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I still love my ex
I still love my ex and i dont know what to do. I thought i've moved on but i guess not. We broke up 1year ago .It's sad to say that i cant move on and its hard to be happy for both of them. Please can you help me on how to move on and get over to your ex. I cant get him out off my head! I want him back! I want him back! Oh ive missed his handsome face,the way we laughed,and the way we KISS,but its only a kiss and touch touch. I NEVER had sex with him never even though im super inlove with him. I dont know why.hmm maybe im afraid to get in pregnant. He's my first love..i wonder why he chose that bitch rather than me! But what?? Because i can only give torid kissing and touch not sex? If he really do loves me he should understand me because im a member of Mormon The Jesus christ of latter day saints. Im 20 years old and college graduate but im still VIRGIN. But tell me why i feel so lost without him?
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You're not the only one out there. I'd like to say that you'll get over it with time. But that simply isn't true, honestly. I loved a man...and we broke up...for months we were over...we broke up on and off on and off for five years. I met a guy, and I FELLINLOVE with him. He's awesome. We're getting married next year. I'm not saying go find someone, I'm just saying, when you feel like you will never find anyone you will love like you loved that guy, it's not true. You will find someone you love MORE.
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Time will help you to get over him. A gut that ditches you for another woman after only one year is not worth keeping anyway. It probably is because you would not have sex. He obviously is a selfish guy. The reason you feel strongly about him is that you love him. But, he is too selfish to return the love. Even if he does love you, he loves himself more. This is obvious because he chose sex over your relationship. You can do better than this guy. Find someone who loves you unselfishly and is willing to wait to have sex. It may seem hard to find a guy like that right now. But, to some guys waiting is actually sexy. It means they have to work for your sexual love and attention. This can make them value you even more.
Believe moi. Moi has a charm that is lethal to men.
Miss Piggy
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First loves are the hardest loves to get over. I've been married for almost 43 years and I can still remember my first love all the way back in the eighth grade. We did everything together including teaching each other how to make out stopping short of actual sex. It felt like the real thing. Then her father found a new job and they moved. We were both heart broken. As you can see we both moved on and you will too but a first love will always be with you.
All firsts are a landmark event in our lives. Most of them are things we want to remember and cherish. This would include a first love even if as in your case the boy had only one thing on his mind. Understand one thing about young men and boys. They have a different definition of love than you do. TO them the definition of love and lust are just about synonymous. The fact that you wish to remain a virgin is reason enough for him to leave and go with someone else who will have sex with him.
If he indeed did leave you for someone that would have sex with him this should tell you two things. First he did not have the respect for you a person who loves someone should have. Second his love for you was one born more out of lust than love.
You can take solace in the fact that you remained true to yourself and did not give into him. Had you given in to him the chances were very good he would have moved on anyway for he is probably what is known as a player. Someone who is out to put another notch on his sexual belt and move on once he does.
If you are remaining a VIRGIN because of your religious values then I recommend you date within your church group or religion where you will find men who will value your being true to your religious teachings. I will warn you though there will be some men within your religion who do not have the same religious convictions you may have so be careful.
There is nothing wrong with being a 20 year old virgin and staying true to your convictions. There is nothing wrong with mooning over a lost love either. Mooning over this guy is something I think you should forget as he wanted what you are not or would not give him. Not giving him what he wanted he left to find it someplace else. That is his problem and he did not love you so there is no reason to cry over him.
Yes he was a first love a milestone in your life something you might want to remember. This milestone event though is not one to be cried over. Get back in the game and start dating again and just forget about him. There is a guy out there just waiting to meet you who will give you the respect you deserve and will be honored by the gift you will give him on your wedding night.
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