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bulimic
I just found out that my friend is bulimic. She threw up blood a week ago and got scared, and called one of my friends. she is not in avery good state of mind right now, at least i don't think so. because she had butt sex with some random guy, gave him her first blow job, got eaten out for the first time, and she told someone who told 2 of his friends, who told other people, so now alot of people know. I tried to stick up for her, and she would always go to the bathroom, and when I tried to go with her, the teacher wouldn't let me, and then she'd come back, saying she cried, but I have to wonder if she made herself throw up or not ... another wierd thing is that when she was dating my friend, he was about to finger her when he touched her stomach and she immediatley moved his hands to her boobs instead [from what he told me] and then she told him that she was bulimic and then he was the one who told the entire school she had butt sex. so now shes really mad and upset over that. and he said something about "pregnant" so she either was pregnant from the butt sex, only thought she was, got an abortion, or wanted to be. but i can't just ask her. i didnt even know she was bulimic, she didn't even tell me, not even about whatever the pregnant thing is. what do i do? she's the skinniest and prettiest girl ever, and she like hates herself. ou would never suspect it by just looking at her, but what do i do? what can i do? im so scared for her ... please help.
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You need to tell an adult IMMEDIATELY! She needs to get help. Otherwise she could be on the way to her grave and I'm sure you don't want that. You need to tell the school counselor or a parent what is going on. At first she'll be upset with you for a while, but I'm sure in the long run she'll be glad somebody cared enough to actually tell somebody. I also think that before you do that though, you need to talk to her. Tell her you love her but you can't stand seeing her in so much pain, and if she doesn't do something about it, you will. There may be some sort of underlying problem for the reason why she is the way she is. She could have a serious mental illness or she could have been sexually abused. Whatever the case is, you need to get her help.
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dottie4
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First, you can't get pregnant from anal sex, although if some of the ejaculate went near her vagina she could get pregnant from that. Second, there is more than one problem going on here. The bulemia and the sexual behavior are probably symptoms of a really, really low self-esteem. You can't even really be sure she has bulemia because she might have just been saying that to the guy for sympathy or attention. You should ask her about the bulimia, just to know for sure. If she does have bulimia she is going to need some professional help because it is a real illness that will need medical attention. You can't just tell her she's skinny and make everything all better because if she's bulimic, she is seeing her body in a different way than everyone else. Right now, for whatever reason, your friend is on a really destructive path. She is trying to hurt herself, I bet it all is really a cry for help, and she may be initially mad at you if you decide to tell an adult, but you really would be doing her a favor. The longer this stuff goes on, the worse she is going to feel about herself, and the harder it is going to be for her to stop. She is probably very ashamed about having anal sex, but it just goes to show you the lengths she is willing to go to in order to get the feeling of affection, or what feels like closeness at the time. Usually when a girl is in a situation like this it is because something terrible happened to her when she was younger, like molestation or something just as bad. I wish I could tell you that if you talked to her everything would be OK, but the truth is, you are in way over your head. If I were you I would get an adult involved. Is there a guidance counselor at school that you trust? Maybe you could go to them and tell them what's going on and they could talk to her without letting her know it was you who told. I have a feeling that once an adult gets involved your friend is going to open up and be really happy that she isn't so alone. If you don't feel comfortable about "ratting" maybe you could just take the time to learn about bulimia so that you can help her in the best way you can. I can tell that you are a really caring friend, but at the same time, if she continues to make bad decisions, like having sex with random guys, you might have to distance yourself from her. Good luck, and your friend will be in my prayers.
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you definetly need to tell an adult. Maybe not exactly your parents, or her parents, but a guidance counslor at your school. It will be totally confidential. Please, tell someone, she really needs help.
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Ok, first of all, you need to talk to her. Even if you two aren't that great of friends. Invite her over for a sleepover or something, just the two of you, because sleepovers are a fun and safe environment and everyone tells secrets at those things. Then, just talk to her. Try to eventually get her to tell you about her bulemia, but if she doesn't, then let her know that you know. She might not even be bulimic if you heard it from someone else! Don't make her get mad at you or anything, just talk to her without making it sound all preachy. If she starts critisizing her self image, say "but you're so skinny!" or just give her a compliment. Basically, this sleepover should help you two become better friends and she will be able to trust you. Really, all she needs right now are her friends, and since she feels like people are against her, becoming her friend would be a great thing for you to do! I hope I helped hun!
-Jessica 14/f
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