see what she says and tell her that you want to go to the doctor to make sure that everything's ok. It's always better to be safe than sorry.
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I'm 14 and this guy i'm good friends with it 15, of course he is your average, out of control teenage guy. All we ever talk about is sex and everything, even school related subjects seem to trace back to it. He's already told me that he wants the first time to be with me BUT he's got a girlfriend. I have asked him if he talks about this with her and he always says no that he doesn't want to scare her away, yet it is okay to talk about it with me??? I don't know if he's mixed up and doesn't know what he wants or what, but really, is that normal to be serious about doing it with your friend and talking about it while you have a girlfriend that you refuse to let go of? (link)
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I think he's scared of letting go of something he's used to. He can't keep doing this to either or you though. He needs to either break up with his girlfriend or stop talking about that kind of stuff with you. I mean it's cool to talk about everything with your friend, but if he knows there isn't a future with his girlfriend then he needs to let her go.
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me and my boyfriend have been together for quite some time ((3 months)) he is 18 now & im 15... my parents think he is 16 and i hate lying to them but i love him and i want to be with him... how bad does this make me??
my b-day is on may 5th
and his on the 13 (link)
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Well, the only problem is parents normally find out the truth. It doesn't make you bad exactly, but it's always better to tell the truth. Then again, you'll get in trouble for the fact that you lied and his age. You're just in a bad situation. Sorry that I didn't help you.
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hi im almost 16 and my parents never told me straight up if i can date or not but they know i have anyways i want to bring a guy home how do i ask my mom or should i just bring him or wat i dont want to make my bf feel weird or my parents but this is the thing my bf doesnt speak the language my parnts do he only speaks english and my parents only understand but they cant speak help me out i rate good thanx (link)
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Ask them first, always ask them first. If you bring your boyfriend suddenly, your parents will be surprised and it'll be a very awkward situation. Explain the situation to your parents and your boyfriend so they can all be prepared. Also, you need to ask your parents first to make sure if they are ok with it and if they aren't to convince them. If they weren't ok with it, then you could be in so much trouble if he just suddenly came. I hope I helped.
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Ok, I'm 17 and me and my bf just broke up. Well, i'm not suppose to talk to him ever again and I did. Huge mistake, but now he's saying he will tell my mom we've been talking if I don't see him or do what he wants me to do. What should I do? (link)
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Don't cater to his wishes because of that threat. If you do, the situation will just get so much worse. Tell your mom the truth before he gets the chance to use it as blackmail and just explain to her that you know it was a mistake and that you won't do it again. Don't allow him to blackmail you on something this minor where you can fix it yourself.
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I hate my life and myself. My parents love me and all, but all we do is fight. My friends and I are fighting, I'm not good enough for any boyz, and I'm always finding myself getting mad. I don't think i'm that ugly, and boys tell me I am. THey like the popular girlz. Please help me. What do I do with myself? (link)
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Don't even stress over boys. They are really not worth it. They are immature and don't understand what's right in front of them. Wait a little while and then you'll find a guy that is actually worth your time. If these guys don't like you right now, then they aren't worth your time. Parents and their kids always fight so don't worry about that and maybe you need to find some new friends. Don't get stressed out because you are having a minor slump in your life. Everything will turn out fine soon enough just wait for it.
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14/F. I have to get orthodonic braces in a few weeks and I have a few questions about them. I will rate. Do they hurt? What will happen if I chew gum with them? What color bands would look good with brown hair and brown eyes? Thanks. (link)
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They hurt for the first few days and when you get them tightened they hurt a few days after that ,but otherwise they are fine. I didn't chew gum because I was afraid I'd mess them up, but I know a lot of people who chew/chewed gum all the time.
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okay so im a 16 year old girl who likes a 14 year old boy, I honestly dont care what people think about it, but thats not myproblem. my problem is, i like him a lot, and hes a really friendly guy and i met him not too long ago so yeah but i cant tell if theres anything there yet, like, im friends with his sister, and ill call for his sister to talk to her, and the guy i like will pick up and talk to me too...and i asked his sister if he always does that, as in pick up the phone and talk to her friends at the same time she is, and she said, hes NEVER done that before, so i thought that was really cool, and so yeah, i went to a party at his house yesterday a christmas party and everyyyyone was there, which was a lot of fun, so we were hanging out, and i told his sister that i was gonna put my jacket in her room, so i ran upstairs and 10 girls followed me, and it was really crowded up stairs like REALLY crowded, and then adults came up too so i was like stuck, and my someone opens the guy that i likes door, and he kinda looks out and sees me and then the door closed, you hear him run and open the door and he goes "JENN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" and i was like HEYYY! and then we chilled for the ENTIRE night, we were up in his room just laughing at everything possible he was shooting his air soft gun at kids that botherd him we were just being dumb lol, then we went up to his attic thing where he has this HUGE car racing thing set up and everyone was up there, and me and him were talking and he kept on looking at me, a lot, he was just looking at me and stuff, and yeah, so thats how it was the whole night, and then at the very end we were on his trampoline and i had to go so i jumped off cuz he was talking to everyone, and he goes "JENN!" and jumps off and hugs me and then he was like "ill probably see you in a year" and im like " DUDE...SLEEPOVER REMEMBER?!" and he was like OH YEAH! and so yeah, cuz were ALL having a sleep over like 30538304 of us together so itll be a lot of fun but what my question is, is do you think there is ANYTHING there?? because i mean i know you guys dont know him or me, but hes 14 and im 16. I really like him and all and hes just a REALLY nice guy, so i dontknow if hes just REALLY nice and always happy to see me and talk to me on the phone or if he has a lil sumthin for me....oh, and he broke up with his gf 2 weeks ago and he said that he found out that 20 girls like him at his school and i was like "well are you gonna ask one of em out" and he was like " I dont kno, theres this one that i might but i dont know what the concept of it is, like i dont get it* and im like * well...if you want her to be your GF then you ask her to be your gf...if you want her to just go out on a date with you, then you just go out on a date* and he was like * I dont know, they all want me to be their bf* and i was like * well do what you wanna do :) its up to you* and he was liek * yeahh* and so yeah, he still hasnt asked her out or anything so HELP ME PLEASEEE I dont know what i should do, i really like him (link)
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Well, it sounds like he likes you, but there is always the possibility that he's just a flirty guy. Also, he might think that he doesn't have a chance with you, so he's moving on to someone he has a chance with. I guess you need to find out from your friend what's going on with him because sisters always have the dirt.
