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My name is Juliet...I've done a lot in my life, and gone through hell and back many times. Which is why I'm perfect to give advice. I've gone through almost every relationship problem imaginable. Don't be scared to ask me questions. I'm on a lot, and I LOVE having this advice column. So ask away and I'll answer it the best I can. Also, I'm very blunt. If you ask me a question, I'm going to tell you what I think. I do NOT beat around the bush...or sugar coat things.

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Once I have anal sex and it didn't slipper to my vagina, am I still a virgin? (Stressed)

If i understand you correctly, you had sex, anlly, and it did NOT slip into your vagina. You are a virgin vaginally. You are not a backdoor virgin however.

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My question is my boyfriend and I are. Both virgins and we tried to have sex but it wouldn't go in I was a little embarrassed what do I do?

I'd like to state, that I'm glad it didn't go in. I think, waiting is impotent. You are a rose bud...that has not bloomed yet. And you need to bloom before you're picked.

If YOU feel like you're ready, grab a condom, and go at it. It will hurt at first, and it probably won't be too comfortable, depending on your age as the person below has stated. Honestly it will possibly be completely uncomfortable. Which is no fun. But, one thing you can do, is take a back massager, and put it on your clit. Play around a little bit. Even have an orgasm if you want, and you'll be lubed up yourself.


USE PROTECTION
HOPE THAT HELPS

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21/f, 27/m

I have been dating this guy for about two months. He used to say "good morning" and "good night :-*" all the time. And he used to text me at least by 3 PM everyday. Last week, I noticed that things started changing. He stopped saying good morning and good night. He doesn't text me unless I text him first... And his texts are becoming short. When we see each other, he still kisses me, holds my hand, etc.

He recently went on vacation to LA and he texted me that he just got to his hotel and that he wished that I was there. After that, he didn't really say anything after that. He hasn't texted me at all. My friend told me that if it was him, he wouldn't be texting on vacation and I should wait until he gets back.

I have confronted him about what's been going on if asked if there was something wrong. He denies it all... He says that everything is fine and great. I'm having trouble trusting him. I'm not sure if he's found someone else or is interested in someone else but just isn't telling me. Or if I'm just thinking too much into it.

What do you think?

I agree. I would also say, that you shouldn't text him a lot. Text him...maybe once a day, to every other day. You NEED to give him some time to miss you. If you're texting him, calling him, he's in a way spending time with you. But when you're not connecting, or talking or whatever, he's going to miss you, and he'll text you on his own. That's probably what happened.

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I have been best friends with this boy since year 7 and I am now in year 10 at school he's just turned 15 and I'm 14, I have liked him for a long time now and I've done nothing about it. He's made it perfectly clear he just wants to be best friends. But I can't help but like him sometimes my feelings go away but then they come straight back. I've tried not talking to him but I just miss him too much and now I just don't know what to do anymore, do you have any ideas on what I could do?

You can't make someone love you...or even like you. All you can do, is let nature take its course. I understand it's hard, but you're just going to HAVE to be strong. I've been there, and done that. But I'd also like to add, how great of a guy could he be, FOR YOU, if he isn't with you. I've heard of many people falling in love with their high school sweethearts, even their middle school and elementary school sweethearts. If he doesn't want to be with you, then leave it at that. Yeah...you can still like him. But around him, you need to just try not to care, whether or not he is in love with you. I believe what you are feeling is a major infatuation. It will pass. Some day, soon, you'll meet someone you care EVEN MORE for. And he'll only be a distant memory.

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I've been with my boyfriend for 3mths 1/2... We instantly fell in love with eachother when we first meet... He wanted to meet my family and He did... Then he surprise by taking me to meet his mom... He has talked about marriage and moving in... Starting on the 2nd month we agreed to wait on being intimate until we got married possibly... So we enjoyed eachother's company he would cook for me, take me on the sweetest dates... But during this he has been struggling because he wasn't making enough to live in his apartment, pay child support.... He lost his job and sold his car wasn't working that great... He would always tell me and remind me that he loves me... But he recently ask to be alone for a while... He texted me "You are a bright shining light I my life and I don't wanna lose you but I can't be anybody's anything right now.. I am just too focused on making myself the best that I can be. I love you so much and I'll do anything I can for you but I need to just be alone for awhile. I don't want to stop talking, I just need to shed some of the expectations that go along with being in a relationship. It's killing me inside knowing that I have such a great lady trying to be my everything and I just can't give you what you want and need and deserve. That said, just keep being yourself and everything will work out just like it's supposed to. " so how tough it's been for I'm giving him his space didn't text but he started texting me two days... Saying good morning and wondering what I was doing, letting me know he was going to be his daughters and the weather... I just don't what to make of it? I'm confused...I'm hurting... Just miss him... But I'm trying my best to give him his space...

