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what does this man? its in french
vous êtes la chose la plus étonnante que j'ai jamais vue (link)
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You are the most amazing thing I never saw.
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If I'm on my period, and I have a tampon in, what should I do if, while making out, my boyfriend starts to put his hand down my pants? Should I assume he is going to finger me, and immediately warn him that I have a tampon in? If so, what/how should I say it? OR should I let him do whatever he is going to do, and then IF he DOES begin to finger me, should I THEN tell him to stop? Thanks for your help. (link)
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I'd suggest you casually bring it up before the making out stage. e.g.: Mention you took an asprin for menstrual cramps. Then he's aware of it, there are no interesting "suprises" if and when he gets down there and he can...work around it lol.
If for some reason it does get to that stage without him knowing it's that time of the month then just tell him jokingly he might wana tread carefully in that department. Yes it'll kill the mood a little but a lot less than if he suddenly finds himself covered in blood.
Have fun kids.
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Heyy. Before I start i'm 15/f.
Okay well my best friend is really pretty and alotta guys like her. I don't know why but I feel really jealous when guys like her. She can get any guy she wants and what really sucks is the one person I like, likes her and she doesn't even care. It's annoying though because all these guys will talk to me, but not about me, it's always about my best friend because they like her. This gets me extremely mad because I feel like some people use me to get to her. Like it's really crazy how many guys like her. Theres an "in" crowd at my school and we're not exactly in that, but were not geeks, we're just normal like we're friends with everyone but more guys like my best friend then they like the girls in the "in" crowd... what should I do to help me ignore this? I'm a little jealous but I could never admitt that. Thanks ! (link)
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aww sweetie, all us mere mortals have been there. First up congrats for being so amazingly mature and nice about the whole thing! To be honest there's not a lot you can do but ride it out until guys come along who like you better (and it WILL happen). Until then it sounds weird but it can actually help to join in conversation about how great your friend is when it comes up in conversation. Don't know why exactly but it kinda makes you feel less left out.
If you suspect certain people of using you to get to her, toy with them. Don't help them by inviting them out with the two of you or givng them her number etc and misdirect them about the kind of things she would like a guy to be(i.e. if she likes sweet, quiet girlsinform User Guy that she likes a guy to be totally in your face and over-confident. You get the idea) sit back and watch them make idiots of themselves. Better yet get your friend involved, tell her what they're doing and plot together.
Ok enough evilness. If she's a good friend do try admitting to her that you get a little jealous of her sometimes. I bet you anything that she'll be really suprised and probably has felt the same about you at some points. If you can't talk to her, find another good friend who's not going to gossip about it. Talking about it with someone who knows them is seriosuly the best thing to do- a little reassurance goes a long way.
Best of luck
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me and my best guy friend have been friends for a long long time. he let me know that he has cared about me for a while. i like him too and told him that. we are going out now. but i dont want anyone to know right now. only because i broke up with my ex a lil while ago because i was apparently all over my new bf. so it would be bad to have this get out right now. my question is... is this a bad sign already if i dont want to know about my blossoming love. (link)
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No not necessarily. I'm not a big fan of people knowing all the ins and ouits of my relationship either, plus the fact that you're obviouisly trying to be considerate of your ex (ust be careful that doesn't backfire by him finding out you've been keeping it a secret from him).
On the other hand the fact you're asking the question at all makes it sound like you don't have too much confidence in your feelings for the new guy?
Just go with your gut on this one.
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Ok theres this boy and i really like him but theres this girl i have known since ever and she is such s butthead cause like everytime i tell her who i like she goes and starts flirting and stuff with him! it makes me so mad! and after awhile she ends up goin out with him and she goes and rubs it in my face i cant take it anymore! and this has happened with every single guy! does anyone have any ideas for me to get noticed or asked out by this guy? (link)
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hmm ok
1) for god's sake stop telling her who you like
2) think about why you want a friendship with this bitchy girl at all
3) go and talk to the guy you like when she's not around to sabotage
4) hold out for a guy who's going to really like YOU so he's not swayed by this girl's flirting
Good luck
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okay well i have something really big to tell my parents and im not sure how to tell them. well i really want to tell them that i want to have a baby (16/f) everyone says i should but i really dont get along with my parents.. well its not that we dont get along its just that we arent that close. should i tell them now or should i wait till have a bf that i have been dating for a while because i am currently single. i know eitehr way they are going to flip but i dont want to screw things up. so how do i tell them and when? (link)
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You tell them when you're living on your own, have a job earning enough money to support a child, have the emotional maturity to take care of another human being for 18 years, you're in a stable relationship with a guy who's going to stick around to take care of his child and generally when you are in a position to not have to answer to your parents anyway.
