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hey guys..my column has been the same for soooooo long now...so im gunna change it up a bit! any ideas please let me know! anyway..heres the ordinary junk...im kayla, im 14, i like in md close to dc, i go to rhs - home of the rams! yay haha, and i dn i just love helping people!

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i really like this girl but she keeps on trying to hook me up with her friend who i dont like at all what should i do

im 16 and a boy

Next time she tries it just tell her how you feel! Just be like "Ok I know you want me to be with your friend and all...but you should know that I like you.." and just let things go from there!! It'll probably end up good! But you deffinitly have to tell her how you feel because she might like you too but maybe she's just trying to be a good friend! Tell her! Haha let me know how it ends up!

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the past year me and my mom have been fighting a lot and im sick of it! i always think that things will get better but they dont. yesterday she was supposed to go on a couple of erins but before me and my sister were fighting (which is normal i mean we were just getting annoyed by each other) so then she just stays home and a little later says that she wants us to come w/ her. so rite when we're about to leave my friend calls and asks if i can go swimming w/ her and i asked my mom and she said ok. then like 5 seconds after i hung up i asked her where my swim suit was and she starts screaming at me that i cant go and that shes late for what she wanted to do today so she was gonna leave me and my sister alone while she goes out and said i have to call my friend back up and say i cant go. i said that i couldnt do that cuz i just told her i could go so i started screaming to her how i hate the way shes always screaming at me and how she always changes her mind and that i hated my life. then she told me that i needed to go to a doctor but what i need is for her to stop all of this (which is never going to happen). then she starts watching tv and i said how come you aren't leaving and she said that she couldnt leave me alone the way i was acting and i told her that its not me or my sister's fault that she didnt go before cuz we told her that it was fine and we wouldnt fight before, but she just keeps saying how its our fault because we were fighting. finally she says that i can go so she wouldnt have to deal w/ me so as i was putting my swim suit on she starts screaming at me that i have to get downstairs in 10 seconds so when i was goin out the door she starts really really screaming at me w/ a mean glare that im grounded for everything. that nite when i got home she was a little bit better so i wanted to walk my dog but she wanted to come on a walk to so she was there but when we were on the driveway i asked if she was mad at me and she said yes so i went inside and didnt go on the walk. also that nite at dinner i asked if she hated me and she didnt answer. i really dont like her but i just wish she would stop all of this. this kind of thing happens like every day and i hate it! sorry this is so long, but id appreciate any advice.

Wow that really sucks!! Ok umm let's see. Ok first of all, your mom DOES NOT HATE YOU. She might be really really mad, but a mother could never hate her kids. Also maybe she's having mood swings for a reason. She might be on birth control shots, which give women EXTREME mood swings for no reason. Or maybe shes on a medication that gives her very very bad side effects. Just when she's screaming at you, it's going to be hard to like her at the moment, but just keep yourself calm and give her a hug. Don't talk or anything, she just needs you to be there. I know it can be hard but still. You didn't do anything wrong or anything. Just try to stay away from her when she gets like that and do special things to keep her in a good mood! Good luck...if you need anything else just ask! But deffinitly look into what kind of medications she's taking if she's taking any at all!

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hey i am like a punk kid. and i really dont like preps very much. but my mom is like anti-punk and loves preps. and she is really into the "preppy" clothes and attitude and all that good stuff. lol. ok well thats NOT me but how do i tell her without her freaking out. i mean i want to get my tongue pierced and my ears pierced a lot. but my mom is just not understanding for my personality. people tell me "Be yourself who cares what others think" but how can you be yourself when your mother is making you another. how do i try to show my mom that i am not like her?

Tell her what you told us! Be like "Mom don't just TELL me to be myself, LET me be myself. I'm not prep and I'm sorry if you can't accept that but I can..and I'm going to be who ever I want. I'm sorry if this isn't what you want to hear but it's not a big deal, it's just a style so please let me have my own." And I dn just sit down amd talk to her! Good luck!

