well, sometimes that's true, but not all the time. some people don't get it till their 16 or 17, and that's totally normal. i got it when i was 9, and i'm your age. i wish i would be getting it now lol

mylanta. it works great =)

hope i helped
*muaz*
xoxo

no. i don't think that they evolved that much in such a short period of time. it was a long time ago, but not so much for a huge difference. but, yes women wore corsets all the time. they were whale-bone corsets but they were very bad for you because they weren't like the "corsets" we have today or the weight reducers. they would push your organs down. but, i believe the smallest record for the waist was 13 inches. i think. hope i helped. *muaz* xoxo

you might be able to find a place where you can answer phones and stuff. maybe check a doctor. a dentist or maybe some other office where you can answer phones

i always have this problem too lol but these ideas always work for me:

- go to sleep earlier, wake up earlier. and do excersise in the morning
- have a good breakfast to look foward too
- take a good shower
- pick out a really cute outfit to wear the night before (unless you have a uniform. if you do have a unform *like me lol*, then pick out cute accessories to wear, so you can show it off)
- if the school lets youm take a camera or something. that's always fun and you and you can fool around with it at lunch or something
- pick out a different perfume/cologne every day to wear to school. i know it sounds silly, but it's kind of fun
- do your homework super good and super nice and neat so that you can't wait to check it at school i know it sounds nerdy but it's all in the brain. if you didn't do your homework, it'll be a plus to not want to go to school
- join a club/sport. something you like so that you can look forward to it!
- keep your mind focused on the good grades

=)

hope i helped

i know some may seem a little silly but as long as you've things to look forward to, even if their little things, it makes a difference

yes it is possible. some people get it very irregular when it first comes and then it begins to get regular. but, it is possible for it to come right on time even when you just got it

i've had that problem before, except i was the one on the other side. it feels terrible because you've been there for someone as long as you can remember and then you feel like you haven't been a good enough friend for them. i can understand that you want to have lots of friends and have fun. but, not all people are alike. you know you're old friends like the palm of your hand, i'm guessing, so i suggest that you keep you're old friends updated with you're life and make sure to talk to them and hang out with them and make them feel like they are still special to you even though now you have other friends also

well, don't beat around the bush. just let her know all of the things that she's been doing wrong (things you think she's done that's slutty), and ask her why she's doing it. u never know, she might open up and have something that's really bothering her and she feels that acting this way would help, but if that is the case, let her know that acting like that won't help her at all! or, if she interrupts a lot, if you want, you can write her a letter listing all the things she's been doing and write about how slutty people end up and that guys only use sluts! tell her that the reason why you are telling her this is because you are her friend & u only want the best for her. tell your feelings in a letter if it's better for you

hope i helped
*muaz*
xoxo

it might not be awkward. you just have to find something to talk about that you can all participate in the conversation. for example, stay away from things like "oh remember that time in elementery school" or "oh remember that time in middle school" because then somebody's going to feel left out. and if you do talk about that, then say stories about it but don't just laugh..... u noe what i mean? but, you know them all pretty well i suppose so find things they have in common! u never know, they might all become really good friends!

hope i helped
*muaz*
xoxo
(p.s. happy birthday!)

it's normal to still have feelings for someone that was a big part of your life, even when you're with someone else. there's nothing like being in love when you're young, and if you were dating him from 14-18, there's definatley a very special chemistry or a very special feeling because of your age. i can understand what you mean. you love this guy. you obvously do because he is the father your baby. but you're always going to have something special for the other boy. you're going to be 100 years old and you're never going to forget him because there's people in our lives that will always hold a special place in our hearts. and if he was your first love, you never really get over your first love. they are always going to be a very special person in your life. my advice to you is take that to heart. in finding someone new, it is only natural to compare. give it time and think about what i told you. but, if this continues, you will have to do something about it. if the other guy is mad because you guys had a baby, he obviously feels the same way. give this some time, but if it continues, you have the right to be with who you love

and who decided that you are ugly? and it is a bad thing not to care about you're appearence. people can see that. and beauty comes from self confidence. if you are a confident girl, people can see that and see your beauty. if you see a pretty girl walking down the street but you can tell that she doesn't have confidence, it takes away the glow of the person. but if you see someone with confidence, you see a glow around them, and that's the beauty that people see. i know you've probably heard this a million times but it's the truth. i'm not just trying to be a mom or sound like a guidence counselor. but, it's the truth. beauty is all about confidence

