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A boy in my year at school who is my bestfriend but I'm in love with him
I have been best friends with this boy since year 7 and I am now in year 10 at school he's just turned 15 and I'm 14, I have liked him for a long time now and I've done nothing about it. He's made it perfectly clear he just wants to be best friends. But I can't help but like him sometimes my feelings go away but then they come straight back. I've tried not talking to him but I just miss him too much and now I just don't know what to do anymore, do you have any ideas on what I could do?
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The thing is you can't control what his reaction is or if he is attracted to you. What you can control is whether or not to let these pent up feelings drive you nuts without an answer.
If you have known him for four years or longer and will be friends no matter what then go for the truth. There's NOTHING to fear or be ashamed of. Tell him you can't shake the feeling that you really do love and care for him and that all you really wanted was to try and see if a relationship would work.
If he says no than at the very least you will be able to get the truth out and still maintain a friendship. You might find if you talk to him openly that he may now be interested and or fears losing the friendship if something didn't work out. I think that's his whole thing that once you did go out a friendship could go wrong if the relationship soured. Talk to him. Find out.
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You can't make someone love you...or even like you. All you can do, is let nature take its course. I understand it's hard, but you're just going to HAVE to be strong. I've been there, and done that. But I'd also like to add, how great of a guy could he be, FOR YOU, if he isn't with you. I've heard of many people falling in love with their high school sweethearts, even their middle school and elementary school sweethearts. If he doesn't want to be with you, then leave it at that. Yeah...you can still like him. But around him, you need to just try not to care, whether or not he is in love with you. I believe what you are feeling is a major infatuation. It will pass. Some day, soon, you'll meet someone you care EVEN MORE for. And he'll only be a distant memory.
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