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what do i do? my girlfriends's best friend hates me (or so i think)... (14/m) any advice is good, thank you

Talk to her. Ask her what you did to her. She might hate you because she thinks you're bad for her friend, so show her that you're not. Make an effort to be her firend and be genuine. She'll sense that you're trying and hopefully open up a little bit! Just DONT GIVE UP! Haha she'll get sick of ignoring you because she'll be curios about what you want. So get her attention! If you dn how to get her attention, try getting her alone and I dn make it so she HAS to talk to you. Don't like tape her down haha but say something she wouldn't expect you to say. Maybe you could ask your girlfriend to ask her friend to listen to you!

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erk.... there's a banquet in honor of one thing or another (i wasn't really paying attention to what the heck my dad was saying) and there will be dancing. my boyfriend says he would love the honor of having the first slow dance with me. one problem is... i'm not sure how to slow dance. i mean i know where to hands go... but the feet positioning and the movement just kind of gets me. >_< please don't make fun of me. please help.

either tell ur bf..u can be like "ok i have no idea what im going so ur leading! n ur gunna teach me how 2 do this!" haha n make it funy so youll learn and not be embarressed! or if u dont wanna ask ur bf ask ur mom! she'll help you, all moms do! lol. gl n have fun @ the thingy! haha!

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Ok i ALWAYS brush my hair after i get out of the shower when i dont brush it its wavy/curly and tangled but then after i comb it its STRAIGHT!! and then i try and scrunch it and it never works i dunno why but anyways my hair is kinda long about down to my back and thick so can you tell me what to use and how to scrunch it? thanks!

instead of brushing it wen ur outa the shower, take a comb in the shower n once you rinse out conditioner, comb ur hair. wen u get outa the shower, put ur hair in a towel n then leave in in while u get dressed n do ur make up n stuff..then when u take it down, dont brush it just pick through it so it doesnt look like a mess lol. then just put gel through it then gel on ur hands, and scrunch it! when ur done scrunching, put hairsrpray and scrunch tht n wahlah! lol!

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okay so recently ive been hanging out with some friends that i wouldnt normally hang out with them out of school or sports. They smoke pot and they talk about ti all the time. since ive been hanging out with them i have been wanting to smoke it but i know its not the right choice. What do you think i should do?

stop hanging around them...you alreayd know theyr bad for you, so why stick around them? trust meobce ur busted my the cops 2 a [arty for bein smacked as shit, they wonr be so fun 2 hang with lol. [not sayin tht 2 be offensive] but yeah u know the right thing 2 do ;)

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My friend Harmony is always telling me that I need to let God into my life and look to him as a source of comfort. I believe that God exists, but I have doubts about whether he really cares or not. I feel like she trying to force me to believe like she does. I respect the fact that she is strong in her faith, but I don't neccesarily want to talk about it with her. She gets really offended when I say something that she doesn't think is right. When I told her that I didn't want her to tell me to go to God for guidance, she got angry and told me that at least she knew that she couldn't be open with me anymore. Am I wrong for asking her to not talk about this? How to I tell her that I would rather not talk about God without offending her?

just be like "ok look, i respect your beliefs bc ur entitled to belive anything you want to, so you should do the same for me. i never force my opinions on you, and im uncomfortable when you do it to me. i was brought up to believe whati think is right, even if that isnt what you think is right. you know you can always be open with me, but dont try 2 force me to have certain opinions." haha mayb not those exact words but something 2 that effect! gl x0x0x

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Ok, I need to change my cursor for my advice column but I can't find any cute, small ones. The website http://www.starlightmks.com has no good ones. I'm looking for maybe cute, small, and animated star cursors. Does any one know any good cursor websites? Thanks

http://www3.buddy4u.com/view/?u=xXx+HTML+xXx&redirect=true#effectstext the cursors are like near the obttom of the scroller thingy haha. i dn hope this helps

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last year i was in the broadway annie, in ny.
and like on the last night i got this huge cut on my leg...i didnt think it was that bad until a year later it left this huge scare! how do i get rid of it!!!
plez help!!!!

ooo neosporin has a special creme out just 4 tht! its for old or new scars n u can get it @ any drug store like cvs or w.e...iv seen it all over! n u jus put it on like evry day n then in like a few weeks i think its like wahlah the scar is barely noticeable! haha well thts wut its sposed 2 do anyway...if it doesnt work, at elast it was cheap so u didnt blow 2 much money!