I know it hurts. I do...but sometimes, people are stupid. In MY opinion, if he doesn't know whether or not he wants you in his life, then that should be the end of it. I KNOW my fiancé NEEDS me in his life, just like I NEED him in mine. I don't question whether or not I wanna be with you, or if I need space.

Since, you, want to stick around, don't text him. Don't text him for three days. Read his texts, put the phone down. Ignore it! After the three days, he may shoot you another text. Respond in as little words as possible. But no more than 3- 4 times. And then end conversation. Wait a day to text him back. If he asks why you aren't responding, just tell him you're busy. No need to give him any answers, since he won't give you any. If you need anymore help after this, great. Shoot me a message. Hope that will help you.

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I was wondering if anyone or someone they know has any suggestions for books that help with CMA exams.

I bought 2 anatomy books already and then I have one that I got that has 2 sample tests included but after I bought it, numerous people have given reviews that some answers in the book are incorrect. But then before I take the test, I figure that I can then use that book and test myself to know exactly what's right and what's wrong. So I'll use that later. The book only covers exams and explanations. But I need something else.



I just got into the program at school and I won't be done until next May so I figured I could go ahead and study now instead of later which is why I got some things now.


Suggestions?

Thanks.

Alright....so I would suggest, to go and talk to your teachers. Tell them about the books, and let them know your concerns. They're there to help you learn, and that should help you put your mind at ease. You might also ask them to suggest the books that you should get for their classes. Congratulations on getting in. If you need any further help, let me know. :)

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So I met my girlfriend a while back, but unfortunately we lived in different states so for a long time we were long distance and only saw each other every 4 or 5 months.
Now we are lucky enough to live together and it's a joy! I love it.
But.
Ever since moving in together I've had such a debilitating anxiety whenever she goes out without me or I go out without her.
It's not that I'm scared she'll cheat. I don't have any trust issues regarding that.
But even if she goes to grab lunch with a high school friend & I'm at work and can't join, I get this weird anxiety.
The worst is when she goes out at night.
I honestly get sick to my stomach and have to take an anti anxiety pill and force myself to sleep till she gets back.
I have always had a severe anxiety disorder. And I'm somewhat like this with my parents as well. Like if they're out and they don't pick up the phone I freak out. But with her it's 10x worse. It's driving me insane & I don't know what to do to make it better. Like I said, it's not a trust issue thing. It's like separation anxiety!
Any advice? :(

You sound JUST like my boyfriend. Unfortunately, that feeling won't go away. First of all, I believe that you need to talk to your woman, and let her know what's going on. Honesty, is always important. Keep things open with eachother, and your relationship shall thrive.
I do NOT know first hand what is going through your head. I'm in the girlfriends place however, and I know how she might feel. I live in Texas, and in early May, I went to Portland Oregon for ONE week. My boyfriend, was FREAKING out. He had every thing going through his head about what could be going wrong and it was driving him insane. I came back, and he was acting weird. He asked me to marry him that night. Turns out, that when we were together every day, (we too were in a long distance relationship, which lasted 9 months) and we were gone (my kids and myself) it drove him nuts. Love is a funny thing, and you learn a lot about yourself and the other person when you're apart.
you should talk to a professional, about these feelings that you're experiencing, because it could turn into something serious. I hope this helps, at least a little bit...

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Age:13 gender: girl.

So I feel lonely. I have friends but with some of them it's a competition . They leave people out when you stop hanging out with them for the tiniest bit. But they're funny and relatable at times . I feel weird around them and I don't like how they work.

My other friend 's dad got a job offer in another state and they're probably moving( or that's at least what her mom said) if she leaves Ill have no one during 8 grade. That's scary as hell. I'll have no one to talk or sit next to during lunch , to help pick out a dress for our dance, to walk down walkway winners( it's part of our graduation ceremony) I tried to make new friends but as I said they treat me like a classmate. They text me back and answer my calls but they don't do that to me.

