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I'm 16 and I love drawing, listening to music and hanging out with my friends. My family and friends always tend to come to me for advice or support because I'll try to help no matter what. I like to help and offer friendship to those who need it and I'm always willing to give time to answer a question someone needs help with.
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hey my name is shayla and im twelve and a few days ago my friend has being avoiding me and i dont know why i just dont know why and im wondering if u could give me some advice on what i should do??
thanks
Hmmm, have you tried talking to her? Something might be bothering her and maybe she just doesn't know how to confront you about it, you should definitely try confronting her. Try not to just catch her on the spot, tell her that it seems like she's been avoiding you lately and you just wondering if you had done something to offend her. Give her time and hopefully she'll talk to you about it, if she doesn't wish to speak to you about the reason in which she is avoiding give her some space.
I really hope I could help:)
Hey. Ok, so I'm 15/F. So here's the background story. Last year in 8th grade, I really liked this guy, we'll call him..Jim. Ok so I reallyyyyy liked him and we had all of our classes together. And later on I found out that he liked me. But we both never atmited it to each other. And he had a girlfriend so that was a factor also. Then a little more than half-way through the year, one of my best friends, we'll call her...Jenna, she started to like him. I was really mad because she knew I liked him. So they were going to start going out, even though he had a gf, he was going to break up with her for Jenna. Haha, it's really not as bad as it sounds, the whole him breaking up with her for Jenna. But w/e. But Jim and Jenna never went out. So skippin by a little bit to this year, freshman year in highschool. So at the begging of the year, Jim and I didn't have that many classes together. But we still talked every once and a while. And he was going out with someone, but they broke up. Skipping to now. Ok, so here's my problem. I STILL LIKE HIM, A LOT. And he's dating someone!! And he seems really happy. And I always try to tell myself I'm happy for him, but seriously, idc how corny this sounds, my heart is telling me that I still reallyyy like him, and my head's telling me I don't. But he always makes fun of me in a joking way, but idk, it kinda hurts my feelings. But yet I still like him. I'm CRAZY! And I really want to tell him. But I don't want to ruin anything between him and his gf now. I probably woudn't but still. I don't know what to do! Everytime I see him I think about all the fun times we had together in 8th grade and stuff. And I try to tell myself to stop living in the past, but it never works! So please! What should I do???? If he ever breaks up with her, I might tell him, but idk. I'm not to good around guys. I suck at talking to them for some reason. I reallly think i'll never have a bf. It makes me sad! My friends tell me that I will someday. But that's just not happening. Please help! Thanks. Sorry if this was so long!
Okay, do you still talk to this guy a lot?Hang around with him out of school, that sort of thing, if not you should,if you are already that's already a great step. The trick is to find out as much about him as possible(not in a stockerish way) but as a friend, try seeing the difference between the way he acts around you compared to the way he acts around other girls. If there's not that big a difference then it's possible he may like you, but don't get your hopes too high, it's hard not to but really try. It's hard having a crush, believe me, I know but you said you're in your freshman year, you've still got sooooo much time to like guys to have them like you, to go out with guys...don't worry talking to guys might seem like the hardest thing in the world, but you'll get use to it, try be-friending more guys throughout highschool. Now about this guy you're stuck on right now, try not to let this over power every though in your mind, if it already has, try distracting yourself by going for walks, listening to music, write a journal. For now just try being really good friends with this guy, with time you might become more than friends with him or you might not but belive me, there are so many great guys out there you'll be sure to find one. For now just keep your true friends close and enjoy life throughout highschool!
Hope I could help, good luck!
ive been dating my guy for 6 months and his ex has been in the way so i told him to tell her to knock it off. so yesterday he tells me they went to dinner so they can come to a conclusion. earier today he sent me a message saying that he wanted to talk to me. and when i tried to get in contact with him. he wouldnt answer my texts. and when i called it went straight to voice mail. is he cheating on me with his ex? do you think he's losing his love for me? or am i just being paranoid?
