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Oh, don't worry, he totally likes you. In fact, he likes you so much that he's going to propose to you (even if you're only thirteen) and you guys are going to get married, and live together happily ever after forever and always and have ten children in the country with the best jobs ever until you die at an old age together in your sleep!

If you know that's not how life works, and you want some real advice, you have my undivided attention. Ask me anything, and I'll try and figure it out for you (unless it has anything to do with geometry).

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I like this guy (I'll call him Nick), and recently, his friend (I'll call him Joe) found out that I like him. Before Joe found out, he kept teasing me that I liked someone who I didn't like, I really hated him actually. Now that he found out that I like Nick, he never shuts up about it!! It bugs the heck out of me! Does anyone have any advice, I will rate high to anyone who is serious. Thanks in advance!

I think that you should accuse Joe of liking you. Even though it sounds really kind of ego-inflated, it's the only way to really get him to stop. And if he says that he doesn't (which he will) then you can say "Then why are you so obsessed with who I like?"

Chances are, he likes you anyway. At least, that's what it sounds like. If the accusation doesn't work, you could just deny that you like Nick at all... or just stop talking to Joe. The silent treatment usually works for me when I want people to stop something.

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ok well i like this girl i have never met her in person.. we were this friday but im not going to be able to because i have a baseball game. and yes i know that doesnt matter. anywho.. we talk on the phone like every night till like 11. she lives about 30 minutes away from me. she is a grade lower then me but i dont care. she likes someone at her school and im not sure if i can do anything about it?! i think she did like me but im not sure anymore. how can i tell? and should i go out with her even though im going to be in highschool next year and she will be in 8th? thank you. i rate high to people who give me good answers.

Before you decide whether you like her or not, meet her. I tried long distance relationships, and usually they don't work.

Age is irrelevant, but you should definently meet her before you decide anything. If she says she likes this other guy that goes to her school, it's probably because she met him and knows him. If you want to be any sort of competition for that, find a way to see her.

If she likes you, she'll drop hints about it, and want to meet you/talk to you.. some girls' hints are just more obvious than others.

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hello im a 13 year old girl and my boyfriend is 15 and a half well ill be 14 soon but any ways.. he wants to have kids i want to but i still think im too young if i wasnt in school then i think im for it b ut i dont know i need some advice.

Ok.. personally, I don't believe you guys should be doing this so early in life. I think you're still kids yourself, and that having a child now will ruin your life. I know a girl who had a child at thirteen, and her life totally just... fell apart. Her parents never trusted her, her friends ditched her, her boyfriend left her, she had to give the baby up to an adoption center, and everyone in school spread rumors about her, calling her a slut and because she was pregnant, she had to leave school for a couple of months, and when she came back, her grades were failing. She switched schools.

... That can happen to you. No matter what you believe.

It sounds like this guy is only after one thing, and that's sex. It's a big step in a relationship, and I don't think you should take it. But if you seriously think you're ready for the responsibility of having, feeding, taking care of, paying for, clothing, washing, and loving a child... then don't listen to me. If you really think you can defy all the odds, then go for it. But just.. take care of yourself...

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i am a 15 year old female and,there are these prople that say that my boyfriend
is cheating on me but, i know that he is not because he talks about me all the time . He tells every one that he loves me. and he gets mad when other boys look at me . so please help me i am going crazy .


Love always barby......


The only way you can figure this out without actually SEEING him cheating is to ask questions about these people: like Are they friends? Do they have a history (or are hoping for a future) with your boyfriend? Are they an honest sort of person?

Then ask yourself some questions about your boyfriend: Do you think he'd lie to you? Does he check out other girls? What were his past relationships like?

Once your done asking yourself this stuff, (among other questions) you should be able to figure out what to do... if not, ask me.

Also, just because he says that stuff, doesn't mean that he is in love with you, or wouldn't cheat on you. Maybe it was a mistake, and he's afraid you'll break up with him. He could really love you, and you should be able to trust your boyfriend... but that's pretty much only idealistic now.

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i really like this boy, and my friend found out that i liked him, and she's being stirring rumours that arent true and she found out that the boy i like has alot of common things with me and she is trying to be his perfect image which is me i recently found out that they are going out what should i do
i dont understand why she didnt want to tell me to see how i feel about it

please help

This girl is not your friend if she stabs you behind the back like that! The only thing you can do about the rumors is deny them.. and tell people that this girl ISN'T your friend... people will be less likely to believe it, and will probably forget them, anyway...(if they're not too bad)

Become friends with this guy. Eventually, this 'friend' of yours will slip up and her true personality will show through the image of you. And when that happens, sorry to say for your friend, but she will probably get dumped. Plus, there's nothing better than the original!

She probably didn't want to tell you, because she's being so mean about it, she was afraid you'd retaliate. Or there's always the possibility that she just didn't care... and maybe that's it, because to me, she doesn't sound like a very caring person... That was really long, sorry!!

