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Question Posted Thursday January 5 2006, 6:09 am

If I'm on my period, and I have a tampon in, what should I do if, while making out, my boyfriend starts to put his hand down my pants? Should I assume he is going to finger me, and immediately warn him that I have a tampon in? If so, what/how should I say it? OR should I let him do whatever he is going to do, and then IF he DOES begin to finger me, should I THEN tell him to stop? Thanks for your help.

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icey0990 answered Wednesday May 31 2006, 10:52 pm:
Hey! im so sorry for the late response..but i have had account trouble. better late than never though! ok yes ive been in this situation before and it can be an awkward one for sure. It would be good if the guy is someone you have a bond of trust with and who cares about you ...this will make telling him why he needs to back off for a couple days easier. communication is important..and if you are able to tell him the reason why...he wont be all confused thinking you dont want him to finger you.
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MummuM answered Friday January 6 2006, 5:47 am:
You should let him know before head. If he doesn't know anything about it, and he just goes for fingering you and you say 'Oh yeah, I'm on my period', that'll make him a bit embarrassed. I'm sure you don't want that, now do you? Just before you actually start making out and having a good time, just explain to him that it's 'that time of the month'. I'm sure he'll understand. &hearts;

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AlwAySz_h3r3_4_yOu answered Friday January 6 2006, 12:35 am:
&hearts; oh yes, mine has tried this before too. I get so nervous. But now I usually let him no when I am on my period, and he doesn't really go down there to finger me, unless he is gonna do something else. Maybe you should just let him know when you are on your period. Also, another thing is you could just pull his hand out when he starts to go down there. I've done that before too. but he my get offended, so be careful with that one! Good Luck x3!

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helpachick answered Thursday January 5 2006, 11:44 pm:
hey! well i think you should just let him do whatever he's doin w/ his hand down your pants unless he actually gets his fingers really close and you know he's going to try and finger you. but if he's just down there for the heck of it and to do something else then i would just let it be. if he does try to finger you then just say one of the two things
1. just pull back for a second and say hang on just a second i gotta go pee i'll be rite back..dont move!;);)
2. or maybe just to be on the safe side since you are on your period and you dont want him getting all that stuff on his fingers if you did take it out, just tell him its your time of month right now and maybe he should move up and try somethin on second base for a while...:D
xoxo helpachick

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ScratchesOnTheWall answered Thursday January 5 2006, 9:37 pm:
I'd suggest you casually bring it up before the making out stage. e.g.: Mention you took an asprin for menstrual cramps. Then he's aware of it, there are no interesting "suprises" if and when he gets down there and he can...work around it lol.

If for some reason it does get to that stage without him knowing it's that time of the month then just tell him jokingly he might wana tread carefully in that department. Yes it'll kill the mood a little but a lot less than if he suddenly finds himself covered in blood.

Have fun kids.

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cheddar answered Thursday January 5 2006, 7:48 pm:
if he sticks his hand in your pants, he will most likely start to rub you, or finger you. either way he will find out you have a tampon in, and you might want to warn him ahead of time so that it doesn't gross him out. i wouldn't wait until you are making out, just say "wow i've got really bad cramps, i hate being a girl!" or something along those lines and if he has a brain he'll figure it out. :) i wouldn't wait until you're making out because that may ruin the moment. if you have any other questions feel free to ask.

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TimmyTM answered Thursday January 5 2006, 7:21 pm:
While "fingering" typically is assumed to include a "finger" in the Vagina, to have any sort of pleasure, attention will be focused on the clit.

Some girls ARE hornier on their period. This is true. It's up to you if you want to let him try and pleasure you while you're vulnerable like that. If he's just rubbing your clit, everything will be fine.

That said, yes, do indeed tell him. Say something like, "Well, I'm plugged because I'm on my period, but you can still play with my clit."

If he's just looking to play with your Vagina, or otherwise immature, he'll decline. If he actually wants to get you off, maybe, just maybe, he'll venture down anyway.

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Annieisonfire answered Thursday January 5 2006, 7:03 pm:
I recon when u have a tampon inside you you probably wont be as horny, plus the fact ull be on your period so it wont be as plesant for him, just tell him. Other wise don't let him put his hands down your pants until your period is over.
All my love
Aunt Annie

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xxoBriannax answered Thursday January 5 2006, 6:02 pm:
Let him know before you guys start kissing. To break it to him easy be like "Ugh my stomach hurts so bad" and he'll be like "Why?", then you say "because I have my period". Don't let him finger you with a tampon in. That's discusting on his behalf and that would hurt a whole lot.

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Mackenzie answered Thursday January 5 2006, 5:24 pm:
You should let him know before hand. That will help prevent the awkwardness and embarrassment. You don't necessarily come out and say the words - you can if you want to, and feel comfortable with it, but you don't have to. You can go about this nonchantly by mentioning how your tummy hurts. If he's a caring boyfriend, he should ask you why, and if you're okay. Just tell him something like, "I don't know.. it just started hurting out of nowhere. I think it's like a cramp or something?" He's probably old enough to assume it's that time of the month, and chances are he will ask you flat out if it is. And if he does, just say yes. I know it might embarrass you, but it's a part of life, and he will understand this and not form any negative opinions over something that is all nature, trust me. But if for some reason you can't bring this up to him the day or few hours before hand, then just make sure you stop him before his hand goes south. Just lightly and gently grab ahold of his wrist, slide it up your tummy and tell him, "that's not a good idea right now". That sentence, combined with a direct look in the eye, should tell him that situation. If he STILL doesn't get the clue, tell him, "it's just not a good week". They say men are "dumber" than women, but I don't see how any man could miss ALL of those hints.. ;]

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Mackenzie answered Thursday January 5 2006, 4:38 pm:
You should let him know before hand. That will help prevent the awkwardness and embarrassment. You don't necessarily come out and say the words - you can if you want to, and feel comfortable with it, but you don't have to. You can go about this nonchantly by mentioning how your tummy hurts. If he's a caring boyfriend, he should ask you why, and if you're okay. Just tell him something like, "I don't know.. it just started hurting out of nowhere. I think it's like a cramp or something?" He's probably old enough to assume it's that time of the month, and chances are he will ask you flat out if it is. And if he does, just say yes. I know it might embarrass you, but it's a part of life, and he will understand this and not form any negative opinions over something that is all nature, trust me. But if for some reason you can't bring this up to him the day or few hours before hand, then just make sure you stop him before his hand goes south. Just lightly and gently grab ahold of his wrist, slide it up your tummy and tell him, "that's not a good idea right now". That sentence, combined with a direct look in the eye, should tell him that situation. If he STILL doesn't get the clue, tell him, "it's just not a good week". They say men are "dumber" than women, but I don't see how any man could miss ALL of those hints.. ;]
&hearts; Mackenzie &hearts;

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FunnyCide answered Thursday January 5 2006, 3:21 pm:
If he begins to put his hand down your pants, as if he were going to finger you, I think it'd be an appropriate time to warn him that you're on your period and have a tampon in. Or, before that even. Ask him if he wants to finger you, then tell him. Or just tell him that you're on your period and have a tampon in and you're fine with making out; but fingering... no. That could get really messy, really fast.
-FunnyCide

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