Well first of all try not to come to any conclusions until you get some answers out of him. Yeah he shouldn't rreally be hanging with his ex, but if he's sincere to you, seeing her once and a while isn't so bad. But ask yourself this..Did he tell you he was going out to dinner with her before he actually did so? If not..then you definetly should start questionning his feelings for him, because if he's sneeking around, he's soooo not worth it!
Hope things work out for you and I hope I could help=D
this weekend i went to a party with my bff and i kinda left her alone to go talk to people... and this idiot drunk guy was yelling at her telling her to get out of the house (he wasn't the host). i obviously feel awful about it and i want to like kill the guy. i mean i should have been there for her. i want to do something nice for her to show her how sorry i am and how much i care.. i know i made a big mistake.
any ideas on how to make it up to her?
Well yeah you've admitted to making a mistake so that's a good thing. You've got to tell her how sorry you are and that you'll make it up to her BIG time. Take her out to a movie or some place she really likes. Tell her you know that bribbing her obviously won't automatically make things better, but let her know that she has all the time she needs to forgive you, no pressure.
If she truly is your bff, she'll understand and forgive you with time.
Hope I could help!
Okay, so me and my boyfriend are going out for 7 months it will be our 8 month anniversary on February 27th. He is absolutely amazing and i am really in love with him. He literally is like the perfect boyfriend. but for a little while we had a period where we would like get "testy" with each other over everything, even jokes. but now we are okay is that normal in a long relationship like this?
(I'm 15 (almost 16 in september) and hes 17 (almost 18 in july) and we had sex for the first time at the end of our 6th month. it was Both of our first times if that helps at all.) (i was ready to do it, so please dont say i wasnt even if thats what you really think)
Don't worry it's perfectly normal to have ups and downs in any relationship, no matter how long it's been going on for. As long as you don't constantly have severe arguments, I don't think you have anything to worry about. If you love him and he loves you, that's all that matters, as long as he treats you right everything should go great=D
I started Middle school this fall. I made a lot of friends this year. My best friend and I are in the same lunch and she keeps giving off this vibe that she is angry with me. Z (my bff) and I haven't fought at all this year and I didn't spread any rumors or snub her or anything, but she seems mad at me. Neither of us are part of the "in" crowd, though we have friends in it. We sit at the same lunch table, but she barely speaks to me. We used to be really close. Sorry for the length, but any advice would be greatly appreciated!
Hmm you should ask her what's up? Maybe somethings bugging her and she wants to talk about it, but she doesn't want to ask. Also, she may be feeling left out. Have you been paying attention to others more than her lately? She might just need a welcoming into any new groups of friends you've made...If she seems mad you should definetly approach her about it, nothing gets resolved if nothing is said.Right?
REally hope I helped:)
15/f
ok so i used to date this boy--Brent. we were together for a year and a half on and off. he was my first love but he was also a pothead. well one night at our school's homecoming game bonfire, he got high and decided to blurt out to my step-sister Brittany that he had cheated on me. at least thats what she says; he denies it. well this was about a year ago. since then ive dated his friend--Cody. and Cody and i had this thing over the summer where we were talking and long story short-he turned out to be a complete butthole. well im still not completely over Cody but lately Brittany has been trying to get me to give Brent another chance and he was myspace-messaging my best friend; Amber trying to find out if i still liked him. so i messaged him and asked why he was bugging my friend. well we had this big long talk about how hes still in love with me and he was begging for another chance; even tho i told him i couldnt go through that again. well i dont like him anymore but i dont know how to tell him. but on the other had, i kinda want to give him another chance. Brittany and Brent both say that hes done with pot and everything but im scared. thank you if you took the time to read this long question and please help!
Personally, if a guy was into drugs I wouldn't be able to trust that he quit right away. Another thing, he cheated on you? REmember that saying..Once a cheater always a cheater, now this doesn't always apply, but it's what you think is best. If I was in your situation, I think I'd wait a while. See what happens and stuff, I'd make sure I knew this person was done with drugs for good. I'd also need to regain his trust. This is up to you, I mean if you have no feelings for him anymore, than maybe it's best that you just tell him that he's lost your trust and you can't risk getting hurt again. It's good to be scared, it means you're cautious. Don't be afraid to talk to him though. I really hope I could help, anymore questions, message me:)
Sorry but this is going to be long!
