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hey i am like a punk kid. and i really dont like preps very much. but my mom is like anti-punk and loves preps. and she is really into the "preppy" clothes and attitude and all that good stuff. lol. ok well thats NOT me but how do i tell her without her freaking out. i mean i want to get my tongue pierced and my ears pierced a lot. but my mom is just not understanding for my personality. people tell me "Be yourself who cares what others think" but how can you be yourself when your mother is making you another. how do i try to show my mom that i am not like her?
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Do what i did...
JUST TELL HER....xplain what you like nd all..my mom hates that i wear alot of black clothes....
My mini me (my cousin) is total PREP, nd i want ALL preps to die, cuz i HATE them, but she cant help it cuz her parents r racis or something, so i gotta dress part-prep wen i am around them! (AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHh)
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I know you have probably recieved many many resposes to this question, but I hope this really helps you out much. I had the exact propblem about 2 years ago with my mom, when I recieved a large pile of abercrombie and fitch clothes for christmas from my mother. I had started liking vintage clothing, and was obviously not digging the "preppy look" anymore. I nicely gave the clothes back to her and asked if we could exchage them for some others. She flippeddd out and started giving me this whole sob story of how she didn't want me to become some gothic "freak of nature". Haha, and thats putting it lightly. But anyways, I grew in to the person i wanted to be, I didn't make the change overnight. That also makes people think you are trying to be someone your not, and I'm sure you have the best intentions to be whoever the hell you want to, and no one should stand in your way. Also, no one should be judged by the clothing they wear, and anyone who does just shows how iggnorant some people are. As you get older, you mature, and realize who you truly are, and your parents learn to accept you as well.
I hope i helped <3
Sarah*
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when ur with ur mom u can just put on the type of music u like and then she will get an idea u dont like prep because music tells ALOT about ur personality.you can also go shopping with her and pick out ur clothes or tell her wut u like and stuff.ya she will get the point of wut u lyke.GOOD LUCK!!
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I dont want ot be all like go for it challenge your mom fight the power ! caues it never works
Youve got ot wait til your 18 theres no way around it sorry
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eehh!! LABELS!! it burns!! My mom is like a preppy kinda of mother..and I also have a really preppy like sister..and i'm always asked "why cant you be more like your sister?!"
1- i cant be perfect...
2- i dont want to act preppy and all
3- i dont like that much pink!
my mom doesnt even like half my friends..and she calls them "gothic" she doesnt relize I dont like pink oh so much..and right now half my clothes look punkish..and the other all pink and all..ehh!! its sucks..and its so damn hard to please her..when you dont want to be someone your not!..
you gotta sither down and explain that your not like her at all..and ur a total opp. from her.. -hope I helped
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Well you can't really show her. But just calmly go up to her and say we need to talk to something and be like mom "were different. Were 2 different people and I'm not into that prep stuff and I don't want to be into that prep stuff and it seems like your not excepting me as a punk kid and all that mambo jumbo crap. lol. but dont cop any attitude to her or anything so she will go physco. I don't blam you about the whole prep shit. I don't like em either or there style. But just try to explain how you feel to ur mom nicely.
Hope she understands.
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GYAH! LABELING! *runs far far away*
Okay, back now. And answering your question, even if you insist on labeling everything.
Do it slowly. Next time you're shopping with her and she holds up a pink fluffy skirt and says it's adorable, just say, "Mom, that skirt really doesn't go with my style. It's not me at all."
I don't know what other stuff she'd do that goes against the punk code or whatever, but just something along those lines. Just sort of tell her that whatever she wants you do isn't something YOU want to do. Then quote her "be yourself" mantra back at her.
