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responding to somebody that your not okay with right now.
should I email somebody i'm having serious problems with explaining things?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
I guess no since he or she is letting it out.
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How long have you not been in communication with them? if some time has gone by, they may have come to realize some of the things they said to you have been a bit uncalled for and might be open to fixing things.
Maybe you you email them, you can take the time to think out what you want to say, in a calm manner, get it all out, and make sure what your saying is what you want to say. That way they can read it ALL before replying back and they are forced to see ALL of what you wrote.
Time can definitely change people, maybe if some time has gone by and their in a different stage in life now youll have another chance to reunite or meet back up again an start a new sort of friendship. (((idk what kind of relationship this IS so im just guessing)))
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I don't know all the detail of your problem, but I'm going to say, that you need to make this decision. If you think this person truly cares about you, then do it. If you think this person is a jerk wad, then cut them off completely. There's no reason or need to keep someone in your life that only brings you negativity.
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YES if you want to try and resolve the issue. NO if you definitely don't want to and and don't really have any interest in keeping them as a friend/acquaintance anyway. How much do you value their opinion of you and how much do you want to keep them 'around'? Communication is 99 out of 100 times the key to resolving interpersonal problems, or at least limiting the damage. An email lets you 'frame' what you want to say, without instant feedback from the other person to way-lay or mislead you you. You can 'say your piece' and wait for a response in a calm and measured way that is often impossible in the ebb and flow of face-to-face conversation. And go from there. If you can happily live without their estimation or opinion it's a case of "Have a nice rest of your life". Forget the problem, forget any attempt to resolve it, forget any idea of 'proving a point' ( especially one that doesn't much matter to you anyhow)...and move on. This might sound cynical, but I've lived a while. When you look back over the years there are surprisingly few people you've known and met who actually 'really matter' (as you might say). And you know who they are, and why. These you explain yourself to, and listen to their explanations. And make the effort for. And it's returned.
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