Okay so everyone has their little crushes but yeah! I'm crushing on this guy and I just like him so much. He's tall and hot and i dont know... there's just something about him that really makes me happy. I never get to see him. We go to different schools. Plus he's 3 years older than me which is kind of a lot. Anyways like he came all the way out of his town to see me. He drove all the way to where my cousin lives to see me. I guess... but I don't think he likes me because he didn't talk to me when he came over there he just checked me out a little bit and kind of followed me. Is he shy or what? I don't really know. And he always gets off myspace when I get on. So he doesnt really even attempt to flirt. He's driving me crazy. I mean he always tells my cousin to come get me but I think he doesnt really like me that much. Any advice on what I can do about this? thanks soo much in advance!
You've got to say to him..Listen I can't stand how you're giving me mixed signals, are you, or are you not interested in getting to know me, and not just my looks. You've got to show him that you're strong and that if he doesn't make a move soon, you're going to move on. Don't let any guy bring you down, tell him how you feel. Make sure to be clear with what you say and always keep your head high with confidence no matter what:)
Okay so I'm 15 and a girl and I've never had a boyfriend. I mean I don't think I'm very pretty but I'm not hideously ugly or anything. Guys like me and I've gotten asked out every now and then but it's never the guy I want or could potentially like. I guess it's cause I always fall for guys who are out of my league or whatever but how can I get more attention from guys? Especially guys I like?
Just be yourself, show guys that you have independence, if you're shy, try not to be. As I said be yourself and let that shine through. It's not a bad thing to try to find out what the guy you like is interested in. Try to make conversation, as best you can. Don't ever think that any guy is out of your league. You can attract any guy as long as you put your mind to it. Hope I could help:):)
How do you tell someone who is totally in love with you that you want to go on a break from them ? :| I mean i do like my bf .. but i just need abit of time on my own. I dont want to finish with him forever i dont think, but i just want to go on a break from him. How do i tell him ? :\ Thank Yuu x x
Tell him how you feel. Say it nicely and respectfully. Tell him that you've got things going through your mind right now and you really need some time to just think everything through. If you still like him, tell him that, just say that you need a bit of a break to think about things and just relax for a while. I'm sure if he really likes you, he'll understand.
Hope I could help:)
16,f
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now. Recently he went to visit his mom, who lives over 4 hours away from me. His mom had absolutely nothing to do with him until it came time for him to testify in court to help decide whether she would be able to keep her other children. Well, he was originally supposed to stay for a weekend only, but it turned into four weeks. He came back on our one year anniversary and he had been here for only 5 days when he and his dad got into a fight. They always fight, but this time my boyfriend decided to move out. To his moms. I’m really scared I wont be able to be strong enough to handle him being gone. I already miss him so much and he hasn’t even been gone a whole day yet. Also, my parents gave him the option of living in my house, rent free. They offered to buy him a vehicle and help him get a job. We even bought him a cell phone. He says he wants to finish school in my hometown, but he can’t live with his dad. So then why did he turn my parents invitation down? I love this boy but I’m so scared that something bad will happen. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.
It's very understandable how this would be hard for you, so you have every right to be scared. But you have to respect your boyfriend for his decisions. This is hard for you, but imagine how hard this is for him. He might not have taken your parents up on their offer because at this moment he wants to get as far away as possible from his father. The best you can do right now is just be there for him, talk to him and be that goodness in his life, be that someone who he can come talk to(Not that you're not that person already) but just help him out by staying there for him. After a while has gone by, if things still haven't changed, then you can ask questions. Just know that as long as your there for him right now, that's all he really needs.
I hope everything works out:)
I have no confidence whatsoever in myself...none!
Is there any way i can fix this?
what are some positive things i can think?
