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am I a bad girlfriend? (i never cheated though)
I'm in a relationship that's been steady for 2 years and we have a child together. Lately, all I do is just think about my ex (who lives on the same block as me). It's crazy cause my ex and I was dating on and off since I was 14-18. I'm now 21 but I still feel like something was there between us, it just happended too late. I know that he wanted us to be together but his timing was off. I be dreaming about him all the time, even when I spend a night with my man. My ex was really upset when he found out that I had a baby, but sometimes, I be wishing it was his.. I know it's wrong because I love my boyfriend, but you can't really fight feelings....Think I sould ignore them and just 4get about my ex?
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I'm sorry, but you have to ignore these feelings no matter how much they are occuring.
Your job now is to stay as a family and take care of your child. I know it's hard to ignore feelings, but if you do need help sorting things out emotionally, then you should probably see a therapist or talk to a friend or family member about these feelings.
But you can't go off and marry your Ex and live happily ever after. This boyfriend you've got will always be in your life no matter how much it hurts. You have to start taking responsibilities and get ready to prepare a life under your care. You've got one of the most rewarding and yet hardest job of your life, and that is parenting. If you ever feel like you can't handle it, then don't be afraid to talk to someone and have a friend or family member watch the baby while you talk to someone or take a nap.
-TheTeenGirl
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it's normal to still have feelings for someone that was a big part of your life, even when you're with someone else. there's nothing like being in love when you're young, and if you were dating him from 14-18, there's definatley a very special chemistry or a very special feeling because of your age. i can understand what you mean. you love this guy. you obvously do because he is the father your baby. but you're always going to have something special for the other boy. you're going to be 100 years old and you're never going to forget him because there's people in our lives that will always hold a special place in our hearts. and if he was your first love, you never really get over your first love. they are always going to be a very special person in your life. my advice to you is take that to heart. in finding someone new, it is only natural to compare. give it time and think about what i told you. but, if this continues, you will have to do something about it. if the other guy is mad because you guys had a baby, he obviously feels the same way. give this some time, but if it continues, you have the right to be with who you love
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My vote is for you to ignore those feelings.
You have a child now and you need to be thinking about what's best for him or her.
Children fare best, on average, if they're raised in a stable household with a father and a mother.
You're not just living your life for yourself anymore. Your baby is completely dependent on you and the decisions that you make can have lifelong impacts on him or her.
If the baby's father is abusive or dangerous in some other way, then you have a good reason for leaving him for another man. However, you didn't say anything about that, only about vague greener pastures yearnings on your part for the other guy.
I think you should work on improving your relationship with your baby's father, perhaps you should consider marriage?
I also think that you should do something to keep yourself occupied and increase your self esteem. Engage in volunteer activities for your church or other civic organizations. Or perhaps you could go back to school and earn a degree in something or other.
All of these things would help you to take better care of your child, which is really the most important job you have now.
Good luck!
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