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there's this guy..long story.. :(
Hey. Ok, so I'm 15/F. So here's the background story. Last year in 8th grade, I really liked this guy, we'll call him..Jim. Ok so I reallyyyyy liked him and we had all of our classes together. And later on I found out that he liked me. But we both never atmited it to each other. And he had a girlfriend so that was a factor also. Then a little more than half-way through the year, one of my best friends, we'll call her...Jenna, she started to like him. I was really mad because she knew I liked him. So they were going to start going out, even though he had a gf, he was going to break up with her for Jenna. Haha, it's really not as bad as it sounds, the whole him breaking up with her for Jenna. But w/e. But Jim and Jenna never went out. So skippin by a little bit to this year, freshman year in highschool. So at the begging of the year, Jim and I didn't have that many classes together. But we still talked every once and a while. And he was going out with someone, but they broke up. Skipping to now. Ok, so here's my problem. I STILL LIKE HIM, A LOT. And he's dating someone!! And he seems really happy. And I always try to tell myself I'm happy for him, but seriously, idc how corny this sounds, my heart is telling me that I still reallyyy like him, and my head's telling me I don't. But he always makes fun of me in a joking way, but idk, it kinda hurts my feelings. But yet I still like him. I'm CRAZY! And I really want to tell him. But I don't want to ruin anything between him and his gf now. I probably woudn't but still. I don't know what to do! Everytime I see him I think about all the fun times we had together in 8th grade and stuff. And I try to tell myself to stop living in the past, but it never works! So please! What should I do???? If he ever breaks up with her, I might tell him, but idk. I'm not to good around guys. I suck at talking to them for some reason. I reallly think i'll never have a bf. It makes me sad! My friends tell me that I will someday. But that's just not happening. Please help! Thanks. Sorry if this was so long!
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If you decide to tell him, wait till he's not seeing someone. Don't worry, I went through high school and no relationship there EVER lasts forever... just wait. If you tell him, be prepared for him to shoot you down. People change from middle school to high school and he may not feel the same way anymore.
I recommend finding someone else. Someone not attached to this guy at all, which means no friends of his, no siblings, etc. At fifteen a heart doesn't really know how to choose someone, it just wants someone... anyone. If you can move on, but lapse back to him, then I'd suggest trying. There's just something about being fifteen that makes you go batty. ^_^ I remember all too well.
-Sami, 19
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Okay, do you still talk to this guy a lot?Hang around with him out of school, that sort of thing, if not you should,if you are already that's already a great step. The trick is to find out as much about him as possible(not in a stockerish way) but as a friend, try seeing the difference between the way he acts around you compared to the way he acts around other girls. If there's not that big a difference then it's possible he may like you, but don't get your hopes too high, it's hard not to but really try. It's hard having a crush, believe me, I know but you said you're in your freshman year, you've still got sooooo much time to like guys to have them like you, to go out with guys...don't worry talking to guys might seem like the hardest thing in the world, but you'll get use to it, try be-friending more guys throughout highschool. Now about this guy you're stuck on right now, try not to let this over power every though in your mind, if it already has, try distracting yourself by going for walks, listening to music, write a journal. For now just try being really good friends with this guy, with time you might become more than friends with him or you might not but belive me, there are so many great guys out there you'll be sure to find one. For now just keep your true friends close and enjoy life throughout highschool!
Hope I could help, good luck!
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