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i need a new bra..where would you suggest i get one? what kidn should i get?

umm department stores? get w.es comfortable just dont get nething fake...meaning dont get 1 w. like an inch of padding haha!

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okay well i havnt gotten my period yet.. and i have like no shape to my body... barely any boobs like no ass... when i get my period will my body start growing faster n stuff.... cuz i really hate how i look... im 13 im tall ( 5'3) I have really long legs... im really skinny... and i can never find pants and like i hate school shopping bcuz i can never find good tight pants that are long enough like if they are tight enough they are to long... so im really self concious.... idk what to do

evry1s body is different so icant rly help u on tht 1 but ask ur doctor or something1 about the shopping, you might be inbetween a size right now, i was last yr n it was hard 2 find the right jeans lol! but umm i dn try going 2 lvlx or 579 or something, bc every brand of jeans are cut differently! eventually youll find some you like! dont be self concious! not every1 has a great body n u have plenty of time to grow! just havin fun growin up n stuff n dont worry about wut u look like! hope i helpd x0x0x!

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Hey. I need some advice and you seem like you like helping people out so here i go:

I'm a sophomore and ever since last year, I have liked this guy in my high school and he has liked me back. However, this guy is a player. He goes out with many girls at the same time. He gets over all of them, yet he's never been able to get over me. He always asks me out and I always refuse him. Who would want to go out with a player and get hurt? He promises me that he'll change. Sadly, I caught him making out with another girl the day after. I was devastated. I sent him a letter that told him how I felt. In it I told him how stupid I felt for liking and caring so much about him for such a long time. I also told him I was sick of lies and false promises. I ended it by saying "don't write back or talk to me anymore...leave me alone, you've hurt me enough." That day I came home and started crying. I should feel better now that it's over, but I don't. The thought that he'll never talk to me again makes me sad. Even though he's broken my heart and played me from the very start, I can't help but keep liking him. Should I talk to him again? Should I keep trying to make "us" work out? Please let me know your honest answer.

honestly..some players canchange and some cant...but its up to them if they really want 2..n he doesnt seem like he does. he seemsl ike the kinda guy tht gets bored easily n will cheat on a girl in a heartbeat. its good tht u told him exactly how u felt! i think he does liek u sinse u said hes never been able to get over you, but he just doesnt wanna change. u did good by telling him how you felt, so give urself some props 4 tht bc it takes alot of courage 2 let some1 know tht they can and DID hurt you! maybe you shouldnt have said "dont talk to me anymore" bc you obviously care for this guy...maybe you just have 2 accept the fact tht the best relationship you can have with this guy is friendship. tlk 2 him n tell him you meant everything you said except the last part, but all you ever will be is friends. maybe one day he will change n u can be together, but until then dont set urself up for heartbreak! gl hun i hope i helped..n im srry he hurt u!!

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everyone at school makes stuff up about me like rumors saying im a slut and my boyfriend from a different school wants to meet my friends, but i dont want them to talk crap. people also say stuff that is not true like saying i talk about people when i dont!!!
what should i do??

stop the rumers! dont just TELL the people tht ur not a slut, PROVE it. let your boyfriend meet ur friends, if the stuff people say really isnt true, than you have nothing to be worried about. if people think you tlk about them, walk up to the people n b like "ok so if i tlk about you, tell me what i said, where i said it, n how YOU heard me say it" they wont be able 2 answer you. so hten theyll know its bs. u gotta let ppl kno tht ur the boss haha! gl x0x0

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every once in a while (but not too much) I go to some sort of fancy dinner and I always get so confused when the first course comes with my silverware. Which fork do I start with? Usually I just use what the person next to me uses, but what if they're waiting for me to use a fork first? it could become very very confusing.

lol the small fork is for salad, the big one if for the main cours.e spoons are for soup, and knifes are for whatever needs to be cut! haha

