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so theres this guy that i met at my friends house about a month ago, he is friends with my friends brother. hes one year younger than me but whatever. we met about a month ago at her house, it was fun we all just watched movies in the basement and slept over. I found out he liked me a week later, i liked him too. we talked online and then a month later which was last weekend i saw him at her house again, before i went though he told me he wanted to do stuff with me. we didnt end up doing anything because we were never alone. he likes this girl who lives an hour away who is a junior..its kind of weird.. but anyways,
on wednesday i got an IM from him and we were just kidding around about how it was funny that he took my phone and i kept on trying to get it from him. then he told me that i "wanted it" and he was being serious. and then he told me i should of given him a handjob and he was going to feel me up. and i said he could feel me up because i dont know, i still like him. so then he said, okay next time ill feel you up and you give me a handjob k? and okay i know this is really bad but i said okay. only because..i dont know..i want him to still like me..and i feel like if i said no he wouldnt be talking to me anymore..so i just okay. without even thinking about it..:[ and then all he wanted to talk about was getting his handjob and feeling me up and how i was going to do it and all of this stuff. and where we would do it. and then he asked what my bra size was and i dont know. it was getting annoying..he asked me if i would suck it and i told him no im sorry but i dont want to. and he said, okay im fine with a handjob:] ugh..i dont think i want to do that. first of all, we arent even going out. second of all, ive only seen him twice. third of all, he likes someone else. fourth of all, he told me he doesnt know if he likes me and he is split between me and someone else and that if i do these things with him he might be with me. fifth of all, my worst fear, is him telling all of his friends about it. and he used to go to my school, so im afraid word would get out that i did that to him and people would think im a slut...i told him not to tell ANYONE and he said yeah i promise dont worry. but for some reason i just dont believe that..at all..i sort of want to give him one because i like him and i just dont know..im also really afraid that now if i dont, hell be really let down and mad and never talk to me again. im stuck. he thinks im going to give him one..and i dont know if i want to..its a lose lose situation i mean if i dont, ill be let down by him and he wont talk to me..if i do, im afraid hell tell people..but then again maybe he wont? i have no idea. and also, thursday night he was litterally begging me for a half hour for me to send a picture of my upper chest for him. i said no i dont think its a good idea incase people find out and he just kept on saying no please im trustworthy please come on i promise i wont please. and then after i said no in the nicest way possible at least 20 times, he asked me if he could use his mouth feeling me up and i just said yeah i mean i guess and he said he would. then he texted me and told me how big he was and asked if i liked it. ugh i just feel like such a slut if i gave him a handjob. its gonna end badly, i just know it. and also this would be my first time giving one..and he knows that too..ugh i dont know what to do..i like him, a lot, and im afraid...ugh im just so afraid. someone please help me.
One thing I realized when I read this was your repetitive use of "I just don't know". Here's a tip relating to most sexual things in your teen years; if you don't know, it's probably a bad idea. You shouldn't have to give this guy a hj for him to like you, he should like you because of your personality. If you give him one and he decides to date you, it'll only be because of what you do with him, and not because of who you truly are. Which means he'll try to pressure you into more things and you will probably end up getting hurt. Also, if you do it, he will most definitely brag to his friends about it. That's just how people are, period. They like to brag. So people will know if you do it, and that will totally ruin your reputation. If you're afraid of turning him down, don't be. He shouldn't be asking for all of this anyways, it's very disrespectful. You want to experiance your first sexual encounter with someone you like and someone who actually likes you for you. Just tell him you changed your mind and that if he wants to be mad at you, then go ahead. If he stays mad, then he's too immature and that just proves he didn't like you to begin with. I hope I helped and I hope you make the right decision!
-Jessica 14/f
how do i put pictures in my about me siction on myspace
Upload them to tinypic.com and then copy and past the "Html" of the picture over in the codes section.
alrighhhhhhhht um. im 17/f.
and i dont have a car, unfortunately :(
i desperately need a job though.
ive thought about walking, but all places that are walking distance from my house, arent hiring.
does anyone know a place to make money online?!
hellllllp.
There's a website called cashcrate.com. It's one of those survey sites where they pay you for taking surveys. I have personally received money from this site, so it actually works plus it's totally free to sign up for it. Hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
okay, so I am a 17 year old girl and a virgin. I've been in two relationships, only one of which I made out with the guy. Whenever we talked about sex he said that the fact that I was a virgin attracted him. I don't understand why he would say that. Do guys really think being with a virgin is attractive, it seems to me like it would be worse because, well... we have no experience.