I think why I'm so freaked out is because there were two weekswhen Annabelle ,the girl that's moving , was in a fight with me and it scared the crap out of me. There were some girls making fun of me and I made snarky remarks but it was like swimming with sharks. There were two many of them and there was Annabelle wasn't there to scare Em off as she usually did.

Hello my dear, it's Juliet here, and I'd like to welcome you to becoming a woman. Women...are jerks. People can take that as they want it, but it's the truth. We can be manipulative, spoiled, grouchy buttheads. And sometimes we don't care who we hurt. But, honestly, you're in 8th grade. I wanna say it gets better from there, but, from girls being jerks, it doesn't. However, it's almost the end of the year. And then you'll start high school and have a HUGE school full of other kids. You'll make it. Just hang in there. When girls tease you, look at the them like they're stupid...and shrug it off. Because all they want is a reaction out of you. Believe me...it's not easy being alone and friendless...I would know. But, it's amaing to stand up for yourself, and be true to yourself. I hope that helps dearie. And if you have any further questions or comments, please message me. No problem .

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I'm an 18 year old girl and I've been dealing with depression for about about a year now and I'm trying to get better. But sometimes (like now for instance) where I just have this consuming feeling of being off. It's like I'm not quite myself and I feel strange and weird. Sometimes I want to hide from everyone or sometimes I just start crying from feeling this way. I hate it more then any feeling I get when depressed. I feel like I'm not me and like I'm off. Does anyone else get this feeling? I might be crazy but does anyone know how to stop it or make it better because I can't stand being like this and it usually continues until I go to bed and when I wake up I'm fine. But I can't just go to sleep in the middle of the day. Any advice?

Many people go through stages like this. My advice to you, is to go to a doctor, and get a prescription. Because when you're depressed, you need those chemicals in you to help take those feelings away. I'd say get a hobby, but I would take the pills first, because it's hard to have a hobby when you're depressed. I hope that helps. Call asap

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My husband is in the military and after 13 years he is separating due to medical reasons. He wants to move back to our hometown to be near both of our families, primarily his mother and aunt. Well, I am hesitate. I didn't have the best childhood due to both of my parents being alcoholics. They both still drink heavily and can get violent and emotional when doing so. My oldest brother still lives in the area and drinks excessively as well. To top it off, my sister-in-law and her husband live about an hour away and love to drink and party and are somewhat open swingers. Their sexually active 15 year old daughter is free to do as she pleases and their 12 year old son is often left on his own. While I respect my husband for wanting to be near his mother and his disabled aunt, I am having a hard time dealing with the fact of being near the rest of our family. While it would be nice to be near family, this is not the situation I have envisioned. I don't want our children thinking drinking excessively and having multiple partners is okay. Should I accept the fact we are moving back and deal with the situation as it comes or continue trying to talk my husband into moving somewhere else?

Juliet here. I think, you should talk to your husband. He should be your best friend, so it should be somewhat effortless to have a talk with him. To me, and it's just me, it sounds like you're only thinking of yourself here, although you brought up your children. Have you thought about telling your family, look, I respect how you guys are, but don't act like this or do this in front of my children, or you will not see them. They're YOUR kids. As for your husband wanting to see his mother, it's very importnant to be near family. And usually, husbands are right about big choices like this. Maybe you should consider, doing this. Afterall, it's not going to be forever.

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I'm a 21 year old male. I have a problem while peeing. When I start peeing the tip of my penis seems to burn a lot and when I get done peeing I feel like still need to go but nothing comes out and it all burns. Here and there I get a achy feeling between my testicals and butt. Some times if i like push up on my penis like on the urethra tube a couple drops of a cloudy fluid comes out its like cloudy whitish gray. Its not come its not sticky or anything its almost like pre come stuff but I'm not sexually excited. Ive looked up symptoms of prostate infections and chymidia and they are very close its just with the std it says you get a greenish leak of fluid or blood which I don't have. And the problem where I get done peeing and the feeling there like still having to pee seems like it leans to the prostate. Also the whitish fluid could be seminal fluid leaked by the prostate. My prostate does get infected a lot just never had this much of a problem in my penis area also when I have sex and ejaculate it kinda hurts like the fluid is blocked coming out it tingles a little and in the area between testicals and butt it hurts. Any input on this I'd appreciate it thanks everyone

Hi I'm Juliet and I'll try and help the best I can. What you started out saying, it sounded like a yeast infection, yes, men get them too. But then you lost me at aches from your testicles to your bottom. It's time to make an appointment. It's better to make sure that this isn't serious. Make an appointment as soon as possible. You could also go to a clinic. I hope that helps!