It's hard to carry confidence in yourself but you have to try. After all you have to live with you and only you for the rest of your life. Just try thinking positive things about yourself. If you think anything negatively about your appearence, change that, look at yourself and tell yourself that you're pretty, know that there is no such thing as being "ugly" because everyone is beautiful to someone. Also remember this nobody is nobody, so don't ever think that you mean nothing. You've just got to keep positive thoughts in your head, it takes a while but eventually it will come naturally.
Good luck and I hope I could help!
the guy i like.. we have something going on, were kinda like freinds with benefits, he knows i have strong feeling for him, i know he likes me too. he just has problems with commitemnt, and i really wanna have a relatioship with him. he drinks and everything every now and then.. and i know thats when he doesnt care what girl hes with and hell just make out with anyone.. i wanna do something thatll make him see that im worth the commitment, i need advice on what to do to really show him im different and we should really be together
Wow, I went through practically the exact same thing! I know how you feel. Okay, so he's scared of commitement?You have to show him, tell him that it's not like your asking for his hand in marriage, you're asking him for a chance. TEll him to give you a chance, show him that you're not gonna rush anything, you don't even have to get into all that I love you stuff yet. Tell him how you feel and tell him your boundries, meaning that if he's not willing to give you a chance then just being friends with benefits is going to make this really hard on you(believe me it is, I know how you feel) Because you like him but if he can't at the very least give you a chance at being his girlfriend, then you can't keep doing this. You have to show him that you're independent or else he can just say that he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you but he can still have you in some way. I know this is hard, but I think you should definetly talk to him. Show him how great of a person you are and how much of an even greater girlfriend you'd make. I wish you all the best, if you need any more help with this, I'll be here:)
My stepdad has been such an asshole lately. All he does is yell at me and tell me how lazy I am. I'm on the computer most of the time because I'm BORED and there's nothing to do at home. When he comes home, he goes "I see that you're on the computer again. What did you do around the house?" It's like he expects me to make sure that the house is in tiptop shape and everything has to be absolutely perfect for him. If I slightly disagree, he gives me a dirty look and tells me that he's going to take away my laptop if I keep arguing. It's like I have no say in the house. I know I'm only 15, but I hate it when he treats me like I'm dirt and worthless. He never praises me. If my brother has a wet diaper, he won't even change it. It's SO pathetic. I'm tired of him being a stubborn little whiny bitch about everything. When he comes home, all he does is rant and he won't SHUT UP. I'm so tired of this and sometimes I can't wait until I've moved out. I've become really snappy towards my mom. She's super picky, but I'd choose her over my stepdad any day. All of this anger is bottling up inside of me and when I burst out [at the wrong times], I'm either getting punished or sent to my room. I'm so independent and hate being controlled. Give me money and a house and I'd be able to completely manage my life on my own. It's hard to talk to my mom without being judged.
Also, I wanted to mention something else as well [pertaining to this]. I almost have 2 personalities. At home, sometimes I put off cleaning and I'm a huge procrastinator [sp], and I often find myself arguing with my parents. When I visit my dad and my uncles, I'm Ms. Goody Two Shoes and do everything that is asked. If my aunt asked me to clean the bathroom, I would do it in a split second. I guess I just want to 'maintain' that good girl image for my uncles and show them that I can accomplish what need be. My cousin is 22, and had straight A's all throughout high school. She would clean without being asked at my age; she was perfect. She is my 'role model' as of now. A few years back, she received a 4 year scholarship to a local college. I guess I just want my dad's side of the family to be proud of me..
Sorry that this was so long.