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I'm 13 and i have gone out with this boy i really liked him and he was my first boyfriend but he dump me and now i don't want to go out with anyone because i have losed my confidence and scared i'm going to be rejected (link)
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Everyone is scared of being rejected and it's ok to be scared, but never allow someone to make you lose your confidence. Of course, you guys were going to lose interest in each other, that's normal. Now, you can move on to someone else. If you're not ready right now, then don't rust it, but don't let this one person stop you from having a relationship with someone new and better.
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14/F ~ My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 4 months now, and the other night he came over. We sat around and talked for a little while, but then he started to pull moves on me... It's not the first time or anything.. we started to make out then he put his hands up my shirt and down my pants..then we started making out more.. then he pulled me on top of him and we made out more. Is it wrong for me to let him put his hands in those places? I'm just wondering so I can tlel him weather he can again or not. Thank you :) (link)
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Well, I guess it's whatever you feel comfortable with. As long as you don't go too far, it's ok. I can't really pass judgement on you, so just do whatever makes you comfortable. Just make sure that whatever you do you don't regret later on.
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My mom was mad at my dad because a few days ago he went to New York without letting my mom know (he works there he didn't run off). Then like a day later my mom went to go pick up my brother somewhere and my dad thought they were just going to the highschool to pick him up but then they went to another town to another town. My dad didn't know that and he had a meeting to go to so he told me to tell my mom when she came home. Well a couple hours later my brother calls and is like "Tell dad we're coming home now and that we're sorry we were so late," and I'm like dad is not here why didn't you call eailer. Well anyway I got mad and my brother put my mom on the phone and I'm like "You can't be mad at dad anymore for not telling you where he was going," and she got mad and didn't say anything so i apologized and sahe just said bye. Now I think my mom is mad at me and my question is how do I get her to forgive me? Thank you I'll rate fives just for reading this. (link)
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Well, you kind of disrespected her by telling her what to do in the situation with your dad. Just tell her that you are sorry about interferring and that you won't do it again etc.
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One of my best friends we'll call her Nicole did something totally uncalled for last night. We all went to this dance and she knows I have a major crush on this this kid. I'll call him Ryan she slow dances with him right in front of me. Next time I'll see her is Mon. and I don't know how to react to the situation. I have another crush but he was with his ex- girlfriend (who is also my friend). Help me please. (link)
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He might have asked her and she didn't know how to say no. Slow dancing doesn't mean anything. Don't over react before you've heard the whole story. Wait until you hear what she says before you get mad at her.
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i have to do this thingy in front of my class.. which is 36 people and i have to memorize it... its a monologue. and im scared. i think imn gunna go out there and like freeze!! what do i do? 13/f (link)
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Just relax. As long as you'ver memorized the monologue, you'll do well. Remember that everyone else has to do a monologue too and they are just as nervous.
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Well, about four years ago, my father divorced my mother. It took a little over three years for the divorce to go through. During that time, my father treated me like crap. He was constantly yelling at me, picking on me, and just making me completely miserable. On time, he told his family that I should go to fat camp, and they all laughed at me. He's called me "fat, ugly, stupid, and a piece of sh**." I tried running away, but he caught me, and dragged me back. He also dropped me off on the side of a highway in the middle of winter, and drove off. He lead me to become so depressed, I would hurt myself.
