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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

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okkkay so 4 days ago I gave my boyfriend a blowjob. It wasn't his first He'd gotten blowjobs before but He's still a virgin. But anyways Now I have a small cold sore in the corner of my mouth WHAT COULD THIS BE FROM ! ?
could I have gotten a disease from it ?
HELLLLPP !
pleaaaase & Thank You (:

Peeps is right. Cold sores are a form of Herpes.

If you are on the giving end of oral sex and you have a cold sore, you can give the receiver genital herpes, which is far worse.

Talk to your boyfriend. See a doctor. Get him checked for Herpes.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Ok so i'm a 15 year old boy and there's this girl that i havent really met....but i see her around A LOT and shes very hyper and goofy around everyone and shes just idk seems special, ya know? and she has this battered up worn book which i think is called 1984...it has a white cover with like a blue eye on it. Every now and then i catch her rereading it. I think its her favorite, so i was wondering whats the book like about? is it some chick book? and like what does it say about her?

Like others have said, it's 1984 by George Orwell, and it's about the Big Brother concept of the government watching everyone's every move.

Basically, this girl is a catch. She's probably really intelligent and if she loves reading, she probably has a good vocabulary, and can probably hold really good conversations.

Ask her to hang out or something. You might find you like her.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Is it possible to get pregnant from the semen that leaks out when you go to the bathroom after anal sex? I have been careful to wash the vaginal and anal area consistently after intercourse and have also been careful not to allow semen to contact the vaginal area. Is it possible that the semen leaking out of the anus can get in contact with the vaginal area while on the toilet?

Most likely not, but it may have happened during the actual intercourse.

This is why using a condom is crucial.

Please be more careful next time.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Well as you read i have a problem with my friends. My friends dont like aeropostale and i well pretty much luv it. My friend John says hollister all the way. Shawndeep says ew aeropostale. On the first day of school i wanna wear an aeropostale shirt but am afraid. I dont wanna be like a follower but if i wear it i dont want to not be stylish if they don't like it. I wouldnt want to change my friends and jerpodize my friendships rite now. So should i wear my shirt or just put on a shirt with no aeropostale on it? Oh and p.s. my bff Karina likes aeropostale and i am a 13/f

You want my HONEST opinion?

Just wear what ever the heck you want- who cares what you look like- people aren't going to remember you by what you wore on the first day anymore than what you wore yesterday or any other day. What people will remember you by is how you acted as a person- not what you decided to wear to impress people. If someone is going to talk to you and hope to be your friend only because you're wearing Hollister- what kind of friend is that? One that only cares about your appearance- not your personality. That isn't someone you should try to be friends with. Wear something that makes you comfortable and something that you like. If you like what you're planning on wearing- then so be it. Don't wear it for the wrong reasons.

--Jack
(17/m)

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What are the chances that you can get pregnant from engaging in unprotected anal intercourse while on your period with a tampon in? I know that the chances are not high with anal sex and let alone being on my period; however, I am a bit nervous and need reassurance! Thank you!

Also, as far as I know, the semen did not leak on to the vaginal area after intercourse, as I was sure to wash up immediately after.

The chances, as you said, are slim.

But, it is quite often that the semen could have traveled to your vagina without your knowing.

You may have washed up, but you may have already gotten some in your vagina.

--Jack
(17/m)

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when you want to give a guy a blowjob before sex, do you blow him until he cums? For me, I feel like if he orally simulates me for so long that i get an orgasm, I get satisfied and turned off (not like uninterested, but I litterally dont feel like I want to have sex.) Any tips?

I'm sorry. I don't think anyone is allowed to offer you this explicit advice on here. We have 13 year-olds on this site.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I want to get my boyfriend a gift and he loves spongebob, and I know he doesn't have spongebob boxers. I know I have saw these boxers somewhere but I cant remember where! Does anyone know where I could get some?

My best guess is Wal-Mart.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I was wondering what the number for the rejection hotline for when I don't want to give my real number to guys...

Thanks!

Depends on your area:

http://www.rejectionhotline.com/rh-numbers.asp

--Jack
(17/m)

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I'm stuck home this weekend all alone and I'm so bored. My parents went on a business trip and they let me stay home but there's nothing to do! I really don't feel like going out either because I'm on my period and I'm tired a lot. Is there anything fun to do without leaving the house? I thought maybe some sort of neat free internet game or something? I can't think of anything. I don't know...

ideas?

Hello.

www.discoverfun.com/freeinfo/500fun/when_severly_bored.html


Those are a lot of fun.

