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Jealosyy<33
Heyy. Before I start i'm 15/f.
Okay well my best friend is really pretty and alotta guys like her. I don't know why but I feel really jealous when guys like her. She can get any guy she wants and what really sucks is the one person I like, likes her and she doesn't even care. It's annoying though because all these guys will talk to me, but not about me, it's always about my best friend because they like her. This gets me extremely mad because I feel like some people use me to get to her. Like it's really crazy how many guys like her. Theres an "in" crowd at my school and we're not exactly in that, but were not geeks, we're just normal like we're friends with everyone but more guys like my best friend then they like the girls in the "in" crowd... what should I do to help me ignore this? I'm a little jealous but I could never admitt that. Thanks !
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aww sweetie, all us mere mortals have been there. First up congrats for being so amazingly mature and nice about the whole thing! To be honest there's not a lot you can do but ride it out until guys come along who like you better (and it WILL happen). Until then it sounds weird but it can actually help to join in conversation about how great your friend is when it comes up in conversation. Don't know why exactly but it kinda makes you feel less left out.
If you suspect certain people of using you to get to her, toy with them. Don't help them by inviting them out with the two of you or givng them her number etc and misdirect them about the kind of things she would like a guy to be(i.e. if she likes sweet, quiet girlsinform User Guy that she likes a guy to be totally in your face and over-confident. You get the idea) sit back and watch them make idiots of themselves. Better yet get your friend involved, tell her what they're doing and plot together.
Ok enough evilness. If she's a good friend do try admitting to her that you get a little jealous of her sometimes. I bet you anything that she'll be really suprised and probably has felt the same about you at some points. If you can't talk to her, find another good friend who's not going to gossip about it. Talking about it with someone who knows them is seriosuly the best thing to do- a little reassurance goes a long way.
Best of luck
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awwww...i know exactly how you feel!!!...im more of a tomboy ok i love to play sports run around and i barely ever like a dude...i have a sister which is real girlie and really pretty alot of guys like her...so when i finally liked someone they liked her and i never do like anyone so it was hard for me to cope..im always hearing how perfect she is by friends and other people worst of all my mother bragging about how beautiful and perfect she is....but i relized she had the looks but i had the personality i turned out to have more friends to be the most like the funniest and the coolest to hang around witth and the funest...your friend might be pretty but you probably have a better personality...i dont know how it feels to get jelous because i never do ...but i think it might hurt ...never look at the people above you but the people under you..if this guy you like likes her i suggest you get him and pull up some charm...spend time with him show him your a great person
to attract a guy u have to be
1:funny 2:never talk about yourself way to much
3:dont always be on his case or in his face 4:let him have space 5:talk about things hes intrested in ...most importantly!!! 6:BE YOURSELF!! guys hate people who act like someone else belive me i know alot about guys i have more guy friends then girls...i have 11 guy BEST FRIENDS and other guy friend and a brother whos also my best friend i know how they think....i know i might be 14 but belive me i know alot...your friend might be pretty but i know u are too....just be all that you could be..in this world nothings enough...good luck tell me if i helped
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