Most guys I know like virgins better because virgins are "tighter" which pleasures the male more during intercourse. Some of them just like the idea of being your first. However, it really just depends on the guy. As for virgins having no experience, that's usually not a problem to guys. Any guy I would ask would say he'd rather "teach" you ha ha :) Hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
Okay so me and my boyfriend have been together for over two years,we want to have unprotected sex this weekend. Don't tell me its not safe because I already no all about that. but if we do decide to, what are some major precautions to take. Like I said even if we don't id like the advice for future reference
thank you.
Precautions so you don't get pregnant??? Um, either have protected sex or get on the pill, which you can get from your doctor I believe. The pull out method does not work. And remember, even with a condom or the pill, there's still a 1% chance you could get pregnant. It doesn't sound like much, but you'd be suprised. Hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
I just found out that my friend is bulimic. She threw up blood a week ago and got scared, and called one of my friends. she is not in avery good state of mind right now, at least i don't think so. because she had butt sex with some random guy, gave him her first blow job, got eaten out for the first time, and she told someone who told 2 of his friends, who told other people, so now alot of people know. I tried to stick up for her, and she would always go to the bathroom, and when I tried to go with her, the teacher wouldn't let me, and then she'd come back, saying she cried, but I have to wonder if she made herself throw up or not ... another wierd thing is that when she was dating my friend, he was about to finger her when he touched her stomach and she immediatley moved his hands to her boobs instead [from what he told me] and then she told him that she was bulimic and then he was the one who told the entire school she had butt sex. so now shes really mad and upset over that. and he said something about "pregnant" so she either was pregnant from the butt sex, only thought she was, got an abortion, or wanted to be. but i can't just ask her. i didnt even know she was bulimic, she didn't even tell me, not even about whatever the pregnant thing is. what do i do? she's the skinniest and prettiest girl ever, and she like hates herself. ou would never suspect it by just looking at her, but what do i do? what can i do? im so scared for her ... please help.
Ok, first of all, you need to talk to her. Even if you two aren't that great of friends. Invite her over for a sleepover or something, just the two of you, because sleepovers are a fun and safe environment and everyone tells secrets at those things. Then, just talk to her. Try to eventually get her to tell you about her bulemia, but if she doesn't, then let her know that you know. She might not even be bulimic if you heard it from someone else! Don't make her get mad at you or anything, just talk to her without making it sound all preachy. If she starts critisizing her self image, say "but you're so skinny!" or just give her a compliment. Basically, this sleepover should help you two become better friends and she will be able to trust you. Really, all she needs right now are her friends, and since she feels like people are against her, becoming her friend would be a great thing for you to do! I hope I helped hun!
-Jessica 14/f
17/f
I feel a way I shouldn't: my friends are annoying and boring. Perhaps I don't deserve to have friends if I continue thinking like this. I have really had enough of them though. I enjoy being a leader but they have really begun to follow my every move and I cannot get away from them. How do I fix this? Thanks.
Everyone "deserves" friends. I think the problem here is not you, nor them, but just change. Everyone changes in their teenage years, so naturally, everyone "grows out of" their friends and gets new ones. That's just part of life. I think you should just talk to them about copying. I have a friend who used to copy every move I make. It was like I thought for her. Eventually, I got sick of it and said "Look, if I'm going to make your decisions for you, maybe we're better off not being friends." After about 2 weeks of our break, she had finally learned to be herself, and now we are best friends :) So, if you want them to stop copying you, just tell them straight out. But if you don't feel comfortable being so blunt, maybe you could hint things that they do that are "very similar" to things that you do. For example, if one of them decides she likes to draw (or whatever your hobby is) like you do, you could just say "Really? Hm....you never seemed that interested in it before... I wonder why you're so interested now". :) That one's funny because sometimes they start stuttering and making up stuff xD well, hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
what are some fun forums/mbs to participate in? (not talking about advicenators)
I used to LOVE the website Meez.com. It has a forum and a cool thing where you get to create an animated person and create a room and chat and stuff. PLUS it's free! :) Hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
Im 18 and i lost my left arm in a freak accident when i was younger, Ive never been able to get over it. I have a prostetic arm but its no me, i lift weights and am very muscular. Lately i have been building my own prostetics. Mine arent the everyday fake hook hand, i started with building a wrist rocket arm. Then i stepped it up and now i have few other ones. Since i couldnt have a normal arm im deciding to look more into robotics and cybernetics if you hav any info on that? Is it possible to sell these inventions to someone?