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well, i can say that i've gone through the same thing. My dad was totally againist the whole idea. but, you cant just make the wordrobe change and everything all at once! it'll just make things really hard. What i did was slowly change things. Like, starting getting just shirts from hot topic or something. Not really punk ones either - just something simple. and try to get it when your there with a friend or have your mom go in like a different store while you are in that one. After awhile you can try to explain to your mom that this is what you want. That you dont want to be like everyone else. and sort of explain the down side to being like eeryone else. Like how most preppy girls are slut and the guys are perverted jerks. dont get really mad if she differs in opinion, you have to calming explain your side of things. Stay cool and mature about everything and that should sorta show you can make your own clopthing decisions. Abput the piercings im not really sure there is any easy way to tell your parents you want a piercing. Just put the idea out there that , that is something you want. Maybe she will warm up to the idea after awhile. well, thats all. good luck! =]
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Well the way that always works for me is writing her a note..like put in the note: ( Mom..I writing because I'm not a lil preppy girl..I really want my tounge peirced or at least my eyes peirced again a couple times..I really want you to understand that we're not into the same things..soo please just think about me getting my tounge and ears peirced... ) It always works for me...! hope this helps!
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I cannot stand people who label themselves or others.Have I been called a punk before?Yes.Goth?Yes.Do I consider myself either?NO!I just prefer Black to pink.It just really pisses me off when people say shit like that.Think about that the next time you label yourself.As for the advice part.It was kind of hard at first with my mom to except I rather wear A Gun's and Roses Tee with jeans that have holes in it and Chuck Taylors as opposed to a cute pink skirt with a clean,white tank top and stilettos.Do you get my point though? Give her time.Eventually she will accept your wardrobe and you.She'll still love you no matter what you wear.As for your piercings.Good luck with those.Once you turn 18 you can get how ever many you want.Who knows by then you might not even want them.But try for one at a time.And the toungue would not be a good place to start.
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Well I'm rebellious, if my parents dont want me to do something and I REALLY want it then I'll do it, like I wanted my lip pierced and they wouldnt let me get it done so I did it myself... Just take risks, but no do NOT peirce your own tongue, just show her thats the way you are and she needs to learn to deal with it, or you will keep acting that way? I dunno if that's how you are but it worked for me
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Yeah thats how i am. And my mom didnt understand at first. But i sat down with her and said ..mom i will never be like preps..i love the way i am..im happy the way i am. Dont you want me to be happy. I cant change who i am. Then tell wat u want to get a pierced and say..i kno this is alot of piercings but maybe we can agree on just one or two piercings. Make an agreement with her.
hope it works
..Heya..
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What's with kids and labels these days? I always thought it wasn't about what you wore, it was about who you were. Your mother probably won't change her mind, but you could try to negotiate with her. If she lets you get your tongue pierced, you will do this and that. If this doesn't work, you'll have to wait until you're old enough to do it without her permission.
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Try talking to your mother about it. Tell her that you like who you are and dont want to be "preppy" maybe she will understand.
-Suzu-
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Damn you like your labels dont you?
anyways, just tell her how you feel! what is she going to do anyways? i doubt shes going to do something horrible, so just tell her!
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I'm sort of like you. Lotsa black, skateboarding, punk. If I were you, tell your mom,
"Mom, I don't like you always telling me who to be. I'm not like who you want me to be. it would make me very happy if I could just be myself."
Hope I helped! Rate me, and come to me anytime. Look at my advice column, and ask me advice if you need it!
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i am going through the exact same problems you are.. if you get good grades and respect them most of the time they'll let you do what u want but if you treat them like a punk ass then they won't let you.. just try and treat ur mom really nice and try to explain to her that ur not like her.. hope i helped
xoxox-kenzi
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tell her "mom im sorry im just not into skirts and make-up,i want to me,but being a pink-prep is not me.im really sorry.hope you understand"
hope it works
~*Kara*~
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Tell her what you told us! Be like "Mom don't just TELL me to be myself, LET me be myself. I'm not prep and I'm sorry if you can't accept that but I can..and I'm going to be who ever I want. I'm sorry if this isn't what you want to hear but it's not a big deal, it's just a style so please let me have my own." And I dn just sit down amd talk to her! Good luck!
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