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Unwanted Guys
13/f
First of all, not to brag or anything, but a lot of people, including me, think I am pretty. Because of that a lot of guys fall in love with me. Which is the problem, I mean I like getting attention, but not this much attention! I like being pretty, too, but I can't stand a lot of the guys that fall in love with me.
In my school there are 20-35 kids in each of my classes. I have 6 classes. 5 or less guys per class fell in love with me this school year.
My question is: how can I maybe tell them off so they stop throwing themselves at me without being too harsh?
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just tell them that your fladdered and everything but not interested. that you need your alone time to consitrate on school and family and freinds sports also if you have any.
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Because it can't be that they like you for your personality, right? I mean, they all must be shallow! Some guys aren't, so don't just say they all like you for your looks, because garunteed some of them probably don't. Some of them probably don't like you at all. And if it's just for your looks, I wouldn't exactly say they "Fell in love" with you...
And the only way to be sure that they like you (or don't like you) is to ask them straight out. Then if they say they do tell them that you just want to be friends. If they don't, say Ok. Then change the topic really fast. Lol, that's what I would do anyway.
Or maybe you could try dating one of them? Or someone else? (Make sure you like them for thier personality) Boyfriends usually scare a lot of guys off.
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Get over yourself.
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I wish I had your problem, lol.
These boys are just exploding with hormones. They see a pretty girl and they can't help it--they fall madly in love with her. But they're thirteen-year-old boys, and you and I (and most women who are as smart as us) know that it's not really love, it's just hormonal lust. Be nice to them, but don't give into them. If they get to the point where they're really harassing you, don't be afraid to get defensive. Telling the principal or someone might help, but probably won't do much good, so it's all up to you. Hopefully it hasn't gotten too violent, and it's just innocent crushes.
If you just want to discourage boys from falling in love with you, that's easy. All it takes is some messy hair, lots of acne (it's easy to get, eat greasy foods, touch your face a lot), dirty, baggy, old clothes that you stole from your dad's closet, and a depressing attitude. When my mom was in high school, she pretended she was a lesbian so that a certain boy would be less interested in her. However, these days boys like lesbians, so I wouldn't reccommend that.
Don't be that drastic, I'm kidding. I know you don't want to hurt their feelings, but sometimes YOUR feelings come first. Just tell them that you would love to be their friend, but you don't want a relationship with them. Your friends will probably back you up and help you avoid someone who is truly disgusting and utterly unwanted. Remember, it's okay to ignore people!
Good luck. =D
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