yes its normal. people's menstural cycles regulate slower and others faster. urs is pretty normal. if you want, you could go to the doctor just for her/him to check it out but im pretty sure its normal

hope i helped
*muaz*
xoxo

its ok. you don't have to put up with that anyways. just tell her that it hurt you. no one has to put up with that. and tell her you're not causing a drama. and that if she didn't want to start up a show, she should have known better

don't worry. it don't think that it will distract her. it will just teach her responsibility. people will always need their parents lol. even when we're older asnd married, our parents are still going to be our parents. they will just feel more independent bc they can buy their own stuff u noe? but don't worry

hope i helped
*muaz*
xoxo

its actually hormonal not to be hungry sometimes. so don't worry. but sometimes, you have to force yourself to eat SOMETHING. especially breakfast! even if it's something small. unless you have a condition or something, you don't have to eat snacks if you're not hungry, but, dont skip meals. just eat smaller if your not hungry

hope i helped
*muaz*
xoxo

sure. why not? i've been best friends with my bff since i was in second grade and now we're both sophmores and we promise that we'll be the maid of honor at eachother's weddings. some friendships are made in heaven and it's one of the greatest gifts to have someone that you can talk to about anything and everything. good luck. *muaz* xoxo

on my first day of high school i almost cried. i was SO freaked out. then when i got there, i didn't know what i was crying about. i made friends with the upperclassmen. and i'm telling you, that's the best thing you could do. it's like a tradition that the upperclassmen always try to scare the freshman. but, it doesn't go beyond that. most bullies just have insecurities about themselves. but, seniors have so much more things to worry about than to bully the freshman. i mean, think about it, they have colleage applications and worries about getting into colleage. and every other class has a lot of hard work also in their classes. everyone in high school is very busy, and most of the time, cliques have either already been formed, or form right when you start and everyone is just in their own world and stuff. i noticed that. i was afraid of getting stuffied in a locker or something like that but when people passed by me they were either talking to someone or studying. i know that you've heard "it's no big deal" but it really isn't. everyone is into their own thing

i hope i helped
*muaz*
xoxo

i can understand that you might think he is attractive and that you want a guy like him because he makes you laugh. but, how would you feel if someone was looking through YOUR WINDOWS and watching u? and u had absolutely no clue? i can understand you might think he is attractive and stuff, because there are many old guys, actors, and even men that teens see and think they're attractive. but, my suggestion is that you ask God to help you find someone like him and look for someone younger that's like him. because, i think its more of his character and you want somebody like that. and also to stop looking through his window because if he catches you one day, it's going to be very embarrasing!

i had this problem too in the eighth grade. i always thought i was standing up for myself. but, i really had to tell her off for her to stop. the best thing you could do to her is this:

-first try to be nice to her. like excessively sweet. but do things behind her back, like put bugs in her locker and stuff and then when she asks who did it, just smile and say "you didn't think innocent little old me would have anything to do with this..... did u? shame shame"

-then befriend her friends. her group of friends is probably just as fed up with her as you are but are just afraid that if they aren't friends with her, she'll continue picking on them too. befriend her friends

-give her a taste of her own medicine. call her and tell her all those things she tells you

- or you can get somebody else to stand up for you without making it seem like you sent them. if you have a brother or something, make him say he was listening on the other phone and that he has been listening and to f*ck off or something like that

- usually bullies have a really low self esteem so either don't answer her phone calls or find out what ticks her off and what she's self concious about

hope i helped
and good luck! i know people can be cruel but most people that are just have a low self esteem
*muaz*
xoxo

i dunno if u speak speak spanish or not but you can say
"te quiero"

i mean, thers two ways of saying "i love you" in spanish

"te quiero" and "te amo"

but "te quiero" is like for anybody--- friends, family, and even romantic love but "te amo" is just for romantic love

hope i helped
good luck
*muaz*
xoxo

I started this column when I was 15 years old, so you'll notice that the advice has gotten better and better. I've always been interested in counseling and I started this column to gain experience. But, I found a lot more than that. I found a support system of caring and loving people. I received a degree in child development and currently working towards becoming a school psychologist. So, I hope you can feel confident in trusting me with your questions. This is more than just a fun site for me. I look back on my own questions from years ago, and I laugh when I read about my problems at 16. I've really come a long way! I'm relatively young, but I've had several experiences in life that have aided me in helping others. I hope to use those experiences for the greater good and help others who are not in their ideal situation!

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