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Closure Issues
I used to be very fond of this guy a lot and sort of those feelings still remain with me to this day. The thing is that this guy I'm sure has moved on and I'm nearly there when it comes to this. I mean this guy has put me through so much and although we don't talk, it's like I know him . He hangs out with other girls now, and he's more popular now . I don't want to be with him, but it's just that it seems like all of my friends are liking him. My feelings for him are still yet causing me insecurities .I just want to know why he can't look at me, and I want to know why he's going out with all those girls . I need advice on how to get real closure and I mean real, real, closure. Don't tell me time . I've spent three years with time . Just please. Help me . Oh and if it's time, then make sure that you have a good explanation please and some tips . Thanxs to yah
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Omigosh... I can relate to that so bad. I dated my ex-boyfriend for a year and a half, and then we completely avoided each other.. like, I'd catch him looking at me.. but if he saw me looking back, he would usually look away. And a couple of my friends liked him too, and I saw all these girls who'd hang all over him in the hallways. I did have some kind of feelings for him for about 2 years after we broke up. Everyone I asked for help told me that it would take time to get over him, but I got over him on my own.. and it's not just time that helps you.
It's another guy. And even though it takes a while, you'll meet him and every feeling you've had for your ex will just... vanish. Something will just click and you'll know it's right, and consider a serious relationship again. That's what happened to me...
And I hope that's what'll happen to you too!!
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Is this guy an ex or an old crush? If he's an ex then he might think it would be awkward for you two to be friends again. He doesn't know that you still have feelings for him? You have to talk to him, hun. I know it might be uncomfortable to tell him about your feelings but it's what you have to do. Maybe he could even feel the same way. You will never know until you talk to him. I hope you can work everything out. He might just be an asshole like some gs are. My ex Ryan flirted with this other girl before we broke up. I confronted him after the breakup about the girl, but he said he would never like her because she is such a flirt. Less then a week later they were going out. Some guys are jerks like that. But just keep thinking, there's a perfect man out there for every girl and when you meet him I'm sure you will know. Please tell me what happens!!! I hope I helped.
Good Luck!!
-Mel
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he can't look at you because he obviously still cares about your feelings. i mean it's obvious. that's how i am with a girl that i've broken up with and she sees me again. i avoid all contact and just ignore her. cause i'm worried about how she might feel. so what should be done is this: you need to talk to him. yeah it's hard doing that too, cause talking to an ex is always hard but it needs to be done. then you gotta tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels (this might be hard cause guys don't talk about feelings) then go from there. you gotta patch things up with him for there to be actual closure.
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i can't tell you i know what you are going through i can only have a clue, you must be hurt right now well i think you should talk to him, not necessarily about the relationship, just see where he's coming from , maybe he isnt ready for a steady relationship, he want to play the field
all i can say everything happens for a reason, you will know when the times right, you might have a picture of him and say I AM OVER YOU, it works for my friend
Good luck
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