Thank you for everything!
Hm, anything I know about electronics comes from a website called instructables.com. It's basically a site in which anyone can put up instructions on how to make anything, from making a cloth doll, to wiring a LED robot :) I doubt they'll have instructions on how to make a robotic arm, but you never know :) besides, I'm sure something on there can help you a bit. There's some pretty cool technical stuff on there, I'm always amazed at how genious these people are haha :) Also, yes you could sell it, but you might want to get it patented so no one else can steal your idea. But, as I understand it, you have to build a prototype or something to begin with before you can patent it because you have to be VERY descriptive in the patent. I really hope I helped, and I wish you the best of luck in helping yourself and others! :D
-Jessica 14/f
i'd really like to do something nice for my boyfriend, just because. something that doesnt cost a lot but means a lot.
i've made him a cd for him before of all the songs that remind of us each other.. and for the front and back cover i custom designed it with pictures of us. he loves it.. he listens to it everytime he's in his car.
i really want to do something else like that for him because he's such a great boyfriend and i want him to know how much he really means to me.
any ideas?
thanks a bunch! :)
Think of something he could have to remind him of you everyday, even when you're not with him :) a lot of guys I know like wearing jewelry, such as dog tags or cool stones on a ball-chain necklace :) you know, guy jewelry. You could buy a chain pretty cheap and then make him something to put on it :) there are plenty of things at hobby lobby (if you have one near you) you can use to make things. OR, you could draw a picture for him, write a poem, write a song [some guys think it's cute, even if you can't sing ;)], or make him a homeade card :D I think it's great you just want to give him a gift for no reason :) Hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
what are some online sites that pay you for taking surveys?
like good amount of money too.
thanksss !
cashcrate.com
I have personally recieved money from this site and you only have to be 14 or older :)
-Jessica 14/f
13/f
Does anyone konw any blogging websites for teenagers that are simple, but not too young?
I have one on Blogspot and I also keep one on Myspace :)
hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
I live in California..
Almost about 3 1/2 weeks ago I bumped into someone's car in a parking lot, and so far have not been contacted about the accident (minor, left a dent). A few days ago, I was pulled over by a police officer due to a defective tail light, and was really nervous about the officer running the plate and seeing that the car had been involved in a misdemeaner hit and run.
I have a couple questions about this:
a) If a license plate is run through the system (which it generally is when police stop you), would police be alerted of a possible hit and run parking lot accident?
b) if so, how long after a police report is filed, is an alert entered into the system (regarding your license plate)?
I made a mistake and bumped into a car (very minor), but am worried about a possible police report... :/
I think you're just being paranoid :) I'm sure the owner of the car just thought "well that sucks". I have never known anyone to put out a police report on a minor parking lot accident :)
Iam a 19 year old female and around thanksgiving of 2008 I weighed about 168 pounds and now I weigh about 158 pounds so i've lost about 10 pounds. How can I lose 30 more pounds?
Next to exercise and dieting, I will tell you to drink about 8 cups of cold water a day. Also, here's a tip: anything that you eat/drink that changes your body temperature will burn more calories then something that doesn't :). I suggest you start running. Go to the local gym and get on a treadmill that tells you how much calories you're losing, it really inspires me if I can actually see it :) goodluck! Hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
I have this movie that I saw when I was a little kid. I don't even know. It was the beginning of it or something, it was like a guy and like a talk show kind of thing you know where like you see this silhouette and he didn't wanna be seen and like he has this weird deformity and he was just talking about how it happened to him and stuff, and I don't even remember if it was supposed to be scary or funny but uh, oh man I always think about it, and something happened to him and he was talking and all this stuff and like... I WANNA say something spilled on him, I don't know, but it also happened to a lot of other people, but I DO remember that at the end of the show when the lights came back on, when they finally showed him, at the end of the thing, you found out that it was actually just a plant in the background, in the shape of how he WAS messed up, and that he had actually been cured now, I don't but that movie has tweaked my mind since I was a little kid.