I'm willing to bet this is not the position you are in at 16. You'll regret it if your rush into it.
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Hey Guyz, I know this girl Kate and she has a best friend Abby. They Always hang out and stuff and are like Best friends. I know that its none of MY business (but it's bothering me) but Kate is ALWAYS,(When I say ALWAYS I mean it) Flirts with Abby's boyfriend Zack. Like today we had Club Day and she was like All over him whenever Abby wasn't around. Like Laying her head on his shoulder, holding his hand, etc. What should I do. And My Best friend has even told Abby about it but she wouldn't listin to her! Should I Write her (Sarah) a Letter (without my name)?? (link)
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If it'll make you feel better. Doubt it'll make much difference though, sorry. Some things people dont want to believe and won't until it's right under their nose. Especially where best friends and boyfriends are concerned.
Rest assured sooner or later one of three things will happen:
1)it'll fizzle out
2)they'll get found out and confronted
3)they'll decide they're "in love", hurt Abby and break up a few months later once the excitement is gone.
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using a tampon for the first time, any thing i need to know? any tips please? (link)
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Start off using ones that come with an applicator, Use fairly small ones to begin with and be aware of the fact that it might feel a bit weird at first if not hurt.
Oh and also push it in far enough! Obviously not so far you lose the string but if it doesn't go in far enough it can kind of feel like it's slipping out.
Good luck
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Every guy that I like only thinks of me as a 'good friend'. What should I do? Should I act different, telling them that I like them doesn't seem to make a difference. I don't like being just everyone's friend,...I want more than that... (link)
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Ah the classic. Been there, done that, got the t-shirts emblazoned with "Look!! I'm a girl too!!!". Isn't it amazing how guys can sit and whine about "nice guys" finishing last without giving a second thought to the types of girls they themselves like?
Let me see, you're either quiet or "one of the lads" (loosly translates to having a sense of humour or some intelligence). The best advice I can give you is to stick with who you are, you're clearly liked and it just takes time for people to get bored with the "girlfriends" that they can't actually talk to or have a friendship with. Patience is the key.
In the meantime guy mates are pretty damn cool, don't underrate them. Less bitchy, less complicated (mainly), and they'll make you feel protected and cared for in a way girls just don't. Nice to have a balance.
Have fun, hope the wait isn't too long xx
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I have a question that I really can't ask anyone else about because it is too humiliating. Well at the college I go to there is a weekly campus newspaper. I was reading the classified section the other day and under personals it had my name (just my first name), and then is said (my name), STAY AWAY!! I thought it was just a one time thing but then the next week it had my name under the personals again and this time is said (my name)," masturbation is fun."
This guy that had been really mean to me even brought it up, and asked me if I had been reading the paper. I can't prove that it was him doing this, but isnt this a form of harassmant, or slander? Could I sue the college over this? This guy that has been mean to me is a reporter for the paper.
What are my rights? They are only using my first name so they could always say they were talking about someone else, but I know it's about me. (link)
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ah dear i thought people were supposed to grow up whe they went to uni. The way I see it you have 3 options:
1) revenge (always sweet but brings you down to their level)
2)Ignoring the little boy doing this so as not to give him the satisfaction of thinking he's bothered you
3) Taking up with the paper or your dean what sort of paper publishes a "personal" saying "maturbation is fun" or ust "Stay away". Regardless of wherther it is about you or not, surely they're all bright enough to realise these are designed to get at someone.
I shouldn't worry about it too much. If the person's not big and brave enough to bitch to your face they're not worth it and if this "paper" publishes these things they clearly have no professional pride and should be filed under the heading "forum for idiot students to express their bitchings and opinions no-one will listen to in real life". Screw em.
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Hi im 14 years old. And on thursday dec.7th i had sex with my boyfriend. We used a condom but it ripped. It had that stuff called spermacide on it. But im not sure if any of his sperm got in me,because there was a not big but a normal sized spot on my sheets. I just got off my period like 3 days before we had sex. Im not having any syptoms that im pregnant but im having little pains once in a while at the bottom of my stomach. Im not only scared that im pregnant but i dont know how to tell me mom && dad. They dont even know im having sex. What is the percent chance that im pregnant? and any other advise will help. Thanx alot. im so scared.
always- scared.confused.
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Ok you're not going to like this but I'm going to say it anyway- if you don't know how to deal with the possible consequences of having sex, i'd really advise against doing it at all.You need to know, before you even consider it, you can handle walking into a doctor's surgery and be able to be open and mature about sex, pregnancy and STIs if you ever need to.