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I guess I should fill you in on what started the whole mess that is my life. OK I was married for 5 years then divorced we had a 4 yr old son at the time so I thought it would be best to leave him with his father at the time. I found out I was wrong about that. he would use it against me when he was upset about anything and also threaten to take him away from the grandparents if they didn't do as he wanted.He got himself into a psycho relationship that ended up in court, she wouldn't leave him alone, so he said if we got married again she would leave him alone. So with me being ME saw a way to get the custody arrangement tossed and doing nothing without a reason agreed,in name only. I asked him if he could live in a loveless marriage with no relationship between us only our sons parents I would do what and who I want and he do the same, he said yes.NOW it's been 4 years and he seems to have forgotten that conversation. I have met and started seeing someone for the past couple months but haven't told him. How do I go about telling him without hurting him? I know he loves me but I do not love him am not at all attracted to him, he never goes out has no friends except me and family. I do not plan on divorce and the other guy knows about my situation and is ok with it but wants more time together as do I. We don't want to feel as we are cheating. can you help me please

So let me get this straight....you got married...again? I think you need to not be cheating on your husband, BEFORE you tell him that you don't want to be with him. Granted...no he was a jerk to you, and I understand that, but marriage is a very serious matter. Marriage is a commitment. You shouldn't get married if you're not willing to work things out, and fight for your relationship until the day you day. Now what you did was your choice, and you had your reasons to do it. That's your choice and your life, but you shouldn't be dating someone when you're married. Do you guys have sex...have you had sex since the second marriage? Or kissed...or did anything? Please get back to me. Thank you. I'd love to further help you. :)

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I’m in my early 20s. I’m in college for my second degree. I’m working. I never had a boyfriend, not married, and had no kids.
I have this older sister by 3 years. She went through a rebellious phase in her late teens. She dropped out of high school and ran off with a guy she met online, who lived 4 states away with his mom. 3 years later she came back after he dumped her for another girl. She met another guy almost year later, had a one nightstand and got pregnant. Now she has two kids and works full time. Her boyfriend works on and off.
I help her raise her daughters. So we are always hanging out. Sometimes she would causally say these hurtful things to me that make me feel like she resents me.
Here are some of the things she would say:
I don’t remember growing up with you at all.
You don’t know anything about real life. You just think you do because of all the books you read and movies you watch.
You can’t talk to people that’s why you’ll never have a boyfriend or friends.
You have an old lady’s style. Maybe if you learn to dress better and wear make-up than you might find a boyfriend.
She didn’t out right ask me but she asked me these weird questions. They make me think that she thinks that there was something going on between me and her boyfriend, the father of her children. There was not. I was offended that the thought even crossed her mind. I don’t find her boyfriend attractive and he’s kind of a deadbeat.
She’s a sensitive person. I love her and would never say anything that would upset her but it seems like she’s not considerate of my feelings. I don’t mind her talking about finding a boyfriend, life, or clothes. The one that hurt me the most out of all this was that she doesn’t remember me growing up. I was there. I had great childhood memories. I, another sister, and she were always playing together. But she suddenly said she only remembered my other sister but not me. It broke my heart. I told my mom about it and she told me not to be sad. My mom said my sister doesn’t remember me because all the drugs and alcohol she took when she was a teenager. I don’t know if that’s true or not but it doesn’t make me feel better. My mom also thinks that my sister says these things because she’s jealous that I am single and free to do as I please. I don’t have the type of responsibilities she does.
What’s your opinion?

Outright ask her. Here is what I would say, next time she says something: Do you not like me? Because the things you say make me feel that way. Maybe that could get you into a conversation. If you want to bring it up to her and not wait, I would say: (Sisters name), one time you told me, ____________, and it honestly hurts my feelings. We're sisters...we're supposed to be supportive of eachother and I feel like you're tearing me down. And I love you so much so it hurts a whole lot when you tell me these things. Either way, no matter what she does or doesn't have to deal with, there is NO reason you need to take the crap she's giving you. The only way you're going to figure out ANYTHING, is if you talk to her. :) I hope that helps.

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My husband is a bit old fashion and doesnt feel we need anything in the bedroom thats new, and we barely ever have sex yet he insists hes happy. Well im pretty UNHAPPY, and want either more sex, or be allowed to use toys if i feel. He does not agree with ANY kind of toys.