Here are my favorites:
# Blow on a blade of grass
# Crank up some music
# Cut out photos and paste them on Popsicle sticks and have a puppet show
# Eat
# Eat 6 spoon full of sugar, a soda, and another think that makes you hyper and then you won't be bored anymore, you will end up finding something to do... trust us
# Experiment with makeup
# Get a bubble blower and then blow some
# Get a tootsie pop and see how many licks it takes to get to the center of the tootsie pop
# Laugh out loud
# Learn how to fake an accent
# Make a humorous crank phone call
# Make an entertaining phone answering-machine message
# Make up poems or songs about your boredom
# Break into a friend's house and clean it
Call a wrong number and talk to whoever answers.
# Catch a fly, then put in a jar and stick in the fridge (this cools their metabolism down), then tie the fly to the end of a thread 15in. and hold the other end of the thread while you watch it fly around (We have tested this and it works - a lot of patience is involved)
# Chase your best friend round the sofa
# Dance around your living room naked
# Doodle or cartoon
# Dress in something silly and laugh at yourself
# Fiddle around with a Ouija board
# Figure out how to get yourself on TV
# Find an address to your favorite famous person and write them a letter. See if they write you back
# Flip a coin 500 times to see who wins
# Get on the radio
# Give names to your body parts
# Go shop for a really cool book
# Go through the English dictionary looking up really long words like discombobulated.
# Have a carpet picnic
# Have a staring contest with yourself in the mirror.
# Kiss your elbow, if you can.
# Lay a long straight line of masking tape on the floor. Now spin around really fast then try walking on the masking tape.

Enjoy not being bored anymore. That should occupy you for a few hours =D

--Jack
(17/m)

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can someone help me with some band names like what to call a new one .. thanks in advance.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Special:Random

That takes you to a random page on Wikipedia. Use that as your band name, or keep going until you get a cool one.

In the meantime, check out this topic on my friend's forum:

http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutmetopic.php?t=932&userboard_id=26236

It's about band names and album names and cool CD artwork. =]

--Jack
(17/m)

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I dont know how to flirt at all.
i need help.
and part of that makes me not know how to talk with guys. please help me learn how to flirt. tell me what i need to do.

1. Smile! If you're not smiling, chances are the guy won't be interested.
2. Don't always talk about yourself, let him talk about himself, too! Balance the conversation. Yes, conversations are a HUGE way to flirt more indirectly ;].
3. Think about what you do. Don't just blindly go around flirting with everyone. Some people don't want to flirt, and you can tell by their body language, facial expressions, etc.
4. Be nice. I can't tell you how many times I've seen girls be complete bitches. It's SO irritating. If you're not nice, then it isn't worth the effort. Guys don't like bitches.
5. BE YOURSELF! I know you said not to say this, but as the above question told you, if you aren't yourself- who are you going to be? You aren't being truthful with the guy if you're making up things about yourself or you're doing things you normally wouldn't do. The guy will get the wrong impression and may like something about you that isn't even a part of you.
6. HAVE FUN! If you aren't at least doing that, I don't know what to tell you ;]

--Jack
(17/m)

P.S. Guys hate excessive makeup.

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ok well im a guy 18'ys old, was just on msn to one of my girl mates and the conversation went from theme parks to sex some how. pah.. but what ever, we got on to the subjct of how big is average/small/big for a penis? she asked me how big i was but i wasnt gonna tell her :3 haha
thanks

...She would have to find that out for her self somtime

xObEaChbAbEoX is wrong. Unerect isn't 5 inches average. Maybe 3.

But, the average erect size is 5-7.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Hey guys i have been getting like 3 big pimples above my lip and im really sick of it. iv tried the shaving cream remedie and tbe toothpaste one too. they dont work. i need something that actually works. or even a acne ointment that WORKS. thanks. btw im 13
ashkon

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=507367

That's a question I've answered on here before that's similar to yours.

--Jack
(17/m)

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hii, I asked this question:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=569188

and you told me to go to Zamzar.com
and i did but it says ' Filetype conversion is not currently supported for "m3u" '

what does that mean? like i downloaded the video from youtube with RealPlayer.
what should I do now?
lOl sorry i thought you might know (:

Your file must not be an MP3.

If you're trying to make a youtube video go into mp4 format, just enter the URL of the youtube video onto the site, and convert to an MP4.

Otherwise, I don't know.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I'm 15, I'm a girl, I'm in love with a 28 year old man, he is in love with me, we have never done anything, not even kissed, but we go on dates and meet up about 3 or 4 times a week.

Is this wrong? And does he just want sex? Because that is what I'd normally think, but we've been dating a few months and he's never so much as suggested anything. And we were friends for ages before that too. I don't know what to do.

And I know I'm young, and people say I'm to young to be in love, but I've never felt like this before.

Not only is this wrong, but it's completely illegal.

