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14 years old son working
Hi peeps ,
Just a quick question ..I have a 14 years old niece and she wants to get a job(to buy some extra clothes,make up etc)...But is this right ??...she may loose focus on her studies...I saw another nieces of mine work at this age and some of them the parents loose control over them becuase they think they work and have everything they need so they think they do not need their parents anymore...On the other hand it stimulate them to work for what they want but...it may leed them to fatal distractions working at so young age..just for buying extra clothes etc etc....
Am I worrying to much..?????
I will rate very high for good answers...
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It's perfecty normal to worry about the children in our lives ( especially teenagers) I think it is always a good idea to let children learn responsibility and to gain a little independence is good also. school should always be a priority. The key here is balance. Since school seems to be a concern here let her know that school comes first but she can work a few hours a week or weekends to make a little extra money as long as her grades are good. If her grades drop then the job goes!! This will not only give her an opportunity to gain a little independence by making some money of her own but would also be a great incentive to take school seriously too.
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For having a teenager, having a job builds responsibility and they learn lessons about money management, so jobs are definitely a good idea. Just make sure its not a full-time job... they'll have so much money and no time to spend it or do regular teenage things. My advice is to get a summer part-time job, not year-round. If you're worried about how the money is going to be spent, maybe the parents should limit the money spent and take away a certain amount in each paycheck to save for college or put in the bank.
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I began work at 11 and a half. I have over 1000 hours of work experience, and I just celebrated my 14th birthday. I was paid minimum wage, and some money I didn't take becuase I wanted to do community service. I haven't alienated my parents. I'm so much more responsible becuase of it. It really depends on the person.
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don't worry. it don't think that it will distract her. it will just teach her responsibility. people will always need their parents lol. even when we're older asnd married, our parents are still going to be our parents. they will just feel more independent bc they can buy their own stuff u noe? but don't worry
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There is no cause for worry here. I'm 14 and female, and I have a job. I work all day, 5 days a week, at my parents' business and I get a little over $200 direct deposited into my savings account. I don't ever even see or touch the money- I just get the bank statement. The money I could care less about (actually, I'm saving up to buy an antique car, lol) but it's been a tremendous learning experience. I have to deal with deadlines and coworkers, and (since I live in Texas, and my job causes me to work outside a lot) heat exhaustion. This is an excellent idea, if your niece is planning to follow through with it. It will give her a taste of the business world, and possibly even help her decide what she wants to do in life. It's definitely helped me decide. I know for a fact that even though I'm good at it, I don't want to make vinyl signs/banners/decals for trucks all my life. The other half of my job (my father owns several companies) is being a stagehand. Because I'm a musician, this has opened many doors and I've gotten to know a lot of people in the business. While most of my friends spend their summers playing video games, I spend most of my summer learning about running a small business. Having a job hasn't caused me to think that I don't need my parents anymore, because my parents are the ones that supply the paycheck and they have offered me so much knowledge about the work world this summer. I actually willingly turn down invitations from my friends to hang out so that I can finish what I'm working on. Most importantly, having a job has taught me that I have to work now to play later. And that's exactly what I do. I help out as a stagehand before, during, and after shows and in the process I get to see a lot of great bands. That's one of the many rewards of my job, and that's why I keep working so hard- so that I'll be able to do stuff like that. Just because your niece wants to buy make-up and clothes doesn't mean that she's going to go psycho once she gets a job, it just means that she's willing to work for the things she wants. Right now I have a few thousand, and I'm constantly saving money so that I can buy myself nice things. I've already got a Hammond organ picked out once I get enough money. My mom was even telling me the other day that by the time I'm a graduating senior, I will have over $40,000 in my savings account. Then again, some of that will go to college, but I'll still have all that money that I earned as a teen. In conclusion (this has been long, sorry), letting your niece get a job is a novel idea. If she's willing to go find a job that she enjoys, then let her go for it.
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First of all, there's very little jobs you can find that will hire 14 year olds anyway. Most stores start hiring at 16.
If you're worried about your neice loosing focus on her studies, have her work only in the summer so she doesnt have to worry about school.
I agree, working will let your neice learn the value of a dollar.
I do not think you're worrying too much. All you have to do is if you're neice starts working and looses focus or thinks she doesn't need her parents anymore, then pull her out of the job and when she runs out of money, she'll quickly learn how much she needs her parents.
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umm, there is nothing wrong with that. When i was 14 i started my first job, because i was growing up, and my mom didn't want to spend a ton of money on my cloths and stuff that i wanted more of. Didn't YOU go through the same thing??
well, it's fine, and why should u care anyways, if she is your niece.
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I think you are over thinking this.
Firstly, she isn't your child right? She is your sibling's child, so it really isn't a discussion you need to get into, unless someone has expressly asked for your opinion.
Secondly, all the problems associated with working you've mentioned are all almost completely dependent on currently unknowable factors, like what kind of job she is working, how many hours she gets and how she deals with the new responsibilities (including the responsibility of spending money.)
I think if your niece wants to work she deserves the chance. Her parents just need to be involved, keep on eye on her, be aware of her work environment and watch out for her best interests. Basically, just be parents. At fourteen she may or may not be ready for this, but I don't think anything you've brought up is a good enough reason to not let her try.
Even if a first job is a struggle, it’s not necessarily a bad experience, as long as the parents are there to pull the plug if things start to get out of hand. My parents made me quit my first job actually. I hated them for a while for it, but in the end they were probably right. They also made me save half of every pay check I got, which I resented, and now I'm actually very grateful for...
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