I recently discovered the newer toy called the sybian, its uses nothing but vibration. I know that they retail for about 1400 bucks but i found a way to make my own for a fraction of the price! the only problem is i cant tell my husband....

my question is, is it better to own a toy like this and never tell him (risking him discovering it because they arent that easy to hide if your place isnt that large) ORRRR tell him, make the thing anyway, and risk him feeling sad, and or calling me a sex addict because i want it more then he does??

how do i have this talk with him and what can i do to turn him onto toys or at least be OK with them?

Tell him. Tell him, to sit his butt down, and to watch you enjoy using it. Tell him, to use it on you. Part of being married, is being intimate. And in biblical reading, if a partner or husband/wife wants it, the partner must submit. Now, we've come a long way from that, and that's great! Now, you are your own person...just because you're married. My fiancé wasn't sure about it...then I showed it to him and did it in front of him...it gets him all kinds of hot and bothered.

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should I email somebody i'm having serious problems with explaining things?

I don't know all the detail of your problem, but I'm going to say, that you need to make this decision. If you think this person truly cares about you, then do it. If you think this person is a jerk wad, then cut them off completely. There's no reason or need to keep someone in your life that only brings you negativity.

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24 Male

My ex and I broke up a month ago (she broke up with me) and it was messy. She wanted me to stay in contact but at the same time she needed space. We tried for a few weeks but everytime we talked, she would get angry at me. We decided it was best for both of us to move on.

When we were together, she was still in contact with an ex-boyfriend of hers, who she had never actually met in real life. He lives in another country. She had an online relationship with him and they had known each other for 10 years. Her relationship would comprise of talking to him over Skype and texting. He was in her life through out all her previous relationships and had always had an issue with her dating guys in real life. Whenenver she would have a boyfriend, this guy would be pushed away and whenever her relationship wouldn't work out, he would be back in her life. This was a problem for me and I raised it with her. She got angry at me, saying he's just a friend. She lied to me. He was a guy she would always go to to talk about problems. She had loved this guy. Anyways, she said she didn't need him in her life and cut off all contact with him.

My issue with him was that he was emotionally manipulating her. Because he had been there for her in the past, he felt that he could have a say on who she dates. She developed this emotional dependency on him and whenever she would have an argument with him, she would take it out on me. Either way, enough was enough and I asked her to cut off all contact with him.

Fast forward to when we broke-up. We had a lot of arguments regarding this guy. She resented the fact that she couldn't speak to him anymore and that was part of the reason for her breaking up with me. I cared for her and let her know that this guy is just there to get something from her, he's there to prey on her because she's an attractive girl. He really doesn't care, but she thinks he does. It got to the point that as soon as she broke up with me, she got back into contact with him and I can only imagine the crap he's telling her.

I am worried about her. I'm worried that she'll do something stupid, like give up her life here and fly over there just to be with him. This was originally a plan of hers before she met me. When she met me, things changed and she no longer had that plan in mind. However, when things didn't go well with me, when we argued, she would go talk to him or feel the need to talk to him. I felt my relationship with her was doomed as long as he's there. I'm worried that this emotional dependency she has with this guy will make her do stupid things.

We haven't spoken in a few weeks. I'm tired of seeing my care for her being mistaken as controlling her. I saw something that she couldn't see and that was this relationship with this guy was unhealthy. Now she's talking to him again, I don't know if it's my place to even say anything. It hurts seeing her make this mistake again and again. I'm beginning to think I shouldn't even contact her ever again.

I think the WHOLE relationship with this girl should end. If she won't give up that guy to be with you, and make you happy, then I don't think she cares about you all that much. Sorry to be harsh, but it's true. Someone, who cares about you, only wants your happiness. And in that case, she wouldn't have broken up with you in the first place. Unfortunately it is no longer your place to worry for her...to worry about someone who thinks so ill of you, and doesn't see ill with the guy who is truly controlling her. So, you could shoot her a text that says, "I worry about you, and I'm scared for you. I'm sorry if you thought I was being controlling, or manipulative, I just want whats best for you. If you wanna be with this guy, then just please watch out for yourself. Don't move all the way there for this guy. Keep yourself safe. I just want you to be okay." And then cut off all contact. If SHE wants to talk to YOU, and you still wanna talk, then go ahead and talk to her. But it seems to me that she's being very stubborn, and doesn't know who is being honest to her, and who is lying. She's going to immediately go to the person she's known the longest.

