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I have friends but with some of them it's a competition...
Age:13 gender: girl.
So I feel lonely. I have friends but with some of them it's a competition . They leave people out when you stop hanging out with them for the tiniest bit. But they're funny and relatable at times . I feel weird around them and I don't like how they work.
My other friend 's dad got a job offer in another state and they're probably moving( or that's at least what her mom said) if she leaves Ill have no one during 8 grade. That's scary as hell. I'll have no one to talk or sit next to during lunch , to help pick out a dress for our dance, to walk down walkway winners( it's part of our graduation ceremony) I tried to make new friends but as I said they treat me like a classmate. They text me back and answer my calls but they don't do that to me.
I think why I'm so freaked out is because there were two weekswhen Annabelle ,the girl that's moving , was in a fight with me and it scared the crap out of me. There were some girls making fun of me and I made snarky remarks but it was like swimming with sharks. There were two many of them and there was Annabelle wasn't there to scare Em off as she usually did.
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Hello my dear, it's Juliet here, and I'd like to welcome you to becoming a woman. Women...are jerks. People can take that as they want it, but it's the truth. We can be manipulative, spoiled, grouchy buttheads. And sometimes we don't care who we hurt. But, honestly, you're in 8th grade. I wanna say it gets better from there, but, from girls being jerks, it doesn't. However, it's almost the end of the year. And then you'll start high school and have a HUGE school full of other kids. You'll make it. Just hang in there. When girls tease you, look at the them like they're stupid...and shrug it off. Because all they want is a reaction out of you. Believe me...it's not easy being alone and friendless...I would know. But, it's amaing to stand up for yourself, and be true to yourself. I hope that helps dearie. And if you have any further questions or comments, please message me. No problem .
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Sorry to hear about your friend moving. It's hard to enjoy going to school when you don't have any friends or those you do are not much of a friend to begin with.
At your age, kids are still learning how to interact nicely with others and girls who get irritated with you, fight, get angry, snarky or whatever is due to a couple things:
1. The hormones of puberty are still playing havoc with their emotions. This should level out and they won't be as snotty or mean in a couple years.
2. Young peoples bodys mature before their brain does so the part of brain responsible for making good decisions and treating people fairly are incapable in lots of teens to work right until the brain finishes growing by our mid 20's. It should get better every couple of years. But some mature slower and faster bodily and same for the brain.
If you hunt around hard enough, you should be able to find other teen girls who don't have many friends who have matured mentally better than most and will make good friends. They won't stand out cus they're not the popular kids. Some of the best friends I ever had in middle school and high school were friends who didnt stand out, kinda faded into the background so no one really noticed them unless you were purposely looking for those who didn't hang with snarky girls who treated you as friend one minute and enemy as the next, with emotions all over the place. I didn't want to put up with that. So I did find friends but it was just a few, I had 2 close friends and that was it. I knew other girls and was friendly with at school but only ones I saw away from school and did stuff with was 2. You can do it and find some new friends. Good luck.
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