Lecture over. What you need to do sweetie is buy an over-the-counter pregnancy kit to put your mind at rest. Chances are you are not pregnant but better to have that peace of mind. Secondly you need to have a serious conversation with this guy of yours, if you haven't already, and decide what you would do should you, heaven forbid, ever find yourself in a situation where you are pregnant and/or wheter you two are really ready to deal with all the possible consequences of sex. If at all possible you should try to talk to at least one of your parents about this. You don't have to tell them you've already had sex, just open up the lines of discussion. Most likely they'll be horrified their daughter is thinking about sex at all (always a difficult thing for parents to get used to|) but if they're sensible they'd prefer to know that you were able to come to them with any problems you might have rather than have to worry you're safe all the time.
Don't worry, pound to a penny you'll be fine this time. Just learn from it.
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ok well for school we have to wright a persusive essay about something we feel strongly about adn i choose to wirght about abortion..well i was thinking that i dont really no that much about it but that it kills an innicoent child adn what it says on the internet..but i really need peoples opinions about why they are for or against it...i really need this nad its due tomorrow yes i no stupid to do things last min. but you no i forgot..
so whay would you be for or against or both on abortion?
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First off gooood luck to you- whatever your views you will be shot down for them by someone or other. Also this is a tired old debate in which any moron can have an "opinion" knowing absolutely nothing about the topic. You will get tired of the arguement very quickly, particularly if (as happened to me) one of your teachers insists on hunting you down and engaging you in "discussion" about your views.
Personally I would be horrified if abortion were made illegal as I think it is a necessary evil in our society at present and its removal would result in even more children we have no place for (there are already far too any children in care who have not been and will not be adopted and unfortunately the figures do not fit the simple equation of "loads of couples want to adopt so just put them up for adoption" solve-all solution so often thrown out by pro-lifers)
But to be brief here are some topics/ideas to help you:
Responsibility- whos is it? the mother's? the government's? If your responsible enough to have sex does that mean you are responsible enough to take care of a baby OR if you're irresponsible enough to get pregnant does it mean you should not be handed a baby in a million years?
Causes: Why ARE there unwanted pregnancies? Inadequete Birth control? Bad education in young people (could bring in schools that teach only abstinence-do they have higher or lower rates of teen pregnancy in their students?). What about abortion within marriage or adult relationships?
Rights: A mother's right to control over her own body or an unborn child's right to be born? What about the rights of the father? If a father wans to keep the baby but the mother wants an abortion, what happens?
Incidentally you will find an awful lot of websites both pro-life and pro-choice (btw it's impossible to have two "pro"s in an arguement- so you could bring in the fact that really they're fighting on two competely different planes or reasoning) but they will all have an extreme slant. If you want facts and figures go to a website/book with actualy government/medical records that should be the most un-biased information you will find on the topic.
Hope this is of some help. Good luck
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ok i kno this is long but i rate high for good answers...im a f & im 17 well i jus broke up w/my bf not too long ago i feel like a part of me is missing & im kinda bored now & i dont kno what to do i hang out with my friends but its not as fun anymore without being with him...now my friends dont want me with him because they hate how he has been acting towards me since we broke up..i miss him & a part of me still cares alot about him...i dunno what 2 do i dont wanna sit around all sad & depressed & i havent been ive been busy all week with friends homework new guys calling me but its just not the same...i want him back...but i dont think i can take him back cuz im so sick of him tryin to get with other gurls while hes with me when he claims he "loves me" so i dont know what to think anymore...i will jus try to let him go...try...plus all my friends will be mad & dissapointed if i go back out w/him...help! (link)
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If he's trying to get with other girls while he's with you I can guarantee he will never make you happy in the long run. It sounds like your friends are right to be concerned about this guy- they're just looking out for you.
Obviously you got used to having him around and it's going to take time to get over but you're doing the right things throwing yourself into the rest of your life. You don't have to get into another relationship straight away, just enjoy being able to do whatever you want without having to make sure you ahve enough time to see a boyfriend.
Hoep things improve
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14/f...i just met this new girl named Kate about 2 months ago. She has this whole group of friends that I've gotten to know a little. I've only actually went over Kate's house and that's it. Well she has been spending a lot of time with me lately and she says that some people are jealous of mine and her friendship and I feel really bad. And I have also been getting a vibe from every in her group that they don't like me very much...I don't know what to do. please help. (link)
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You continue with your friendship. If you and she are both happy with it her group have n reason not to be. It's up to Kate to make sure she spends enough time with them as well as you so as long as you're allowing her space you're doing nothing wrong.
Maybe try getting to know some of these other girls on a one to one basis too and show them it's not a case of you trying to "steal" their friend from them.