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So all I see in my school these days are relationships, in all grades lower then mine and I still don't have a gf. What would be an average age for kid, or teens, or basically anybody to start a relationship or be in one as a boyfriend or girlfriend?

There is no age to date. That's just silly. The right age is when YOU are ready. You need to mentally, AND physically understand what is going on between you and another person. I started dating when I was 10. But I was also VERY interested in boys at a young age. Someone could not be ready until they're in college. It all depends on how you feel. Sex, dating, marriage...it all has to do with when you're ready. Always!

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This guy likes me and he is cool but I am attracted to his brothers appearance. I never talked to his brother, only to the guy that likes me. Should I get over his brother and try to talk to this guy or just stop talking to him?

I pride myself, in my advice, in my ability to NOT sugar coat things. I say this each time I answer a question. I have had this happen to me before. I had a friend...we hung out a lot. He liked me, but I liked his brother. And...I told him I said, I'm not interested in you that way...I just want to be friends. I didn't mention, that I liked his brother...I thought it inappropriate. So, this guy, Chris said that he had enough friends, and if we weren't going to date, we couldn't hang out anymore. He wants a girlfriend and if I can't be that then to just forget about him. I started dating him...like two months after that...because I did develop certain feelings for him. But...things went BAD. He went nutso. Now a little bit prior to me dating Chris, I was talking to his brother...Jacob. And Jacob, liked me, I liked him. But, he said...a few days after talking about being together, that he just couldn't do it, because Chris liked me a lot, and that just wouldn't be the right thing to do.
So, I'm going to disagree with the other comments. Not that they didn't bring up any good points or ideas, but...it doesn't work. You CANNOT get between brothers. If one brother likes a girl, and the other one likes her too, one of them, is going to give up so that the other can have her. OR, they will fight. And it will all be because they like you. It's just a whole lot of drama. And I can't say that that is every case, but men are simple. My advice to you, is to not go after either one of them. Because you date this guy, you're ALWAYS going to be crushing on his brother. And that isn't fair to anyone. I hope that helps.

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I still love my ex and i dont know what to do. I thought i've moved on but i guess not. We broke up 1year ago .It's sad to say that i cant move on and its hard to be happy for both of them. Please can you help me on how to move on and get over to your ex. I cant get him out off my head! I want him back! I want him back! Oh ive missed his handsome face,the way we laughed,and the way we KISS,but its only a kiss and touch touch. I NEVER had sex with him never even though im super inlove with him. I dont know why.hmm maybe im afraid to get in pregnant. He's my first love..i wonder why he chose that bitch rather than me! But what?? Because i can only give torid kissing and touch not sex? If he really do loves me he should understand me because im a member of Mormon The Jesus christ of latter day saints. Im 20 years old and college graduate but im still VIRGIN. But tell me why i feel so lost without him?

You're not the only one out there. I'd like to say that you'll get over it with time. But that simply isn't true, honestly. I loved a man...and we broke up...for months we were over...we broke up on and off on and off for five years. I met a guy, and I FELLINLOVE with him. He's awesome. We're getting married next year. I'm not saying go find someone, I'm just saying, when you feel like you will never find anyone you will love like you loved that guy, it's not true. You will find someone you love MORE.

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Hey! I'm a fifteen year old sophomore girl. When I was in eighth grade I was at a friends house with a few people. At one point I went into the basement to get a soda and this guy followed me. He pressed me against a wall and covered my mouth and started grinding against me and kissing my neck. I've always been small and I couldn't push him off. He fingered me and told me to give him head but someone called down the stairs and he let me go. I didn't tell anyone... And I kind of just forgot about it. Freshman year I started dating this guy for about five months when he raped me. He apologized once and i just started crying. All he said was "its okay"and that's the only time we talked about it... We kept on dating for another three months and then broke up. Again. I never told anyone. Until recently.The guy I'm dating now I've been dating for six months an he's a junior, 17. We've been friends for years. Hes the best guy I know... And I've always loved him. I told him about those two stories ltonight. He really angry and I don't know why. All he said was "why didn't you tell someone?? Why didn't you tell me??" and he stormed out and drove away. I don't know what to do. I mean I understand kind of... I regret not telling anyone but I can't do anything about it now.. Im scared he hates me and I have no explanation for him... What do I do?? He won't answer his phone.

When me are mad, and they don't wanna be mad in front of you...they take a drive. Let him talk to you when he's ready. As for the rape...you need to talk to a councilor.

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