I could go into a detailed explanation, but, put simply, he could end up in jail for even holding your hand.

Unfortunately, you need to either give it up, or wait until you're 18 to pursue the relationship.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I'm trying to drink more water and I heard that some brands of water are much better than others. I know water is REALLY important to my body and I do want to take care of myself so I don't end up with nasty skin when I'm older. I know there is Dasani and Aquafina at WalMart. There was even something called a SmartWater that came in a really long bottle. The Fiji water (in a rectangular bottle) looks expensive but if it's the best then let me know and I will try it. That's really about all the brands I know about and I haven't really drank any of them either. What is the best tasting water available?

Dasani is my favorite.

I've read studies that they are all tap water anyway, so it's just our mind thinking they have different tastes.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I saw commercials for, apparently, the new Chevy Volt that GM has created. The commercials were ALL OVER Hulu and it was driving me crazy until they revealed what the entire thing was about. Anyway, now I'm confused why the Chevy Volt is so outstanding. I haven't read anything about it (I'm not big into cars and was afraid I wouldn't be able to understand the lingo) but hoping somebody here could explain what's so great about it? Pretty please? :D

It's an electronic car that is supposed to get 100 some odd miles to the gallon.

It'll be the first car to have triple-digit fuel efficiency.

That's basically it.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I am looking to get good grades this year in school. Usually I am an A-B student but I'd like to try to make straight As this year in school. I was hoping that somebody has some tips for getting better grades, or maybe even a top 10 ways list to get straight As. Anything would help though, really.

I get straight As. I'm not bragging, I'm just letting you know, so it makes sense when I say:

Here's what I do:

1. Everything the teacher writes on the board is on the board for a reason. Write it down, and know it.

2. Flashcards are your best friend. For vocab or anything.

3. Ask questions the second you don't understand something. If you wait, you'll forget you didn't understand it, and then it'll come to the night before a test, and you won't know how to do it on the test.

4. Have regular conversations with your teacher. About the subject, or really anything. I've found if you get on a good level with your teacher, they are more forgiving and understanding should the need come for anything.

5. DO YOUR HOMEWORK. I know that sounds super lame and obvious, but do it. You see, at my school, homework is optional.. kind of. We can't get a grade for just doing it.. if we get a grade, it has to be collected and graded. So, teachers don't give grades for it. And, since it's not a grade, people think: "I don't have to do my homework now!", which is SUCH BULL. Whether or not your homework is required or not, do it. Make a note of problems or questions you don't understand, and ask your teacher the next day about it.

6. Study for tests and quizzes at least a week in advance, or, if that can't be done, start the moment you know about the quiz or test. Cramming doesn't work. Ok, admittedly, I do it, but my brain remembers things really easily. But not everyone is like me. Take five to ten minutes a night to study material. Then, the night before the test, maybe do a full review of everything, but keep it under a half hour.

7. Take breaks when you're studying. Nothing is worse than studying for 5 hours straight. Take a break AT LEAST every hour.. but your best bet is to take a break every half hour. Get up from where you're working, walk outside, get a glass of water, have some fruit; do something that gets your mind off of homework for 5 minutes.

8. Believe in yourself. I can't tell you how important that is. You can go through all the mechanics, but if you don't believe in yourself, you won't get As. Trust me. Have confidence.

Good luck! =]

--Jack
(17/m)

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I want to be popular and hang out with the "cool" group. But I don't know how to start a conversation... it's not that im not friendly, I am! And I always talked to everyone but I want to change my look this year and I want to see how it felt to hang out with the popular people can you help?

1. Start with an introduction, and simply tell the new person your name. Offer your hand to shake, upon his/her responding to you. If you already know the person, skip this step and proceed to step 2.
2. Look around. See if there is anything worth pointing out. Sure, talking about the weather is a cliche, but if there's something unusual about it--shablam!--you've got a great topic of conversation.
3. Offer a compliment. Don't lie and say you love someone's hair when you think it's revolting, but if you like his or her shoes, or a handbag, say so. A sincere compliment is a wonderful way to get someone to warm up to you. But be careful not to say something so personal that you scare the person off or make him or her feel uncomfortable. It is best not to compliment a person's looks or body.
4. Ask questions! Most people love to talk about themselves --- get them going. "What classes are you taking this year?" but don't talk about yourself too much that makes you seem full of yourself. "Have you seen that new movie? What did you think of it?" Ask open ended questions that will get them talking. For example, a good question would be, "That's a nice handbag, where did you get it?" and then they can talk about the day that they went shopping and all this funny stuff happened, as opposed to, "I like your handbag." "Thank you." and then its over. Again, keep the questions light and not invasive. Do not ask too many questions if he or she is not responsive to them.
5. Jump on any conversation-starters he or she might offer; take something he or she has said and run with it. Agree, disagree, ask a question about it, or offer an opinion, just don't let it go by without notice.
6. Look your new found friend in the eye, it engenders trust (but don't stare). Also, use the person's name a time or two during the conversation; it will help you remember the name, and will draw the person's attention to what you are talking about. Smile a lot, and laugh when any quip is made by the other person.
7. Don't forget to smile and have fun with your conversation!
8. So, you should just be yourself and ask the question that you would think be the right thing to say but, give yourself some time to think about what you say before you say it.