I found a question similair to this on Yahoo haha the answer was: the movie "freaked"(1993)
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20081105211813AArbeM3
hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
*EDIT* yes, I absolutely LOVE him :)
im 16 and hes 18...weve been dating my for 8 months now and were very much in love...and a few weeks ago he gave me his email passwords so i could put up a picture...and i did but i got curious and i looked through his sent messages [i kno shame!] but i found something that realy upset me...there was a message to his ex who had just recently came back from military training [she left already yay!jan 01]and the message said he thought about her and i recall something about dinner and him wanting her to stay...i told him what i did and he wasnt mad at all he said he loved me and nothing could ever change that and that it was just a good good bye...i ddnt ask about the whole dinner part because i believed that he loved me and since he didnt throw a fit i ddnt think i had a reason flip out...but now my friend is saying that he just trying to have his cake and eat it to....i love my boyfriend but ive been played before so i have major trust issues... since that he hasnt changed his password o nothing...so should i just forget it...because like theres nothing that seems like hes doing something wrong but then i have my friend saying he is.... ugh!! i just dont kno
I think you should trust him. Considering he still hasn't changed it, even though you looked through it the first time, I don't think he's cheating on you. I mean, who would allow their significant other to watch them cheating on her? He sounds like a pretty smart guy to me, one who would want to stay out of arguments. Especially counting the fact that he didn't get mad when you told him what you did. That is perfect trust right there :) He obviously trusts you with everything or he wouldn't let you get into his email in the first place :) Oh yeah, and NEVER listen to your friends opinions about your relationship! I can not stress that enough, it WILL turn out bad. If they actually have some kind of proof, then yes, listen to them and ask the guy about it, but if they're just saying it, don't listen to it! Hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
Okay, so I'm completely computer-stupid. I have an HP laptop (don't know if that's relevent) with a webcam, which I've never used and don't know how. But my cousins and I really wanna do a video chat. Ummm... HOW??
I use a website called Blogtv.com. All you have to do is make a free account, click "Start recording" and then your cousins can come to your page. You can click their account name and click "co-host" and then you'll be able to see them as well :) hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
I got my hair hilighted recently and i don't like it that much. My hair is dark brown and she put bright blonde streaks and it looks weird when i have it in a pony tail because the colors are so different and they contrast so much. I don't hate it, i just kinda wish i had my old hair back. She also didn't get all they way to my scalp in some places so when i wear it how i ususally wear it, you can see the big chunk she missed. I can't go back there because it is a long way away and nobody in my family knows how to do those home dying kits. I'm scared when i go back to school nobody will like it. It's not the worst but def. not the best either! What do i do? I can't get it re dyed because that would cost to much! thanks!
I believe there is something they sell in stores that strips your hair of any dye. I'm not sure what it's called, but I'm sure a worker could tell you. I believe it's sold at walmart. Or you could just take a LOT of showers until it starts to fade. Use a strong shampoo :) Hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
Iam a 19 year old female and lately for some reason I don't know why one minute i'll be all smiles and laughing and then the next minute i'll be crying as hard as i can cry. Then when I try to go to sleep I can't sleep becouse I have so much going around in my head untill I can't sleep;.Also every little thing seems to make me mad no matter how small it is. I don't know what to do what's wrong with me?
Someone's teenage angst is catching up with them. It's either that or, as Jack said, you might have bipolar disorder. You should probably go to a doctor and see if you need some medication. However, if you get put on meds, be aware of how you're feeling. My brother was put on bipolar meds and it turns out he wasn't really bipolar, so they made him depressed. If you feel worse within a month or two of taking the meds, go back to your doctor and ask him about it. Hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
Hey, my cousin got a sony MP3 player for christmas. She's never had an ipod, or ds so getting an MP3 player is really exciting for her. I'm trying to sort some music out but it won't work because I don't have the right software (as all I have is really modern). What it requires is any of these
-Windows XP Media Center Edition,
- Windows XP Media Center Edition 2004,
- Windows XP Media Center Edition 2005
Can anyone find me a free download - or a trial - but preferably a free permaneant download. I'd really like to put some music on for her - she'll be so pleased - thanks!
I'm pretty sure this one works :)
http://www.download.com/Windows-XP-Media-Center-Edition/3000-18513_4-53530.html
Hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f