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I used to be very fond of this guy a lot and sort of those feelings still remain with me to this day. The thing is that this guy I'm sure has moved on and I'm nearly there when it comes to this. I mean this guy has put me through so much and although we don't talk, it's like I know him . He hangs out with other girls now, and he's more popular now . I don't want to be with him, but it's just that it seems like all of my friends are liking him. My feelings for him are still yet causing me insecurities .I just want to know why he can't look at me, and I want to know why he's going out with all those girls . I need advice on how to get real closure and I mean real, real, closure. Don't tell me time . I've spent three years with time . Just please. Help me . Oh and if it's time, then make sure that you have a good explanation please and some tips . Thanxs to yah

Omigosh... I can relate to that so bad. I dated my ex-boyfriend for a year and a half, and then we completely avoided each other.. like, I'd catch him looking at me.. but if he saw me looking back, he would usually look away. And a couple of my friends liked him too, and I saw all these girls who'd hang all over him in the hallways. I did have some kind of feelings for him for about 2 years after we broke up. Everyone I asked for help told me that it would take time to get over him, but I got over him on my own.. and it's not just time that helps you.

It's another guy. And even though it takes a while, you'll meet him and every feeling you've had for your ex will just... vanish. Something will just click and you'll know it's right, and consider a serious relationship again. That's what happened to me...

And I hope that's what'll happen to you too!!

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well theres this guy at my school and ive always really liked him. but hes one of these guys that everybody likes and is really popular so people just think hes out of their legue and so forget about him. well that what i thought anway but now ive found out that he likes me. he asked someone for my msn address and so ive been talking to him a lot. then he asked me for my number so we have been txting each other a lot. and the thing he has been saying are seriously flirty! and sayin what we could do when we are together. but heres the thing he hasnt asked me out or anything so we arent actually an item or anything. and my mate has asked him if hes goin to ask me out but he just said not yet because he wanted to get to know me but now im thinking does he just want to be friends? does he really like me? please help me! i rate high if its good!

If he wants to get to know you better, usually that's a sign of respect. And I'm sure he doesn't want to be "just friends" if he went so far as to get your phone number, and your email address (along with telling people that he likes you).

Telling him you like him too would probably influence his decision towards asking you out. Personally, I'd wait for him to ask me out, but if you're the type of girl that asks a guy out, go for it! I mean, it does work. I've done it before.

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Me and my boyfriend kissed for the first time a while back, and now he keeps wanting to do it every day. I'm afraid if we keep kissing every day, we'll soon grow bored of it and move of to sex. I don't want to take things too fast. So what should I do?

Usually, kissing isn't something you grow bored of.. but, it definently should be treasured.. and kissing isn't something that should be part of an everyday routine, just because you "have to". Though, I can see how kissing everyday would be nice... Talk to him about it, though, if you really think it's a big problem.

Chances are, you won't move on to sex. Sex is a big step in a relationship, and there are TONS of things you can do before sex... I wouldn't worry about it. Leave it alone unless he tries to pressure you into it (or anything else you're uncomfortable with). Then leave him alone.

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I used to wish my bf would take our relationship more seriously. I wished he weren't so prude. Well, I finally worked up the courage to kiss him one day. But now he's so different. After we kissed he said it wasn't as awkward and now all he wants to do is talk romantic, hold me, kiss me, etc. I miss the times when we were more like friends. I feel like we're going too fast (since we're only 13). I don't know what to do and if I talk to him, he might get mad or something. Got any advice for me please?
MH

If he does get mad, then he's an idiot. It's your relationship too, and you deserve a say in how fast or slow you want to go. (Just remember, he has a say in it too, so consider his feelings).

The best thing you can do is talk to him about it. Maybe online, since that usually gives people the courage to say what's on thier minds... because they can't see you, or anything. Tell him that you like that he's taking you guys more seriously.. but that you think he's taking it too fast. Tell him you're uncomfortable with it... he'll slow down if he truly likes you. After all, didn't you wait for him?

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My boyfreiend abuses me!!! I mean like he doesn't mean to but like we will be messing around and he'll grab my hand to hard and I get brusies, and I dont bruse easily!! I tell him it hurts but I know he doesnt mean to!! help!!

If he knows he's hurting you, and he continues to hurt you... dump him. You don't deserve to be in an abusive relationship.

Or if you think that's too harsh, you could get him some help (seriously, they have psychiatric studies on abusive people)... they can help him figure out why he's doing it. And help him stop. Then again, there are always those people who don't exactly 'take' to therapy. But it's worth a try if you want the relationship to last (and your hand to be bruise-free).

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Do you think it's possible to find your soulmate at 12? When I was 12 I got my first bf and we're still together. (I'm 14.) We've been through a lot together and I feel really close to him. But I don't know if that's just because he's the only person I've ever been with, or if my feelings are real. I can't imagine us not being together. He's my best friend. So... Do you thinkit's possible he's my soulmate or am I too young and am being fooled?

I think it's possible. And you're never too young, or foolish! I know my cousin found her soulmate at 11. She and her boyfriend have been dating from 8th grade till now, thier 2nd year of college. (It took him about 2 years to get the courage to ask her out, along with some helpful prodding from me...)And now they're engaged. But you always have to be cautious, because not all great relationships are meant to last.

