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hello im a 13 year old girl and my boyfriend is 15 and a half well ill be 14 soon but any ways.. he wants to have kids i want to but i still think im too young if i wasnt in school then i think im for it b ut i dont know i need some advice.
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your WAY to young. hes REALLY pushy.. you should try having a lot of boyfriends, finish high school and college, get a job, get married then have kids.. plus dont you think he'll run out on you and the baby? even if he says he wont.. he prbably will..
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first all he wants to do is have sex with you. hes 15, and your almost 14.theres something deffinitly(sp) wrong with that.talk to him about it cause you will probably get kicked out of your house or something. and he wont be there with you when you do have them
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Ok.. personally, I don't believe you guys should be doing this so early in life. I think you're still kids yourself, and that having a child now will ruin your life. I know a girl who had a child at thirteen, and her life totally just... fell apart. Her parents never trusted her, her friends ditched her, her boyfriend left her, she had to give the baby up to an adoption center, and everyone in school spread rumors about her, calling her a slut and because she was pregnant, she had to leave school for a couple of months, and when she came back, her grades were failing. She switched schools.
... That can happen to you. No matter what you believe.
It sounds like this guy is only after one thing, and that's sex. It's a big step in a relationship, and I don't think you should take it. But if you seriously think you're ready for the responsibility of having, feeding, taking care of, paying for, clothing, washing, and loving a child... then don't listen to me. If you really think you can defy all the odds, then go for it. But just.. take care of yourself...
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wow noooo ur WAY to young! wait like 8 years because 13 is soo young, ur not even in highschool yet.
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He's wanting kids now? Oh my, You both are waaay too young to have kids. I mean your both still kids. Maybe he is just wanting the sex. Just let him know you don't feel ready and that you want kids when your old enough.
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HE WANTS TO HAVE KIDS NOW?!?!?!?! omgsh hes crazy. all he wants is sex. HES STILL TOO YOUNG!! especially at 16. he probably doenst even have his licence yet!! and if your 13 say no. and if he breaks up w/ you b/c of it. he doens't deserve you. he doesn't deserve any girl or guy. hes a horrbile person if he only wanted to go out w/ you that THAT!
hope it helped!
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RaChel
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your far too young, try talking to him and say that you want kids but later on in life cuz its a big responsibility
luv nicki xx
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WTF?? hunny YOUR TOO YOUNG! im almost 18 and me and my bf wouldnt ever have kids yet. you couldnt handle it! theres no way! dont do it.. wait until your atleast ATLEAST 18.. please! and if you dont take my advice i swear youll be reallllly sorry babe!
Sweetlilsexy16xo!
xoxo. hunny please take my advice!
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hi there
well it sounds that he loves you, or just want sex either way you should have 100% communication with him to know hi long term prospects in case anything happens in the future
because you are in school, are you going to be married to him, is he going to be faithful think about this things before making a commitment to him
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Ok, one thing, he's obviously using you. Drop this fucker like a ROCK. Children? At 13?? What the fuck? Shoot him in the balls with an air gun. He doesn't deserve to have them. Giving birth isn't a breeze. You DO NOT want to have kids while you're in school period. Tell him its over. I've seen it at my school plenty of times, and the outcomes are not pretty.
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That's the stupidest shit I've eveR heaRd.
Please, use youR head...
And kick youR boyfriend in his tiny sack...
...PRioR to smashing his face in.
Have a good one, Doll!!
*SMOOCH* =D
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oh good grief.:(
Does he have a job? Prenatal and hospital bills will cost thousands of dollars. Plus since you are under 18 you will be considered a high risk pregnancy and will need to see a specialist add a few thousand more.Excellent paying job a must.
Then of course you need somewhere to live. Will have to be a slum area since minumum hour job is all he'll get most likely at his age. Good paying jobs can't carry insurance for those under 18 so will have to live in slum awhile.
Then you'll need electricity so you can have lights. Maybe a tv or stereo if one of you currently own one. Won't be able to buy one...no money. Figure 200 a month to be safe.
You will need water. Nothing worse than smelling bad. May also want to cook something and do dishes.Which is another thing you'll need. Dishes and pots and pans. 50 for water. 100 for kitchen stuff from dollar store.Broom, mop,towels,soap oh, you'll need to save quarters for laundry too.
Not all homes are all electric. May need gas for heat and possibly the water heater and cookstove.
Figure maybe 100-200 a month.
Won't be able to afford cable, internet, phone or any of that.
Groceries. Ramen Noodles are 10 for a dollar a lot of times. If thats all you buy, you'll be able to get by pretty cheap until babe arrives.
Does he have a car? Will need one of those. Then you have upkeep. Gas, Insurance, Tires,antifreeze,power steering fluid,brake fluid, transmission fluid...can probably do without the window washing fluid. And oil, can't forget that for cripes sake! Hope it doesn't break down because there you have hundreds of dollars to fix it.
Won't be able to afford any new clothes so take care of what you have now.
Then here comes that baby. Diapers...probably close to 50 bucks a week. Formula probably more than that. He/she will have to have their own doctor. Will need shots and all. figure at least 100 dollars a visit.
You won't have to worry about any entertainment, won't be able to afford that. Besides you have a baby (who's probably screaming its lungs out) to take care of. Your friends will visit at first. But, sooner or later they are going to continue with their lives. Won't have time for you and your staying home all the time.
Hope your love can get you through the stress. Don't depend on mom and dad to help you out. They raised their kids, they don't need to raise yours too.
Sound a little wild? I didn't touch on half of it. It probably sounds about as ridiculous as your idea. That thing rattling around inside your head...Thats a brain (or reasonable facsimile) use it will ya....sheesh. :)
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haha. That's funny. You are in no condition to have kids, and also in no condition to throw your life away...you won't have a life until you're almost 30, but you'll be working at mcdonald's to pay for your kids college, so you will be stupid and will ahve no life, and you might die...sounds like fun to me.
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ok.. your 13... dont even think about trying to have kids until your married or at least close to it. i dont think theres anything wrong with having sex with him but trying to have kids is something you definitly shouldnt do at this age. you've still got some of your life to live without having the responsibility of children. plus if you had a kid with your boyfriend when your only 13 then you probably wont be together for life.. the baby would have split up parents and stuff. theres endless reasons on why not to do it. just dont have kids plz.
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YOURE still a kid. you cant have kids when you cant even take care of yourself. do this unborn idea a favor and keep it as just that, an idea. wait till you KNOW he is gonna be there for you. wait till you're married or plan to be. dont mess up your life. yall are way too young to even THINK about babies..
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