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Are his feelings changing or am I just thinking too much?
21/f, 27/m
I have been dating this guy for about two months. He used to say "good morning" and "good night :-*" all the time. And he used to text me at least by 3 PM everyday. Last week, I noticed that things started changing. He stopped saying good morning and good night. He doesn't text me unless I text him first... And his texts are becoming short. When we see each other, he still kisses me, holds my hand, etc.
He recently went on vacation to LA and he texted me that he just got to his hotel and that he wished that I was there. After that, he didn't really say anything after that. He hasn't texted me at all. My friend told me that if it was him, he wouldn't be texting on vacation and I should wait until he gets back.
I have confronted him about what's been going on if asked if there was something wrong. He denies it all... He says that everything is fine and great. I'm having trouble trusting him. I'm not sure if he's found someone else or is interested in someone else but just isn't telling me. Or if I'm just thinking too much into it.
What do you think?
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Maybe stop texting him if your sure it's because you know theirs something wrong. when he gets back confront him, and if he writes to you what's wrong say something like i've been feeling kind of distant from you lately by text and didn't want to bother you, though how's vacation so far? keep things positive though honest and try not to sound like your blaming him or it would create tension.
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I agree. I would also say, that you shouldn't text him a lot. Text him...maybe once a day, to every other day. You NEED to give him some time to miss you. If you're texting him, calling him, he's in a way spending time with you. But when you're not connecting, or talking or whatever, he's going to miss you, and he'll text you on his own. That's probably what happened.
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The honeymoon phase of your relationship is starting to wear off. It's not glaringly obvious that he found someone else--in fact, there's really no reason to believe that he has. It's just that things aren't fresh and new so the intensity of his affection has begun to cool down. This happens in every single relationship, and it's not a sign that things are doomed.
Nevertheless, I will say that this is the point that relationships either settle and continue or end. It is possible that he's over it, but this will only be established through clear and open lines of communication. A relationship isn't rainbows and grand gestures of love all the time--its the quiet agreement to love, trust, and respect one another. Now's the time to see if this was a the beginnings of relationship or pure infatuation. Wait until you can discuss things with him in person to determine this.
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