I know when I was 12, my boyfriend and I had been dating for a year and a half (so by that time I was thirteen) and a stupid thing like summer split us up (we wouldn't see each other for three months and we were entering high school with NO classes together)... and I had really thought that we were soulmates.

But if we hadn't broken up, I wouldn't be who I am today-- I wouldn't be as happy as I am with my new crush... Sometimes, things are just meant to happen. You just have to let destiny take it's course, no matter how much it hurts. There's always a chance you'll have a Cory-and-Topanga like relationship, but it's a slim chance... Sorry, that was really long!!

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Me and this boy are really serious. We have been talking for like3-4 months.But this other guy asked me to the dance and then we started to talk cuz i kinda said yea since the first boy doesnt go to my school.Then he asked me to come outside and we were walkin around all day.Then he fingered me like 4 times,. But i feel really guilty cuz i love the other boy.What do I do? IS this cheating? Do i tell the other dude.

Well.. are you dating the first boy? Because if you are, you are most DEFINENTLY cheating. And the right thing to do would be to tell him about the other guy, because not only could he eventually find out about the whole dance thing (even if he doesn't go to your school), you'd be really hurting him if you didn't tell him....and that's not fair to him.

I don't think you're really 'love' this other boy, if you can even consider dating another boy. Much less doing things with him. If you feel guilty, then you should tell the other guy. As cliche as this is... always listen to your heart.

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I like this guy..and i heard he likes me from his friends and i want to hang out with him. But..the thing is he's not one of those guys who you can call up and invite him somewhere. He's different..he doesnt do much and he only has like 3 or 4 close friends. He's not a loner or nething..i mean he has friends at school but he never hangs out. Only with like maybe 4 of his closest friends. Well..i want to to hang out with him..what do i do?

Then don't call him up. Ask him in person, though embarassing for you, it's usually a lot more effective. Ask him to something casual too, or maybe in a group... so it doesn't seem like too much of a date, because this guy sounds kind of shy. Find out about what he likes to do, and invite him along to do whatever that is. Chances are, he'll want to 'hang-out' with you again.

If you haven't spoken with him yet, you should try it. I mean, if he's got good enough taste to pick you to like.. he can't be an all-bad person.

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13/f

First of all, not to brag or anything, but a lot of people, including me, think I am pretty. Because of that a lot of guys fall in love with me. Which is the problem, I mean I like getting attention, but not this much attention! I like being pretty, too, but I can't stand a lot of the guys that fall in love with me.

In my school there are 20-35 kids in each of my classes. I have 6 classes. 5 or less guys per class fell in love with me this school year.

My question is: how can I maybe tell them off so they stop throwing themselves at me without being too harsh?

Because it can't be that they like you for your personality, right? I mean, they all must be shallow! Some guys aren't, so don't just say they all like you for your looks, because garunteed some of them probably don't. Some of them probably don't like you at all. And if it's just for your looks, I wouldn't exactly say they "Fell in love" with you...

And the only way to be sure that they like you (or don't like you) is to ask them straight out. Then if they say they do tell them that you just want to be friends. If they don't, say Ok. Then change the topic really fast. Lol, that's what I would do anyway.

Or maybe you could try dating one of them? Or someone else? (Make sure you like them for thier personality) Boyfriends usually scare a lot of guys off.

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well lets see.. im in the 8th grade and im a girl..and im 14 1/2..and i lyke this guy whose in the 7th grade.. hes like 13 almost 14. well im going to high skool soon and im really gonna miss him. he doesnt kno that i like him. but i have this strong feeling that he might like me bak.im not sure how to tell though.and i dont kno if i should tell him.please help me. how can i tell if he likes me bak?and should i tell him or should i wait?if you guys need any more info let me kno

If you think he likes you back, then he probably does. You can tell by comparing how he treats you to how he treats other girls. That's how I do it, anyway...

You should tell him, at least that's what I think. You'll regret it later if you don't do it, and you guys could've dated. I wouldn't go as far as asking him out or anything but you should tell him.

This would be a hard dating situation, because you guys wouldn't see each other as much. And there are so many more guys in high school. Who knows? You might find another guy. And your dating tastes, personality, looks, everything will change. Well, maybe not everything, but you get my point.

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Ok so ive really liked a female friend of mine for a while now (im 18/m), but shes had a boyfriend for about the past 6 months, and ive all but given up on pursuing her. she has a friend thats pretty cute and seems really nice that im thinking of asking out at some point down the line but heres the thing, im worried it might destroy what litle chance i have with my friend if her and her bf ever break up. so onto my question in readers digest form, do girls have a problem with dating a guy thats dated one of their best friends?

Usually... yes. But it depends really on how much either of the best friends like the guy, and how bad the break up is. And some people are just more laid-back about that then others. Personally, I wouldn't risk it.

And don't count your chickens before they hatch. Her best friend might say no to you. Or, if she does say yes (or even no), you could end up liking the best friend instead.

In my own opinion (though it's naive), you should only date people that you like. That's the only kind of dating I really find worthwhile, though I know there are tons of people who would argue that..

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