* Just relax. Chances are that whatever small-talk you're making isn't going to stick out in anyone's mind a few months from now. Just say whatever comes into your head, so long as it's not offensive or really weird. (Unless, of course, the person you're attempting to converse with is into weird stuff.)
* Remember, if you think of something in your head while you're talking, it's probably related.
* It will help if you watch some TV, listen to radio shows, and/or read a lot -- newspapers, magazines, and/or books. You need to have some idea of what is going on in the world. Also remember and plan to share anything you like, think is funny, or find intriguing. This is building up your own library of things that might be helpful to another person during a conversation someday. It will be amazing how you thread these interesting things when you least expect it, and make conversation an adventure instead of a dreadful task. If you take it to the next step and say things that you want the person to think of as adding value, and keep to yourself things that the person might not, you are actually honing your own personality to be appealing to the other person, and what is a greater act of kindness than that?
* If you are shy, it will be helpful to have thought about a topic or two that you could talk about.
* Follow the lead that your listener is expressing. If he or she appears interested, then continue. If he or she is looking at a clock or watch, or worse, looking for an escape strategy, then you have been going on for too long.
* Interesting and funny quotes or facts can lighten things up, and make way for things to talk about. You could also use a set of conversation starter question cards for inspiration.
* If talking over the phone, keep the person involved in the conversation at all costs. If you can't come up with a good topic, try the "questions" game. Just keep asking them questions; random questions work just fine as long as they are appropriate. This technique can save a phone conversation. The questions should be open ended questions that do not require a yes or no answer. For example "How do you know the hosts?" This way you can ask questions about what they just said or follow up with how you know the hosts (for example) instead of acting as if the conversation is an interrogation.
* Half of an effective conversation is the way you non-verbally communicate, and not necessarily what you say. Practice better non-verbal skills that are friendly and confident.
* Take a mental note of some amusing things that you saw or heard througout the day. For example, something funny someone said, a fun activity you did with your friends, or anything interesting. This can give way to future conversation.
* Watch some stand-up comedians or comedy shows to get an idea of how to start a conversation humorously. Usually, the leads you find will be funny, and you will not need much in common to talk about them.
* Remember, whoever you are talking to, you always have something in common. We all experience the weather, like good food, and enjoy a good laugh. When in doubt, just talk to them about what they are there for. For example, if you meet them at a bus stop, ask them where they are going. If they are from out of town, ask them about their life at home.
* Remember, feel comfortable and look neat, no one wants to talk to a slob.
* One last thing, it is important to practice getting conversations started. You may feel a little clumsy at first, but with practice it can become easy to start good conversations.


All found at http://www.wikihow.com/Start-a-Conversation-When-You-Have-Nothing-to-Talk-About

--Jack
(17/m)

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Oh my gosh. I love Twilight. When am I going to get my own Edward? Like, if a guy isn't Edward, I'm going to dump him in a second!

-Twilight lover!

Ok, I've read all the books, and I've seen the movie. Just letting you know so that you don't think I'm ignorant about the Twilight "saga".

Is it romantic? Hell no. Sure, it was an alright read, but I've read so many more romantic books and literature.

Twilight obsessions really get to me. Like, I understand you want to jump into their world, but it is called FANTASY for a reason. It is NOT real by any means. No matter how many action figures they make, how many movies they make, how many fans write fan-fiction, how many girls search for Edward, how many girls find "Edward", or whatever.

No matter HOW badly you want Twilight to be real, it is NEVER going to be real. Vampires don't exist. Edward doesn't exist. Bella doesn't exist. James and Victoria and Jacob and Mr. Swan and everyone else. THEY DO NOT EXIST.

I'll say it again: NONE OF THESE CHARACTERS EXIST. It's a book. Books aren't going to come alive. This isn't some stupid cartoon show where books come to life. This is REAL LIFE.

The longer you hold onto this stupid world of Twilight, the longer it's going to take you to realize that no guy is Edward, and you're going to dump a guy because he isn't "like Edward".

Please, for the sake of man-kind. Forget about Twilight. It isn't going to be real.

--Jack
(17/m)

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