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My first day of school is soon and I'm going to be a sophmore in HS. Some freshman boys, that I know are coming to my school, are very mean to me and start rumors. One of them is my ex boyfriend and he always says spreads mean things about me. I don't know what to do, because the things they say about me are embarrasing and horrible. I'm so scared that the whole school is going to be making fun of me when they come. How do I stay calm and make sure they don't start on me this year?

tell them theyr immature and they must not have anything better to do then make shit up about you. tell them its not funny n theres a whole buncha stuff you could say about them but you dont bc its not worth it (even if u don have ne dirt on them haha). if ur worried bout wut other ppl think jus tell ur friends tht these boys are gunna strt stuff but none of it is true..so your friends will know the type of ppl these boys are and theyll back u up 100%. gl

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(13/f)

i windsurf a lot and i compete a lot to. so next friday i have this competition and i qualified to compete with older people. which means im going to be the youngest one windsurfing in the competition. and well im REALLY nervous..does n e one know what i should do to calm myself down for the race next friday?

thx

they picked you for that division for a reason..you have as much skill or maybe more than these other older people. if you keep thinking about "omg theyr older n better" your gunna distract yourself and you wont be able to ocncentrate on what you need to do. jus think about "ok i can do this..im HERE for a reason" n then jus do what you need to do! gl hunni n dont let the other people intimidate you!!

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hey guys! i got my hair chemically straightened with my cuzin back in march. my hair doesnt really dry straight from it though. its kinda wavy when it used to be loose curls. i still have to straighten it which used to take me an hour now its like 20 mins. but my cuzins hair dries straight .. mine doesnt. my hair took to the chemicals real fast so they didnt let it sit in my hair as long as they should have. ok well getting to the point.. i have to get my roots straightened again soon and i was wondering if i should say something to them and if so.. what should i say?

just be like "last time i got this done the chemicals didnt sit long enough bc we thought it had worked faster than normal so can we just let it sit the amount of time that its sposed 2 even if its alreayd straight" n they should say yes. the same thing happened 2 my mom w. hair dye..it faded in about 2 weeks bc they didnt leave it in long enough n wen she went back they left in it how they were sposed 2 in it stayed for a long time

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omg ok...im so pissed right now...i was supose to go to the movies with the guy i like today...he has to bring his little bro every where so i was just gonna go with my lil bro too bc ther the same age and all my friends have started skool already...so we planned this 3 days ago..i called n asked wat he wanted to see and he sed a.v.p and i HATE those kinda movies so i was like ok..i was gonna see it bc i wanted ot b with him! so i called n found out the time for it and we agreed to go today (wednesday) ...and we planned this on like monday...and we used to c eachother ALOT but now we just never get around to it and we hold hands n stuff when we do see eachother n hes just sweet and so i was really excited i did chores to get the money n everything...well so i called him yesterday just makin sure he can stil go n he sed he can..so today i called him n he didnt asnwer so i figured he l eft to go...and i got droppd off with my brother and we waited...i kept callin bc there was no answer...and then he called me on his brothers cell and was like..."oh ya i cant go now" i dont have a ride ..i wa slike um ok....and he was like r u mad i was like no and then he was like yaaa...and then he was like o well i can get a ride but its from a gurl ii was like do wat u want..and then he was like ok well ill call her n see if she can take me and ill call u back...AND HE NEVER CALLED ME BACK! he didnt come, call or nothing to let me no wat was going on...so i was stuck seeing avp with my lil brother...im soo mad he hasnt called or nothing..wat shuld i do??

dont be mad @ him for too long..find out the whole story b4 u get urself all wrkd up..bc it might be over nothing. jus wen u tlk 2 him b like "yah so wut hpnd..u kno u kinda left me stuck @ the movies w. my lil bro..not cool..why didnt u call me back?" n see wut he has 2 say. also, next time, make sure its more than him going so u wont be stuck nect time! use this as expierence lol

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What do u do when there is a friend and she is not really your friend but she will randomly IM you on some days and stuff , what do u do when she is all fake and she makes up a stupid adive column with very very bad advice

ummm i dn...i mean she can make any type of page she wants i guess...i guess just dont tlk 2 her anymore n try to keep her outa ur life. theres not alot more u can do..srry

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