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We tried but it wouldn't go in?
My question is my boyfriend and I are. Both virgins and we tried to have sex but it wouldn't go in I was a little embarrassed what do I do?
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I'd like to state, that I'm glad it didn't go in. I think, waiting is impotent. You are a rose bud...that has not bloomed yet. And you need to bloom before you're picked.
If YOU feel like you're ready, grab a condom, and go at it. It will hurt at first, and it probably won't be too comfortable, depending on your age as the person below has stated. Honestly it will possibly be completely uncomfortable. Which is no fun. But, one thing you can do, is take a back massager, and put it on your clit. Play around a little bit. Even have an orgasm if you want, and you'll be lubed up yourself.
USE PROTECTION
HOPE THAT HELPS
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I wish you had included your age as it is important in answering this question. The younger YOU are the harder it is going to be for that first intercourse.
Before I go into that I need to add something here because your age is missing. Boys have a different definition of love than girls do as young teenagers. To them love and lust are synonymous. If you are having sex with your boyfriend because he said something like; "If you love me you will have sex with me." You are having sex with him for all the wrong reasons. He does not love you he lusts for you and most likely once he gets what he wants he will move on to another girl. Think about this before you try again. Trust me on this one for I was once a teenage boy.
Now if you are young say in the age range of 13 to early 16. You may have developed the outward appearance of a women's body. Internally though you are still developing. Yes, your vagina will stretch to accommodate a man’s penis, just remember what your vagina is made to deliver into the world.
While you may be getting your period and be capable of getting pregnant. The hormones that allow the vagina muscles to unlock and stretch to allow a penis to enter and a baby to exit may not have been released yet. This is all part of puberty and it happens at different time for each girl.
Another reason you could be having trouble is you are not able to relax and let those muscles relax. This is a defense mechanism. A male can have sex almost anywhere as long as he can get hard. It is not quite that easy for the female.
A female needs to feel loved, be comfortable in her surroundings, feel safe that no one is going to intrude upon her, and most important that she is physically comfortable. Meaning the back seat of the car is not the best place to lose ones virginity.
Yes foreplay and externally applied lubrication such as K-Y Jelly will help. If you cannot relax, if you do not feel loved, if there is not enough foreplay to excite you, if you do not feel safe and you are not comfortable you will not be able to relax those muscles if they can be relaxed and it will hurt. It does not have to hurt. The only real pain you should feel is the sting of the tearing of your Hymen if it is still intact.
Sex is a beautiful thing between two loving people who are old enough to be in a long term loving relationship. Mature enough to understand the possible consequences of the act of love and able to deal with them.
I will not be a hypocrite and say you must wait for marriage. Most of us your parents age and older were not virgins when we married. What I will suggest is you make sure this is the right time and the right person to give your virginity to.
If as I feel you are in the age group I think you are I ask you to reread the second paragraph before you try again.
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Ok, i had this problem my first time too. what you wanna do is maybe have him finger you for a few minutes and have some foreplay like snuggling and kissing so youll relax down there a little, then also you should buy some lube (they have it everywhere like the 99 cent store and its still good quality) then have him slowly try to work his way into you a little at a time. just use lots of lube. also make sure to use proper protection like a a condom obviously.
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