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Disrespectful
I love my boyfriend to death, but there's just a few problems... He's completely disrespecful. He takes me out to eat and doesn't even say thank you to the waiter for bringing us our food and drinks. And it's not just that. He works at the local grocery store and my parents went in there to get something and they asked him to help them look for something. He was just like "Duh it's right behind you." He may have been trying to be funny but it's not and it offended my parents very much. I don't want to dump him because I've never had feelings like this for any guy I've ever dated. I've spoken about it with him a million times. I don't know what else to do. I feel like that's my only option. Please Help me!
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Ok. Well If you love your boyfriend to death like you've said then you accept him for who he is, you don't love someone to change him, you love someone for who he is ..!
I'll give you several advices
1. Ask him nicely to not do that. If you notice he ignores you then give him his own medicine , HOW? If he brings you something? Gets you a gift? anything be rude and If he didn't notice tell him you did that, he might listen to you
2. You can tell his bestfriend to talk to him , if it gets serouise to you
3. Accept for who he is, dont assume you love him and that's all NO! you would feel in love and that way you would be in love for who he serouisly is
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Its not going to work out in the end.
People don't realize it, but how you were raised changes alot about you. I'm like you, I was raised with thank you being a reflex, and politeness was something that was hammered into me by parents who led by example in that area.
Consequently, its what I'm used to and what I like now. I don't date women who are overly vulgar or unable to express themselves. I am not attracted to people with no concept of social grace or gratitude.
This will become a more serious problem the longer you are together. He isn't going to change quickly, and if he doesn't want to he won't at all. I've ended things on this point before, I can't get serious with someone who doesn't behave in a manner I can respect.
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thanks for this question, first of all you have to realise that different people are brought up in different ways you have to also realise that he wasnt brought up in the right way. if you are a christain pray to God that your boy friend will change. And then call him talk to him let him know that you are serious about it but in a nice way if he refuses threthen him that you will leave him .thanks for this question once again.regards from advice girl
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You have to understand that part of it isn't his fault. If he wasn't raised with good manners, he has no idea how to have them. I honestly think he was probably trying to be funny with your parents but it backfired. Another symptom of not being raised right. First thing I would do is talk to my parents about it. Tell them that you really love your boyfriend, but you can tell he wasn't raised with good manners. They may actually take it as a sign that they can help him with it. Parents are surprisingly great when you go to them for help becuase they love helping their kids more than anything. Then, you have to make it a point to teach him. Tell him that you are not asking him to change as a person, but he should at least show a little etiquette. Even go so far as to say that one day you want to have children and when you do it is going to be with a man who is going to think good manners are important. It sounds like he is really uncomfortable how to act around people so he turns to humor instead. Let him know that if he can't even bother to attempt to work on something that is so important to you, you are going to have to consider moving on.
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