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i love him...
16,f
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now. Recently he went to visit his mom, who lives over 4 hours away from me. His mom had absolutely nothing to do with him until it came time for him to testify in court to help decide whether she would be able to keep her other children. Well, he was originally supposed to stay for a weekend only, but it turned into four weeks. He came back on our one year anniversary and he had been here for only 5 days when he and his dad got into a fight. They always fight, but this time my boyfriend decided to move out. To his moms. I’m really scared I wont be able to be strong enough to handle him being gone. I already miss him so much and he hasn’t even been gone a whole day yet. Also, my parents gave him the option of living in my house, rent free. They offered to buy him a vehicle and help him get a job. We even bought him a cell phone. He says he wants to finish school in my hometown, but he can’t live with his dad. So then why did he turn my parents invitation down? I love this boy but I’m so scared that something bad will happen. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.
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It's tough to judge the family lives of others- you don't live with them, you don't really know what goes on in their house. Maybe his dad is abusive or an alcoholic? You don't know his dad as well as he does, so therefore you should support his decision. Maybe his mom is now better suited to be a mom to him than his dad was. If your boyfriend thinks that his decision is right, then respect it.
I think he may have refused your parents offer because he didn't want to be a burden. He might be uncomfortable with the idea of someone outside of his family taking care of him. It's hard to know what he was thinking unless you ask.
Tell him that you don't want to lose him and that you'll always be there for him. Reassure him that you want your relationship to last, and if you both make an effort, that it will.
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It's very understandable how this would be hard for you, so you have every right to be scared. But you have to respect your boyfriend for his decisions. This is hard for you, but imagine how hard this is for him. He might not have taken your parents up on their offer because at this moment he wants to get as far away as possible from his father. The best you can do right now is just be there for him, talk to him and be that goodness in his life, be that someone who he can come talk to(Not that you're not that person already) but just help him out by staying there for him. After a while has gone by, if things still haven't changed, then you can ask questions. Just know that as long as your there for him right now, that's all he really needs.
I hope everything works out:)
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