I'm sure they are proud of you. But maybe if you feel this way about your mom and stepdad, you should just try talking to them(easier said than done I know)But I'm sure your mom wouldn't want you to dread being there. If you find you can't talk to them, then talk to your dad or someone really close to you. I mean it's your decision, if you would rather to just not have to talk or make any interactions with your moms side it's completly up to you. In my opinion though, you should maybe just try talking to them because after all you only get one mom. I know it's not easy talking to your parents when they're like this but all you can do is try to, right? I hope I could help and if you have any questions, message me:)
I'm 16 and a girl. I live on a ranch. I have three older brothers and my dad who worked on the ranch. My oldest brother doesn't work anymore because he lives in a different town. My middle brother still works and my youngest older brother works on the ranch. Well I don't work on the ranch unless they ask me too and I do whatever they need me too. They don't ask me often, but when they do I do what needs to be done. I usually just stay in the house and do house chores. Well my youngest older brother (Barry) is really rude to me. He always tells me how lazy I am. He says I'm a spoiled brat (which I'm not. I work for a lot of things I have). He has called me a bitch many times. He has hurt me physically in the past and continues to damper my confidence. My parents worship him and anything he says they back him up. It is really starting to take a toll on me. I cry everyday hoping things will get better, but they just get worse. Am I wrong to think this is abuse? What do I need to do?
No, you say you work for everything you have, so it is clear they are being unfair. If they think you're worthless than that makes them no better. Calling their own family member worthless is extremely disrespectful. You need to stand your ground in a polite way, prooving to them that you are not worthless and that you won't take that treatment from them. By doing this, you'd show them that you're all grown up and play an important part in your family. Don't let anyone tell you that you're worthless, cause if you were, you wouldn't exist. Tell your brother that you just want to get along with him and that you're tired of fighting all the time. Fighting is worthless, but you aren't. Proove that to your family( you shouldn't have to)but do what you can to make them see, that you have feelings and they aren't worthless!
If this was any help at all then great!If you need anymore help than message me, cause I know where you're comming from.
so i really want to start eating better. im naturally thin, but the way/things i eat ill be dead by the time im 30... first of all im NOT a morning person at ALL. but i want to start eating breakfast, so i want something nutritious but SIMPLE that can be made in seriously like 5 minutes and tastes good. any ideas? even if its just like cereal, whats a kind thatll help me lose a few pounds and be more lean and healthy? also is grilled chicken good for you? any tips on eating better? i hate lettuce alot but im going to try to force myself to start eating salads =/ any tips overall?
Well for breakfast, you can always make yourself a slice of toast with jam or peanut butter, healthy cereal in my opinion is Special K, they have different kinds and they actually taste pretty good. Also if your not a morning person it has been proven that just eating an apple is better at waking you up than caffeine. Also, I used to hate salad but now, it's one of my favorite things to eat. I love making myself a ceaser salad with a bit of shredded cheese and pieces of chicken in it(even low fat dressing, surprisingly doesn't taste too bad) And yes I think grilled chicken is good for you, as long as it's not covered in grease and butter, any meats are very good for you. It's all about balance, too much of anything isn't good for you, but if you balance it out, then you're on your way to a healthy lifestyle:)Hope my tips will help you!
Have a great New Year!
i should be perfectly happy. i have a good family and great friends. i cant stand my mom sometimes because she thinks she knows everything but i guess thats the really only family problem i have.i hate school and i dont know why. i mean i really really hate it. my parents just opened up a buisness..a lazer tag arena. the employees are really nice and the business is doing well. i love to hang out with a few of the guy employees (im a girl) there older than me but we get along really well. i try to go there as much as i can to hang out with them. but of course i dont tell my parents that they keep telling me that i need my sleep and that there trying to be good paretns. i tell them that maybe being good parents to me is something different than the stereotype definition of good paretns. but they dont care. i am trying to lose weight now that the holidays are over adn im determined to do it. i am just really really unhappy. i dont know what to do! im so confused. i feel like im all alone. i dont get it i want to be happy but it just doesnt seem to be working for me what do i do to be more happier in school and in just general life?? im sorry this is so long.
thanks for all who help or try to help!
