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I dont like him!!!
This guy likes me and he is cool but I am attracted to his brothers appearance. I never talked to his brother, only to the guy that likes me. Should I get over his brother and try to talk to this guy or just stop talking to him?
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I pride myself, in my advice, in my ability to NOT sugar coat things. I say this each time I answer a question. I have had this happen to me before. I had a friend...we hung out a lot. He liked me, but I liked his brother. And...I told him I said, I'm not interested in you that way...I just want to be friends. I didn't mention, that I liked his brother...I thought it inappropriate. So, this guy, Chris said that he had enough friends, and if we weren't going to date, we couldn't hang out anymore. He wants a girlfriend and if I can't be that then to just forget about him. I started dating him...like two months after that...because I did develop certain feelings for him. But...things went BAD. He went nutso. Now a little bit prior to me dating Chris, I was talking to his brother...Jacob. And Jacob, liked me, I liked him. But, he said...a few days after talking about being together, that he just couldn't do it, because Chris liked me a lot, and that just wouldn't be the right thing to do.
So, I'm going to disagree with the other comments. Not that they didn't bring up any good points or ideas, but...it doesn't work. You CANNOT get between brothers. If one brother likes a girl, and the other one likes her too, one of them, is going to give up so that the other can have her. OR, they will fight. And it will all be because they like you. It's just a whole lot of drama. And I can't say that that is every case, but men are simple. My advice to you, is to not go after either one of them. Because you date this guy, you're ALWAYS going to be crushing on his brother. And that isn't fair to anyone. I hope that helps.
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I think you should get to know both of them.
You might be attracted to his brother but when you get to know him, you might not like him all that much or really have much in common to be able to date each other. Or maybe you guys will get along great. And just because his brother likes you, doesn't mean you have to write this guy off.
As for him. I think you should talk to him, get to know him. Maybe you will end up having lots of thing in common and maybe start liking him once you get to know him. If not, then you get a new friend out of this. Just don't lead him on.
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People can be attracted to a person's looks but not know anything about them. We might not have anything in common with a people we're visually attracted to.
So if you don't run into this brother of his naturally in school or the neighbor or where-ever to get a chance to even know him, then don't focus on fantasys about someone that might not work even if he did notice you and liked your looks too.
Pretending to like the one who likes you just to be around his brother might come to mind as a possible solution but is unfair to the younger brother.It could hurt his feelings if he felt you thought the same way and had same interest in him and saw your interest in his brother.
You may not want to become his girlfriend and actually date him, but if you like him as a person and he could be a nice friend, be honest and let him know if you have any interest or only see him as a friend.
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