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ok so i shaved "down there" the whole thing but after words i got this really itches rash and it hurts so bad i dont understand what i did wrong. i used conditioner to make it softer and after words i put lotion on it
..do you think it could be from the lotion??
ill rate high.
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neeeeeever use perfumed or alcohol-based lotions on there. It's really easy to cut yourself shaving that area and the lotion will get into the cuts and sting like hell.
Also make sure u use a shaving foam for "sensitive" skin.
Perhaps try waxing?
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I know this sounds really weird, but is it normal to have a little crush on a character in a movie? Not the actor, but the character. Because, I have no idea why, but I kind of have a crush on the Phantom from "Andrew Lloyd Webber's Phantom..." I don't know why. Maybe it's because he's so dramatic, you really feel for him, has a great voice, and/or the unmasked side of his face is goodlooking. Is this pathetic? (link)
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haha hey if it's abnormal and pathetic so am I so you're in good company! ("Sebastian" in Cruel Intentions, "Jack Sparrow" in Pirates of the Caribbean...and strangely Dr.Cox from Scrubs. Go figure...). It's just because you'd never really meet anyone like them in real life. A bit exotic lol.
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okay so im 16/f and there is this guy at my school and he just always stares at me whenever i see him. weve never talked or anything but weve had classes and i was just wondering does it mean anything that i always catch him staring at me? guys or girls advice on this would be great! (link)
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He either likes you, wants to get to know you or you've tucked your skirt into your knickers.
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You answered a Q of mine a little earlier about the Phantom of the Opera and I have one more question.
I've heard a mixture of opinions on my singing a song from the Phantom. Some agreed with you, that it was demanding, and others said that if I can sing high than it shouldn't be too much of a problem. Purely out of curiosity, what is it about the Phantom that is so demanding? Are there any special techniques that you have to learn before singing it or something? I mean, my choir has done some pretty hard stuff, including a number from Madame Butterfly. And I have a pretty mature voice and I can sing pretty high comfortably if I'm warmed up enough. Is the Phantom harder than Madame Butterfly?
Also, could you suggest some more solos? Because Because I'm not really much of an alto, so Chicago wouldn't do (I mean, it would work if I tried really hard, but it wouldn't show the good side of my voice. I'm really bad at singing in a chest voice), and everybody does "On My Own" and "I Dreamed a Dream" from Les Mis. Besides, isn't Les Mis. more for ensemble work?
Thanks a lot.
*Cheyenne* (link)
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If you can sing up there comfortably without (and this is the clincher) your voice sounding strained more power to you. The demanding things about this song are first the breath control needed (lots of held on notes and while the phrases are fairly short you need lots of power and support in them to make a rich enough sound) and of course the top notes required. If you can deal with both of those then you may be ok. What i meant about being 13 is basically that it's unusual to have a rich, mature enough voice for the song. Although it's sung by a pretty innocent woman, it still can't sound too much like a very young girl.
Les mis does have some great ensemble work (one more day etc etc) but there are solos not involving any chorus also.
More solos:
Tonight- West Side Story (would suit your voice and age goes down well in auditions)
If I were a Bell (upbeat number) or "I've never been in love before"(more lovey)- Guys and Dolls
Evermore Without You(a guy's song but you could sing it the octave up if u have a high voice)- Woman In White (not many people will do that one)
Too Much In Love To Care (if you could rope a guy friend into filling in the man's part. Worhth doing if you're looking for something no-one else will do)- Sunset Boulevard
Too Much For One Heart/ The Movie In My Mind- Miss Saigon (not hugely high though)
Hope You get the part you want!
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Ok well i really really like my boyfriend i think i might even love him but i cheated on him with his best friend and he didn't trust me for a long time and now he just got his trust bak and i did it again but he doesn't know.but his friend said that if i tell him then he is going to tell my b/f that i never told him i was going bak out with him. do i tell him or just forget about it and never do it again? (link)
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Lesson One: Secrets only stay secrets if you are the ONLY person that knwos about them
Lesson Two: If forced to lie in a pair, make sure you're partner is more loyal to you than to the person you're lying to.
Sadly you have neither of these things in your favour. Pound to a penny your boyfriend will find out.
I think you need to ask yourself why you've cheated twice on your boyfriend who you think is so nice with some arse incapable of being a good friend OR partner in crime. Low self esteem? Bad judge of character? Or maybe in your heart of hearts you just don't want to be in your current relationship.
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Say a girl and a guy that are dating have sex alot. If one night the girl didn't want to but the guy forced her to, is that still rape? Becuase she's had sex with him before, she just didn't feel like it right then. (link)
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Yes it's just harder to prove.
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