You're probably going through a rough patch where nothing seems to be fun anymore for you, where no matter what you do, you're just not happy. Don't worry, when I'm feeling down I like to keep myself busy. Find a hobby that interests you. Personally I love to draw, play guitar or even just listen to music and think. Also I find hanging out with my close friends or relatives always makes me feel better. Tell your parents that you're growing up and that you're no longer a little kid anymore. You're gonna want to start hanging around with guys more often and that's perfectly okay. Hope I could help and have a happy New Years.
i'm going on sort of a double date thing on friday. Its going to be me and my boyfriend and my friend and her boyfriend going to the movies.My boyfriend and i haven't kissed yet and he said he was gunna kiss me in the movie. This will be my first kiss. Wat should i do?????
Thanx in advance
Okay keep yourself as relaxed as possible and of course..kiss him back! This is exciting, first kisses are always so exciting. Just saty calm and keep it casual, do what comes natural! Don't worry, you'll be fine:)
okay so i have this guy friend...
who ive known for 5 years. he's always liked me but has not admitted it.
so we met back in 7th grade. and we were reallyy good friends
i transferred schools for 8th grade from public to private.
we still kept in touch by email and such.
last summer(of '07), he came through my line at work and i hadnt seen him in years. he soon started working there too.
so supposidly he's good friends with my ex, who i dated last summer up until late october when we broke up for various reasons. but he says he doesnt like my ex cz hes just an as$hole.
so ever since that breakup, we've been tlaking alot. he has a girlfriend who hes been with since april or may of last year('07)
lately hes been like complaining about her but says things like he misses me and he cant stop thinking about me and cant wait to see me again, etc.
so last night after work, he walked with me to my car and we talked for a few. i got in my car and rolled the window down and we talked a bit more. suddenly he says "oh my mom is here" and he kisses me. i was like..uh....ok.
it wasnt just the fact he kissed me, he did like 4 times! practically trying to like makeout with me. i was kinda freaked out.
so i emailed with him last night about it and he was saying things like he has waited so long for that to happen and that im perfect for him and he wants to be with me. yet, hes still with his gf.
what would you do? how would you go about handling this situation?
thanks,
I think you need to tell him that you do want to be with him and that you do like him very much but if the relantionship between the two of you is going to work, he can't be with this other girl. Because I'm sure you don't want to feel like the fifth wheel in this situation. You should confront him and tell him how you feel:)
Good luck:)
Always here,
ok ive been going out off and on with this guy for 2 years, at the beginning he was the best boyfriend he was like whipped i guess well not completely but i knew he cared, and since august hes been COMPLETELY different he never calls me texts me or anything im in highschool and i see him everyday and sometimes he acts like im not even his girlfriend.. ik ur going to say breakup with him but honestly i think that will make matters worse bc this new girl came to our school shes latina and shes georgous and to make it worse, hes the captain of the football team.. and he has all of the guys wrapped around his finger in our grade and SHE LIKES HIM. they stare at eachother all the time. whenever i ask him about her hes always like no i dont like her kelly stop asking me. I believe him bc he never lies to me but still it doesnt change the fact that he treats me completely different now. In the summer i brokeup with him and liked 3 different guys but i never hooked up or anything with them. like 3 weeks ago tim told me that he was still upset ad he wanted a break and then we got back together like 2 days later. idk whats going on but i need advice how to not focus or like play hard to get with him more bc i think he knows now that he can get me whenever he wants please help me im open to any advice. and ive already tried talking to him about it a million times and hes just like, ill change babe ughh
THANK YOU SO MUCH IN ADVANCE this has been going on for to long.
Okay, well he needs to get his priorities straight, you say you've tried talking to him and he's says he'll change, but does he actually ever make an effort to change? You say you two have been going out for two years, it's possible he's just going through a phase in which he doesn't know what to do anymore, guys get that way after a long period of time. I say that if he hasn't actually made an effort to change his bad habits of ignoring you and not treating you like his girlfriend, than maybe it's time you just lay it flat on him, don't ask him to change, tell him that if he doesn't start to improve and make you feel more like you exist you're no longer going to stick around. You can't take any of his "I'll change for you" crap, cause if he's not actually gonna change, there's no reason for you to stick around. You don't deserve that.
I really hope everything works out for you, if you need anymore help all you have to do is message me:)
Always here,