Their divorce was finaliazed, but we had to move our of our house and move in with my grandma. I still visit him on Fridays and Sundays. He's been making us look at houses for him, which makes me really upset. He won't support us at all because he claims he has no money, but he owns his own business, and I've done some detective work, and found out how much he makes. I hate going with him because all we do is look at houses, and it bothers me because we had to move out of our house. My 16th birthday was in September and not one person from his side of the family realized how old I was. My father didn't even have a cake for me. This was one of the most important birthdays for a girl, and he totally ignored it. He just left yesterday to go with his girlfriend to Florida, and didn't even invite us, and also waited until the night before to tell us he was going. He doesn't plan on seeing us when he moves to Florida in a couple of years. Should I just stop goign with him? I'm 16-years-old, and I would rather spend my Friday nights with my friends. I want to have a father, but not one that makes me feel so crappy. What should I do? Should I continue to visit him for the sake of having a father, or should I just forget about him? Thank you so much for helping! (link)
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Well, you might regret it if you cut off all ties with your father, but you should never have anyone especially your parent treat you as such. Maybe you should not go with him as much, but still see him. Things could possibly get better at one point in time, so it's better to have atleast some contact. This might not be the best advice and I'm sorry if it doesn't help. Do whatever you are most comfortable with and you think you will benefit the most.
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Okay my boyfriend and I have been going out for a little over 3 months. I really love him. The problem is that his parents are having marital problems. So they might move to Texas. I only know of one way to possibly keep them here but it is probably impossible and that is to get married. I just have no clue how even if it would work. Any other ideas or ideas on how that would work. Any ideas on how I tell him my idea about getting married to possibly keep them from moving. (link)
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That is a really bad idea. I think you will regret getting married in the end. If you love him that much, try a long distance relationship and see each other as often as you can. I don't know if he'd agree to getting married and that might just hurt you. Talk to him about how you feel ,but don't mention the whole marrying thing because that might scare him off. Maybe both of you can think of a better solution. Sorry if I didn't help.
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Okay, so there's this boy. He's the cutest thing ever but he's two years younger then me. He is friends with a whole bunch of my friends and stuff so thats how i know him. He likes me and he asked me out and i like him. But i don't know if i should go out with him because i like this other guy A LOT. But i don't know if he likes me. I would feel bad to the guy two years younger though because i don't like him as much. Should i go out with him anyways? Because maybe i'll like him more when i get to know him better? I don't know him very well. Thanks for all help! (link)
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NO!! That wouldn't be fair to him at all and most likely you'll still like the other guy and break up wit him. Never settle because it's never fair to either of you guys. Maybe your feelings for both of the guys will change, but wait for that to happen before you settle for the guy that likes you opposed to the guy you really like.
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me and my boyfriend of 5 months dont go to the same school but we see eachother ALOT i love him to death and everything is perfect with him except that im always the one who has to go to see him...i go over there every wednesday and mostly on the wekeends....SOMETIMES he comes to the mall which is close 2 my house....he never has a ride and stuff...but my mom is like oh he has to come over here before i let you go back to his house because he never comes over here and i always hav to take you over there.....what can i do? he cant take the bus or drive or nothing but its not fair to me... (link)
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You are right it, it isn't fair to you. Talk to him about it and make him understand that you're sick of doing all the giving in the relationship and your mom isn't willing to have you go over there any more if he is not willing to find a way to get over to your house. Don't be too harsh about it though because that could just make a worse situation. Listen to his side to see if there are any solutions. Sorry if that didn't help.
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I have a friend whose bf i like A LOT and i know i would have a chance with him but he's my best friends bf. We even danced at my school dance. But i know i can't have him b/c he belongs to my friend. What should i do? (link)
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Do not mess with him. That is like the ultimate betrayl to your friend. If you care about your friend at all, you will leave her boyfriend alone.
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Okay. so theres this guy that i like(d) whos a year older than me. i dont really know him but my friends have introduced me to him before and ive just seen him around school and hes really cute n funny.
well i kinda got the feeling that he might have liked me bc if i would see him walking down the hall he'd always look over at me or kinda try and find me i think-- but never came up and talked to me. well i told one of my friends i liked him so they told him and i didnt think it would go farther than that but he said he liked me too ((or he thought i was pretty)) and my friend asked if he would ever go out with me and he said he would think about it...well a couple of weeks later after a lot of aggony and i still never really did talk to him he said he wouldnt ask me out bc he didnt know me well enough [and he told my friend that] soo yeah then another one of my friends started to talk to him about a month later and he said he still liked me but he wasnt going to ask me out bc I WOULDNT GO UP AND TALK TO HIM. yeah i know i kinda started the whole thing but arent guys kinda suppose to come up and talk to the girl or is that just me?? :\ im really confused and i feel kinda stupid...please help (link)
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You should just say hi to him once when you pass by him in the hall. THat shows that you used some effort and now he has to use some effort to talk to him. I think he needs to come talk to you, but saying hi won't hurt. It's a start.
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Ok, so i was thinking about babysitting the kids nextdor, but i've geard thast little kids are hard to take care of. is that true? i need tha cash, and cant afford anything for my friends for the holidays. I'm not really patient, but i have 2 younger siblings, but i get sick of them really easy. my brother is 8, and my sister is 2. the kids nextdoor are 7 and 9, if that helps. (link)
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Well, if you aren't patient, then it probably isn't a good idea. You need to be able to play with the kids and some of them are brats and you just have to handle it. 7 and 9 year olds are normally ok because they just want to watch tv or play games, but sometimes they don't listen so it's kind of hard.
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